Potty training at night advice

sooty&sweep

Hi

Children will do it when they are ready. Please be careful not to get into a competition with other parents as to when your children is dry at night. All children are different. Its not something they can control until their little bodies have developed properly.
My son was dry at night before he started primary school and it just clicked. My daughter is now 6 and she's dry most nights but I'm still getting wet beds every so often. She was still using pull ups every night when she started school. I've spoken to the school nurse about it and aparently its not uncommon and they won't start to look for problems until they're about 7.
There is lots of advice around but one of the key things is not to stress your child over it because that does make it worse.
Jen

zoesmummy_2006

my sons 3.5 too and is dry in the day and wants to go without his nappy at night, to the point where i find him stripped off and nappy on the floor. so the other night i went for it when i found him asleep in his pants, pjs and nappy on the floor. Pampers bed mat and potty next to him. I even tried the puttin him on the potty but it didnt work. And within a couple hrs he was wet through, and still fast asleep so i definately dont think he's quite ready yet. I know he'll manage it when he's ready, just like my daughter did x

BitterAndTwisted

flutterby_lil wrote: »

Sorry I disagree, my 3 and a half year old nipper, a boy, is dry at night.....

Well, congratulations.

Eh, perhaps I really should have said "most 3 1/2 year old nippers". Not all kids are the same and it disturbs when I think parents are treating all this as if theres was some sort of immutable bench-mark or even a competition. It isn't.

Mojisola

sooty&sweep wrote: »

Children will do it when they are ready. Please be careful not to get into a competition with other parents as to when your children is dry at night. All children are different. Its not something they can control until their little bodies have developed properly.

This is so important!

A child can't stay dry until his body has matured, no matter how much he wants to.

There is a genetic link - if either parent was later than average in being dry through the night, there's a higher chance of their children being late in development.

tsstss7

My oldest was dry day and night by 2 my middle child dry at night by 2 1/2 but not in the day until 3 1/2 so continence can really vary. In my experience you can only try. As long as they have easy access to a potty/loo for the first morning wee then if they need to and have reached that point of development then they will be dry at night (after a few hiccups). I found night dryness easier with both kids because of this.

I didn't use pullups for night because in my experience they just use it like a nappy and not bother to use the potty.

JC9297

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Well, congratulations.

Eh, perhaps I really should have said "most 3 1/2 year old nippers". Not all kids are the same and it disturbs when I think parents are treating all this as if theres was some sort of immutable bench-mark or even a competition. It isn't.

I actually think most are dry at night by 3 1/2 (bar odd accidents), but there is a significant minority who are not. My youngest son was 2 1/2 when we forgot to put a nappy on before he went to bed one night (he used to like being without right up to bedtime), he stayed dry and never wore another night time nappy. He'd never had a dry nappy previously.

My eldest son is autistic and was in nappies until 9 or 10. His nappies were always soaking in the morning and if we'd waited for a dry one he'd probably still be wearing them at 19. I decided to take them away altogether and lo and behold he stayed dry.

Mojisola

JC9297 wrote: »

My eldest son is autistic and was in nappies until 9 or 10. His nappies were always soaking in the morning and if we'd waited for a dry one he'd probably still be wearing them at 19. I decided to take them away altogether and lo and behold he stayed dry.

So all paediatricians need to do is tell parents to take the night-time nappies away and all children will be dry through the night? Well, that's easy.

fluffnutter

Have you ever tried not putting him in a pull-up at night? If so, what happens? Urinating during the night is all about whether he wakes up or not. Basically, if he doesn't wake when he needs the loo, he'll wet himself. If he does wake up, he's got a good chance of being dry. However, by putting him in pull-ups, he might be waking, knowing he's in the pull-up and just letting go. If he's just in pyjamas it might prompt him to use the potty or loo.

If he's not waking, but wees in his sleep, chances are he's just not ready to be dry at night yet. It can take a while, particularly with boys.

fluffnutter

Mojisola wrote: »

So all paediatricians need to do is tell parents to take the night-time nappies away and all children will be dry through the night? Well, that's easy.

JC9297 has a point (see my above post). Her son might have been wetting himself simply because he knew he was in a nappy. Taking this away solved the problem for them.

This won't work for every child - it depends on whether they're waking or not when their bladder's full.

daska

Some kids are dry day and night at an early age and some children, like my 8 year old niece, continue to sleep through even if they're in a soaking wet bed and need medical help to overcome their problems - not that you'd know there was anything wrong with her from just looking. Her older sister was dry by 2 I think. Every child matures at their own rate, it's worth trying it with no nappy but don't make a big deal of it if it doesn't work just yet.