Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

lostinrates

chewmylegoff wrote: »

well, i'm only using my degree in that you needed a degree to get a training contract to do an ACA qualification. i don't think i've ever applied anything specific from my degree (biotechnology) to my job!

on another point, i could have easily done the degree in one year, or worked full time and done it in the evenings over three years IMO. i'm glad i didn't have to do that, it would have been rubbish.

Wow, but your degree wou
D be really intersting if you ever wanted to go in to science ip rights.

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

I liked the pickles, but not the rest of the burger.

I'll share a burger with you then - the pickles are the one bit I don't like to eat!

Some of my friends (a couple) want to move house. They've acquired an extra teenager to live with them (permanently) and need to move somewhere larger, but want to stay in the same school catchment as they are (and I am) at the moment. I am following their house-hunting process with interest. I enjoy spending time on RM with them, and would love to go and view houses with them if I could get rid of my kids (only temporarily for the viewing, natch), but recently it has got a little more emotionally complicated for me.

The house next door to me is up for sale. It is very similar to mine, although hasn't been extended quite so much. It's the right size for what they want, and he'd be happy with it, but it doesn't suit her taste. She doesn't want to be over this side of the park. She doesn't like the open-treaded staircase. She thinks the house is boring because it's 1960s/70s and the house they live in now has period features.

On one level, I am perfectly well aware that different people have different tastes in houses and that's fine. In fact, I know I wouldn't like to live in their house - it wouldn't suit me at all. When I was looking for a house myself, I eliminated all sorts of houses that other people liked, because they didn't have particular things that were important to me.

However, while I don't care at all when she says she doesn't like next-door's garden (which is quite different from mine), I find myself taking it personally when she says she doesn't like things about next door house that are the same for my house. I can quite easily dismiss those feelings, and they're not a problem to me, but it's interesting that they occur at all. I didn't foresee them, and they took me by surprise when she and I and another friend were all looking at the RM pics together and they were agreeing with each other about how much they didn't like the staircase.

It's not even as though I particularly chose the staircase, or the age of the house, or which side of the park to live. Those were all things I didn't mind about, and happened to come with this house that I chose for other reasons.

Emotional responses to houses are strange things, aren't they?

SingleSue

Doozergirl wrote: »

I agree. How good is a cheap plate of food for everyone concerned, really? The animal, the server, the eater?

If we do have an expensive meal, it's the meal and the evening I remember, I've never remembered the poo! One of the best afternoons I've ever spent with H was at Gordon Ramsay's flagship. I don't regret a penny of it. I've regretted many cheaper meals out and wish I'd saved so many of them up, when I was just being lazy, to have a lovely meal somewhere.

Aside from what you can afford, I think whether you see it as providing value does depend on whether people see food as an indulgence or as fuel. I love food, I'm always thinking about the next meal I love beautiful rooms in lovely locations and being spoiled too

I do like Nandos though. I only buy free range chicken at home, but I can't help it. If there isn't the budget for posh food, you can take me to Nandos. I wonder what everyone's round trip for a Nandos is :cool:

I've never been to Nandos either!

When we push the boat out, it is for a carvery at a restaurant a few miles up the road (£9 ish a head).....ever so fussy eater James, piles his plate high and absolutely loves it, so they must be doing something right.

At the moment, I am trying to be subtle and suggesting (in a round about way) that we go to our ultra posh hotel for Mothers Day. Last year James gave me the money to go out for dinner at the all you can eat chinese buffet but he was unable to go as he was working.

Doozergirl

michaels wrote: »

Hmm - not sure you should be so dismissive of Nando's without having tried it even once?

It does taste like proper food. It's not like McD's. Olives, Hummous and pitta, salad pitta with chicken breast, pineapple, fresh corn on the cob, pasteis de nata all washed down with a big glass of the Vinho Verde we drink at the IL's place. The hot PeriPeri sauce is like a drug to me, I stick my fingers in it and lick it off :rotfl:

KFC is evil.

SingleSue

Davesnave wrote: »

At college I quite enjoyed writing essays, as the process fascinated me. It was a masochistic kind of fascination, though.

I'd marvel at the way my brain would seemingly fail to absorb anything, and yet when I'd slept on my reading for a few weeks, the bones of an essay would begin to form. Then, when I felt I was ready, it was just a case of sitting down in the quiet around midnight and starting.....

I'd work through the night, almost in a trance, with papers and notes everywhere. I'd smoke a pack of cigarettes too. By dawn, the job would often be done, at least in rough, but I'd have no clear idea how. Things would just fit into place.

I sold quite a few A -type essays for favours at the college bar. The process may have been interesting, but I suppose, secretly, I admired those who could write their essays without all the rigmarole, and with the radio on! :rotfl:

That is pretty much how I do my essays now....but without the ciggies.

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

I'll share a burger with you then - the pickles are the one bit I don't like to eat!

Some of my friends (a couple) want to move house. They've acquired an extra teenager to live with them (permanently) and need to move somewhere larger, but want to stay in the same school catchment as they are (and I am) at the moment. I am following their house-hunting process with interest. I enjoy spending time on RM with them, and would love to go and view houses with them if I could get rid of my kids (only temporarily for the viewing, natch), but recently it has got a little more emotionally complicated for me.

