Getting over the embarassment

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SailorSam wrote: »

It's even more embarrassing when you realise you've just said 'Sorry' to the lampost.

or when you trip up on the pavement and turn and glare at the paving stone

No I think I would be more embarrassed if I couldn't buy what I wanted because I didn't have enough money.
I am always amazed at the amount of young folk who carelessly discard pennies and five ps outside a paper shop.I happily pick up anything I have seen on the pavement and put into my 'penny tin ' at home when filled it buys my grandchildren ice creams on holiday.To think someone wouldcome and suggest that you should use a machine at the cost of 10% to change money up is ludicrous.You go to a supermarket to save as much as you can not spend more than you need to My two Dds call me Frua Frugal but know that because of my sensible ways I can live fairly comfortably without any debt.I would no more dream of wasting cash needlessly than I would throw good food away.\you are the sensible one and carry on doing what you do.The ones who spend too much are the ones who end up in Carey Street not the sensible folk

tessie_bear

hi...dont worry about 5 years ago dh and i paid off our mortgage...this was done by mega frugalness...i lost count of the pitying looks i got from people on the tills and other customers i feel we got the last laugh when the deeds to our house arrived and a note thanking us for clearing the mortgage....keep on saving good luck

valk_scot

It's people who waste their money and then run up debts that should be embarrassed, not us.

One school gate mum I know complains that she has to buy all her food ready made at M&S because she hasn't time to cook, redecorates her house (and changes the furniture too!) most years, will only buy her kids' clothes out of Gap and Boden, has a cleaner, has two holidays abroad every year and then moans about how hard she has to work to pay for it all and how her credit card debts are huge. Pardon me? Her OH earns twice what my OH does and she's got a good job while I'm a SAHM. Yet she also moans about how "lucky" I am that I don't have to work. Oh yeah, and how does that come about I ask myself? She wouldn't be seen dead in a M&S top, let alone Primark, and she thinks charity shops are for beggars.

Bitsy_Beans

LisaJane wrote: »

my boyfriend teased me the other day for loving this forum! he says it's full of saddos taking sachets of ketchup home from mcd's! i promptly corrected him! he would laugh if i told him i now take my makeup off with half a wipe rather than a whole one and then use the used wipe to have a quick wipe around the bathroom sink and taps! but i'm the one laughing cos i now only have to buy wipes half as much!

:eek: buy a Maccy D's??? Your boyfriend has it all wrong. Make it from scratch at home via the Takeaway Secret book. Might suggest he actually gets his facts right before opening his mouth

Went with DD's nursery class to do forest school and we walked a different way via the streets. that single walk yielded 6p in loose change on the floor. One of the helpers said they wouldn't pick up loose change but I pointed out the woman who lived on a £1 a day for a year.........over 12 months I believe she picked up over £100 in small change. I think it would be worth it for that you do have to do the walking though :rotfl:

valk_scot

Re the loose change thing...we live over a small corner shop that's popular with school kids and most mornings I can pick up 5-10p worth of coppers from the pavement outside the door. Since when did kids feel a penny wasn't worth putting in their pocket? I keep an old sweetie jar inside the storm door for these and when it gets full, usually once per year, we take it to the local cat rescue.

valentina

We collect all 1p, 2p, and 5p coins then when there's enough, bag them up and take them to the building society (no charge) - they only take 5 bags at a time but that's ok 'cos that's all we've usually got!

Uniscots97

weren't the self-scan installed in supermarkets for 2 reasons?

1) so that less experienced staff could be used to supervise the self-scan i.e. 6 self-scan are supervised by 1 member of staff compared to 6 manned check-outs with 6 staff
2) it was so the supermarkets were self-funded for change as the banks charge them for change.


so to me by putting change in, you're doing the supermarket a favour.

pelirocco

unixgirluk wrote: »

weren't the self-scan installed in supermarkets for 2 reasons?

1) so that less experienced staff could be used to supervise the self-scan i.e. 6 self-scan are supervised by 1 member of staff compared to 6 manned check-outs with 6 staff
2) it was so the supermarkets were self-funded for change as the banks charge them for change.


so to me by putting change in, you're doing the supermarket a favour.

Probably not tbh , they would rather have card payments , saves them time in bagging up cash for banking . Thats one of the reasons they offer cash back at the tills

Not that I am knocking paying at the self checkouts with change , i think its a good idea

thejames

skyvicky123 wrote: »

Compared to some of my friends I am very thrifty I think but struggle to get over the embarassment of trying to save money. I know it's silly but I still find it really difficult if I feel like people are judging me. Does anybody else get this?

For example I paid for my shopping at Tesco using the self checkout tonight. I got rid of about £10.00 worth of very small change to buy some bits I needed, but I drew so much attention from the staff that one of them came over and pointed out the coinstar machine. to which i replied that this way I don't lose 10%! However I could feel myself going red in having to justify myself and couldn't get out of there quick enough.

I also hunt for reduced bargains which my friends seem to think is really odd, and i'm happy to find a bargain in a charity shop too but I swing between being proud and wanting to tell of my bargain to not wanting anyone to find out!

Some people must have money to burn! With food prices having gone up so much we would not be able to afford meat more than a couple of times a week without my reduced bargains and we earn a good salary. I wonder why more people don't try to be thrifty, and why people are still so wary about letting others know about how they save money?

There probably like me and in debt and wishing they were more like you! Be proud x

Sambucus_Nigra

skyvicky123 wrote: »

For example I paid for my shopping at Tesco using the self checkout tonight. I got rid of about £10.00 worth of very small change to buy some bits I needed, but I drew so much attention from the staff that one of them came over and pointed out the coinstar machine. to which i replied that this way I don't lose 10%! However I could feel myself going red in having to justify myself and couldn't get out of there quick enough.

I don't get the responses that you are getting, but I've been doing this long enough to know what to respond if approached.

In fact I'm going to use my change in a supermarket this week, really slowly, near to the Coinstar just in order to retort 'you'd have to be pretty thick to lose 10% of your cash in that and then come in here to spend your money, don't tell me you do that - oh dear oh dear oh dear *shaking head and laughing. I do hope you don't have a part time job as a financial adviser'....or something of that ilk. Saying that, I think I look scarey enough that they probably wouldn't dare approach me with that nonsense....