HELP PLEASE!!! Will son's DLA affect Income Support & related benefits? :-(

Mics_chick

bargainsneeded wrote: »

hey dont regret i certainly dont regret what i said, you posted the query because you were worried or concerned did that particular poster put your mind at rest or even give any advice at all. no! they simply saw u me and others as money grabbers and took the assumption we spent all the money on nights out and bingo??????? u will notice that they did not come back with any comment after yours or mine, because the fact was they were just out to criticize(sp?). posters like that u can do without.

I don't regret my OP bargain - I just meant I regretted my bit of a rant at unhelpful posters but not coz of what I said but of giving them any satisfaction that I was rattled by them

Mics_chick

Dognobs wrote: »

I will come back it seems that most on this board that get DLA for kids regard the money as theirs it is not, it is for the child and TBF most people I see on benifits (and I see more than most!) seem to have new phones, desiger gear, go out down the pub, smoke, have sky tv and live a good life! And this board seems to have more than its fair share!

Explain yourself then Dog coz you seem to expect peeps on benefits to explain themselves... why do you see more than most? Do you work with peeps on benefits or just work next door to the Job Centre? :rotfl:

I don't think you have even bothered to read the whole of this thread coz I've already said I don't drink coz it doesn't agree with me anymore, I don't smoke coz I never have, I don't go to the pub, bingo, club or anywhere except it's to take my kids to a playbarn, swimming lessons, scouts or clubs run by local charities.
As for the rest I don't wear designer gear coz I have taste (ie, not a CHAV!! :eek:) and I think they're a complete rip-off anyway and lastly I don't have Sky TV and have never had it...

Come on Dognobs come and justify your comments coz you expect others to justify their lifestyle!!!

Dognobs

I will explain myself, I get up at 3:15am to goto work, I earn money for the hard work I do, If I did not do my job correctly I would be out of a job or get a tellin off and not get any money. However most people on benifits feel it is the god given right to the money they get and when questioned or challanged if they are actually entitled to it or asked to do something for the hundreds of pounds they get they moan, winge, appeal and find ways around why they should not go out and get a job. As for seeing more than most I was a delivery driver at ASDA for a year and about 80% of the customers i delivered to where on benifits.

charlieismydarling

Have you never claimed any benefits yourself then Dognobs?

How do you know that the people you delivered to were on benefits? Odd that.

susannthe3cs

You know what and this will probably cause a lot of abuse to be hurled at me but I'm going to have to say my piece anyway
I worked 40 hours a week for the nhs doing various shifts and having to beg and plead for time off to attend appointments with my son who was left disabled by meningitis in 2005! 4 doctors sent him away at 9 months old as havin nothin wrong with him and he has unfortunately been left disabled. One day after basically having had enough of begging and pleading arguing and having to miss appointments and caring for disabled kids all day and coming home to it and being up all night with a child that sleeps very little. I walked out of my job !
I am probably on the same money now and there for my child than I was for working full time how does that make me a bum it makes the system wrong, my sons dla gets spent on him and our family it doesn't get put away for him as he will probably always live at home.
But don't jump down peoples throats even if op did smoke drink and gamble that's her choice to do so do u not think that we would give our right arms tomorrow to have healthy children who didn't need DLA specialist care and limited childcare options available to us as I know I would, love to be able to go back to work tomorrow unfortunately that's not financially possible or practically so I volunteer for Homestart and the meningitis trust around appointments. Just because we are on benefits it does not make us bums.

susannthe3cs

Also op there's an amazing charity called the family fund whom u can apply to every year and they will provide an item for your son ie computer etc or washing machine x pm me if you want any further info x

FBaby

susannthe3cs wrote: »

