Do you take keep from your children (working)

jase_31

Do you take keep from you children? (assuming adult working age), do you take a % of there income, or a fixed amount? Do you provide them with all household utilities/food foc?

McKneff

Mine have flown the nest now, last one went early last year.

She paid us £50 a week, She worked full time, bringing home about £900 a month.

We pay for her wedding,:eek:

I know who'se better off.

tanith

Absolutely I did when they lived at home, we took a fixed amount agreed by us all. The girls were hardly working before they left but their brother was with us for ages but paid his way from the off and ended up hardly eating at home but still paying us the same amount. He paid us £200 a month to start but that upped to £350 by the time he left (he offered to increase by the way) but he was on good money.

happy35

my son is 16 an still at school, I will be taking board/keep from him when he starts working

I would be taking a fixed amount unless wages are very low, and be providing all that I currently provide now

I was thinking of asking for about £20 pw when the time comes as that will replace my child benefit

BitterAndTwisted

This question comes up regularly. Opinion is divided. Most families come up with solutions which works for them and their attitude to cosseting or teaching young people the value of money. Wait and see.

I am not a parent so my opinion is worth less than dust but I say have them pay something. If everything comes to you free in life without any responsibilities for anything then nothing is of value.

vesper

I used to pay a quarter of my wage to my parents. That covered room, utilities and food. I paid everything else for my car and living.

LondonDiva

Going rate for me and my friends was 1/3 of all income AND helping out at home as a matter of course.

Mara69

Yes, my son paid £170 per month out of £700 per month earnings. Now he is unemployed he gives us £50 out of his £100 (ish) dole money per fortnight. He also does the majority of the housework as he is at home. Every adult family member should contribute to the household, in my opinion.

kingfisherblue

My daughter is 20 and works for an agency, so work can be sporadic. She pays £40 a week and helps out at home. When she finished her A levels, my income was (quite rightly) reduced as I no longer received CB or CTC for her. The amount was about £63 a week. I had a chat with her and told her that I didn't want to make a profit from her, but needed her to contribute to household expenses (I am a single parent and I'm on IS, as I care for my disabled son). She was quite willing to pay her way, and we agreed that £40 is a suitable amount. She also pays her own council tax - I am charged a non-dependent amount as my daughter works, so she pays this.

ciderwithrosie_2

Middle son is working, oldest away at Uni and youngest at College (looking for part-time work, but nothing about). I ask him for 100 quid a month, which is pretty reasonable I think, he doesn't earn a huge amount.

krlyr

I paid £200 a month - the deal was the same for all of us, we either stayed in fulltime education or we got a job and paid our way. I appreciate the way my mum went about it as it taught me to budget and prioritise my spending. I appreciated items like a mobile phone, computer, etc. because I had to save my money to buy them myself. I see my stepsisters who get bought all these fancy gadgets and clothes by their relatives and they leave them on the floor, lose them, break them, etc. because they have no idea what it takes to earn that money to buy them.
My mum was happy to cook for us if we wanted to eat with the rest of the family but if we didn't like what was on the menu or had other plans, we made our own. We had a certain amount of snack food in the cupboard and had to make it last the month or buy our own. Again, helped to have that independannce so when we moved out, we knew a good few basic dinner recipes and didn't end up in the deep end having to waste money on ready-meals or living off beans on toast.
I think my mum;s system really worked for us and if I wanted kids I think I'd have raised them in a similar way.