Will situation - getting desperate for advice!

geoffky

phone the usa embassy and ask.

Sitbh

floss2 wrote: »

How often have you contacted your stepmother?

Since his death. I have called her maybe 4 or 5 times (answered twice). I have e-mailed her about 7 times (sometimes initiating, twice in reply to brief e-mails she has sent me.. yet no response).

I understand she is also going through a very tough time as this was her husband who died. Her mother died last year also. As a psychologist I would've thought she'd have coping strategies and the knowledge to handle this, so i've ruled out the option of her going completely depressed-mode and just living as a mole.

geoffky wrote: »

phone the usa embassy and ask.

Not a bad suggestion. I have e-mailed Indiana state government help center but i'll seek out a number tomorrow for the US embassy and see if i can get some help off them.

daska wrote: »

You could probably do worse than to ask for help on a forum there. A quick google found http://indianaprobate.com/IndianaProbateForum/tabid/70/Default.aspx.

Thanks for the link! I've posted on there. The entire forum has about 6 threads so i don't know if there's any active members but it's worth a shot!

I really appreciate all the help in this thread. Such an awkward/messy situation - not what i wanted at all.

blossomhill_2

Sorry for your loss - what you really need to find out is if there were executors and if the executors lawfully wound up your dad's estate.
They may or may not be your s/mum, but your issue is not really with her, it is with the way the estate was managed after his death and you need reassurance that it was wound up lawfully and in accordance with his wishes.

mountainofdebt

Sitbh wrote: »

I understand she is also going through a very tough time as this was her husband who died. Her mother died last year also. As a psychologist I would've thought she'd have coping strategies and the knowledge to handle this, so i've ruled out the option of her going completely depressed-mode and just living as a mole.

sorry but I find this comment completely patronising.

No-one knows how they will react in a situation and whilst she may know the theory of coping strategies, its a completely different situation when faced with the problem in your personal life.

That's why advice given that contain the words "well I would...." should be taken with a huge amount of salt - after all the advice giver doesn't have to live with the consequences should the situation go belly up.

Sitbh

mountainofdebt wrote: »

sorry but I find this comment completely patronising.

No-one knows how they will react in a situation and whilst she may know the theory of coping strategies, its a completely different situation when faced with the problem in your personal life.

That's why advice given that contain the words "well I would...." should be taken with a huge amount of salt - after all the advice giver doesn't have to live with the consequences should the situation go belly up.

I'm not saying there isn't a chance it has completely crushed her into living underground. I'm just saying it's highly unlikely. She's a very brash American hard-!!! and always has the brutally truthful answers to anything and everything. Plus i think it's wishful thinking, giving into the possibility that she it too upset to even make contact with me. (edit: i should finish the last sentence off and say the alternative to not contacting me is what im assuming is she has decided to cut the ties and is not dealing (or not telling me how she is dealing) with my dads posessions.)