You know what and this will probably cause a lot of abuse to be hurled at me but I'm going to have to say my piece anyway
I worked 40 hours a week for the nhs doing various shifts and having to beg and plead for time off to attend appointments with my son who was left disabled by meningitis in 2005! 4 doctors sent him away at 9 months old as havin nothin wrong with him and he has unfortunately been left disabled. One day after basically having had enough of begging and pleading arguing and having to miss appointments and caring for disabled kids all day and coming home to it and being up all night with a child that sleeps very little. I walked out of my job !
I am probably on the same money now and there for my child than I was for working full time how does that make me a bum it makes the system wrong, my sons dla gets spent on him and our family it doesn't get put away for him as he will probably always live at home.
But don't jump down peoples throats even if op did smoke drink and gamble that's her choice to do so do u not think that we would give our right arms tomorrow to have healthy children who didn't need DLA specialist care and limited childcare options available to us as I know I would, love to be able to go back to work tomorrow unfortunately that's not financially possible or practically so I volunteer for Homestart and the meningitis trust around appointments. Just because we are on benefits it does not make us bums.

I can sympathise with what you say, but at the same time, at least half of your troubles that led you to quit your job are faced by many people working full-time with children, but they don't get the opportunity to get the same income then they were getting at work thanks to entitlement to benefits.

I too work for the NHS and I too had many battles as a result of my employer making decisions about my job that make my life as a mum very difficult. I am constantly stressed in relation to organising my holidays, dealing with inset days, sorting out after school clubs etc... Jus this week, I have three situations that I will have to sort out:
- next monday, I have to take my DD to a physio appointment. It's at 4pm, the latest appointment they could give me. It is 1 1/4 away from my work with my DD school in between but out of the way. I am hoping to agree to work from home as I have a local meeting in the morning, but if the physio says we need to be back, it is going to become a problem. To add to this, I need to pick my son back at 5pm, won't make it, so will need to make arrangements for someone else to pick him up
- Friday, my son tennis instructor said that my son was showing real promising abilities above his age and really needed to move to the next group up. I was quite excited for him, until he told me the only two classes available are at 4:30... and there is no way I can make it back on time to pick him up and taking him, despite my starting work at 8am so he will have to stay where he is for the time being. Of course, he is dissapointed...
- just got a letter from his school. DS has been selected by his teacher (8 pupils amongst 100) to represent the sschool at a local exhibition. I was very pleased, until i read that he would be there 3:30, so parents could either pick kids up there (don't think so) or they would walk back to the school for 4:15... except that my son goes to an afterschool club outside of the school, is being picked up at 3:15 from the school, and they will certainly neither pick him up from the exhibition, nor come back to pick him up from the school later. Again, i will have to somehow find a way to sort this out or have to say he can't do it.

Here we go, just one week... I went back to work full-time an hour away from home when my DD was 9 months old, she had digestive problems that no clinician would take seriously and awoke screaming every nights until she was almost 2. I was the only one who could comfort her, so was up every night. Yet, I don't have the option to give up work because I wouldn't be entitled to any benefits to make up for my lost salary. Now of course i am not comparing myself to your circumstances as a mum, but what I am trying to say is that you might have found it very difficult even if your child didn't have a disability, yet you wouldn't have had the same option to give up your job that was given to you because of your child's disability.

susannthe3cs

No I wouldn't as that is why I stated the system is wrong I shouldn't get paid more for not workin than I did working An yes for me that option is there, but an option of support guaranteed appointments and available childcare should be available instead to make it eqsier to work x i basically had a nervous breakdown and felt swamped trying to do what i was doing 24/7, the NHS is the most unfamily friendly place to work for yet states that it is x childcare is also more of an issue as there aren't that many places that are qualified enough to deal with my sons problem even something as simple as sign language he has had to go to a school out of borough it is as you can imagine a nightmare having twins in different schools more than 15 mile appart and a DD at high school !

FBaby

Sorry for misinterpretating your post. I agree with you, many employers are really not encouraging commitment from their staff. I have found that this very much depends on your direct manager's personal circumstances. I have a lovely dad of 5 as a boss who was wonderful and now have a horrible, work obsessed childless old female boss, and things are very different.... on both sides... as I have found myself much less dedicated to my job working for her than I ever did when I worked for my other boss.

Mics_chick

charlieismydarling wrote: »

Have you never claimed any benefits yourself then Dognobs?

How do you know that the people you delivered to were on benefits? Odd that.

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Good one CIMD :T

Come on then Dognobs explain away.... we're waiting