The house next door to me is up for sale. It is very similar to mine, although hasn't been extended quite so much. It's the right size for what they want, and he'd be happy with it, but it doesn't suit her taste. She doesn't want to be over this side of the park. She doesn't like the open-treaded staircase. She thinks the house is boring because it's 1960s/70s and the house they live in now has period features.

On one level, I am perfectly well aware that different people have different tastes in houses and that's fine. In fact, I know I wouldn't like to live in their house - it wouldn't suit me at all. When I was looking for a house myself, I eliminated all sorts of houses that other people liked, because they didn't have particular things that were important to me.

However, while I don't care at all when she says she doesn't like next-door's garden (which is quite different from mine), I find myself taking it personally when she says she doesn't like things about next door house that are the same for my house. I can quite easily dismiss those feelings, and they're not a problem to me, but it's interesting that they occur at all. I didn't foresee them, and they took me by surprise when she and I and another friend were all looking at the RM pics together and they were agreeing with each other about how much they didn't like the staircase.

It's not even as though I particularly chose the staircase, or the age of the house, or which side of the park to live. Those were all things I didn't mind about, and happened to come with this house that I chose for other reasons.

Emotional responses to houses are strange things, aren't they?

If we all wanted the same house only one person would afford it!

Your house is perfect for you, space to grow into, light, able to lock up and leave it for a holiday. And no oneyou know too well right next door . Privacy is a great thing:D


Edit: fwiw i know there ios a lot about mine for people to dislike, besides the work needing doing. Topsy turvy floor s distress some people, not maximising bedroom numbers in the plans. That there are rooms not open plan bioger spaces down stairs....it can be quite a trek from the cheese room to the front oor, that there is no hallway and that the parking is a distance from the house.

Tbh, if i were building a house i wouldn't build this one, but i still care for it. Similarly, if i were asked to put ideal man on paper it would not be dh...but in realtiy of course it is. Like all important things and people, you adapt to it as well as adapting it to you sometimes.

lostinrates

Its just occured to me. When we get a lot of posts on thie thread they make us lock it. When are they going to lock me down?

Doozergirl

LydiaJ wrote: »

On one level, I am perfectly well aware that different people have different tastes in houses and that's fine. In fact, I know I wouldn't like to live in their house - it wouldn't suit me at all. When I was looking for a house myself, I eliminated all sorts of houses that other people liked, because they didn't have particular things that were important to me.

It's good to be different. Your house is different and you've picked it for all the right reasons.

People are so keen to have houses that all look the same. No offence to those who like recently built executive homes with beige carpets and samey kitchens and owning the same car as the neighbours, but conforming properly isn't really my thing.

I think it's much more important for you to like something because it talks to you personally than to like something because it appears to suit other people. Open tread staircases are properly cool, but they won't realise that because I bet they're looking for something that they think other people will like. You're FiT, hot and cool

IveSeenTheLight

vivatifosi wrote: »

Tablets and phones are fine, but they aren't great for Excel. My problem is that most of what I need to do requires a keyboard and Excel. Because I use lots of columns I also need a big screen. At this point it gets very expensive:(:(.

Can't you dual screen / change the resolution?
You could also create macro's to adjust the format quickly.

I've had to utilise many column spreadsheet / pivot tables in the past and generally have been able to handle with a single / dual screen set up.

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

If we all wanted the same house only one person would afford it!

Your house is perfect for you, space to grow into, light, able to lock up and leave it for a holiday. And no oneyou know too well right next door . Privacy is a great thing:D


Edit: fwiw i know there ios a lot about mine for people to dislike, besides the work needing doing. Topsy turvy floor s distress some people, not maximising bedroom numbers in the plans. That there are rooms not open plan bioger spaces down stairs....it can be quite a trek from the cheese room to the front oor, that there is no hallway and that the parking is a distance from the house.

Tbh, if i were building a house i wouldn't build this one, but i still care for it. Similarly, if i were asked to put ideal man on paper it would not be dh...but in realtiy of course it is. Like all important things and people, you adapt to it as well as adapting it to you sometimes.

Doozergirl wrote: »

It's good to be different. Your house is different and you've picked it for all the right reasons.

People are so keen to have houses that all look the same. No offence to those who like recently built executive homes with beige carpets and samey kitchens and owning the same car as the neighbours, but conforming properly isn't really my thing.

I think it's much more important for you to like something because it talks to you personally than to like something because it appears to suit other people. Open tread staircases are properly cool, but they won't realise that because I bet they're looking for something that they think other people will like. You're FiT, hot and cool

I know. I'm not a very conformist person either. I knew exactly what I wanted - it was different from what everyone else was after and that didn't bother me. The conversation with my friends didn't change an iota of how I feel about my house. I just had a little moment of feeling, "Oh, so my friends think I have terrible taste - they think my house is boring, they hate my stairs, and they don't like my part of town. Well, that's great!"

When I put the feeling aside, there was still space to feel a faint sense of surprise that my friend puts a higher priority on the style of the stairs than the number and size of the rooms. I totally respect her right to feel that way - it just doesn't make sense to me.