Please can you take your shoes off

TITEASCRAMP

haha I've already done the cheap slipper thing. MIL is the worst.

So at least its not me then. I can't see how it offends either, but it does seem too.
I'm made to feel that because of this request that I'm making ppl feel uncomfortable and un welcome.

gingin_2

I find it hard, too. Most of our visitors I know well and tend to know our ways and the kid's friends seem to be happy to throw their shoes off in the hallway. If it's adults I don't know so well, I tend to let it pass and not make a deal about it.

I do know people who have a slipper basket in the hallway so they can offer visitors a pair of slippers to borrow.

lady1964

newcook wrote: »

how about 'hiya, come on in, pop your shoes by the front door and I'll stick the kettle on'

Or tell those that moan to put some carrier bags over their shoes!

We live in China and our apartment has all wooden floors. When any service people come in, they put elasticated plastic bags over their shoes. We had to do the same when we were viewing apartments, or take our shoes off - bit embarrasing one day, I'd put my Uggs on with no socks

BJV

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

Was wondering the best way of asking this question. I have a no shoes policy at my house. When I come in I take my out door shoes off on the mat at the back of the door.
I would like all my visitors to do the same.

We are exactly the same. Our streets are in some places not very nice and even though we have wooden floors which I can mop and detox I still don't want the grime walking though the house.

I always say " hope you don't mind but we do not have shoes in the house", my friends all think I am a bit like Monica and have just a little OCD on cleaning so they normaly just laugh.

If they don't and they don't respect my wishes then they are not really true friends after all we all have our own ways and when in Rome!:A

TITEASCRAMP

Errata wrote: »

There is no way of asking every single person who visits the house to take their shoes off without offence.
What do you value more, your friends or your carpets?

If they have so little reguard for my feelings, then I would say carpet

Scrapaholic

I'm finding that more people are doing this without being asked now . It's a bit harder for me to ask the older people (70 ish) to take shoes off + I haven't asked them as it's probably a bit late to start . I would find it hard to ask now but will be getting a new carpet soon + think I'll say , would you mind slipping your shoes off please . I wouldn't be offended + take off my shoes in others homes , sometimes take a pair of soft slippers for myself . DD had a boyfriend who used to keep trainers on + I'd just cleaned carpet . I used to so much want to say , take your shoes off , but I never did , so cowardly of me.

CH27

I'd rather see friends & family and have them feel comfortable & welcome and have a grubby carpet than ask people to remove their shoes.

skylight

I find the worse culprits are those that expect you to take your shoes off at their house. Nan and a friend do this. They want shoes off; fair enough, its their home and so I bring my own slippers. But they get funny when I expect the same thing. "Oh, do you mind if I leave my shoes on love??". Erm... Yes. I do actually.

Mind you, I still have to remind the kids every time we walk into the house!

Peater

While there is no 'shoes-off' rule at mine, i automatically take mine off if i enter someone elses pad. Just seems polite.

fluffnutter

Errata wrote: »

There is no way of asking every single person who visits the house to take their shoes off without offence.
What do you value more, your friends or your carpets?

And what are these friends valuing more? Their friend's wishes and desire to care for her home or their 'right' to wear shoes?