Real life MMD: Should I pay for his day off?

scaryfairy

Please don't let your housemate or her boyfriend bully you into paying the idiot!! It was completely their fault for not letting you know he was staying over for heaven's sake. Your housemate should pay if anyone most definitely not you xx

Talent

Not your responsibility, not your problem. Don't even check if there is any one in the house in future. Tell them it's their problem and you are not interested. If you had left the house not locked properly to let himself out, how would the guy have locked up properly? He wouldn't of course. Would he have paid up if someone had got in because of that and nicked your laptop or jewellery?

akbrooker

Somebody suggests you're at fault for not doing a security check, asking what if she had left a window open? Let's assume she didn't - what else are you expected to do? Go into her bedroom every morning? Does she check yours for unexpected boyfriends?

You did the right thing and double locked the door when you left the house after her.

LittleMsStitch

Absolutely not – surely it was the flatmate’s responsibility to ensure that he had the means to exit the property – if she knew that he probably wasn’t going be leaving the house before her flatmate, she should have, for example, left him her key! At the very least, they could have informed the OP that he was staying over – appropriate arrangements could then have been made.

Also, someone mentioned earlier, if you hadn’t locked the house properly, would the boyfriend have paid some money towards replacing items had there been a burglary? I don’t think so!

Roz_Roz

I hope they read this, gutted!

I've been in a similar situation and agree with the majority here. You're probably a nice person and don't like conflict but this is a test to assert yourself, if you don't do it now it will keep happening if not with these chancers with some others down the line. Good luck.

pennystretcher

Even if you knew he was there, his girlfriend should have left her keys to him.

Even if you had left the doors unlocked when you left, how would he have locked the door behind him if he was last to leave without giving him your keys?!? (And why should you give him your keys - totally the girlfriend's responsibility) Or am I missing something obvious here?

Sambucus_Nigra

Why is he being left in your house on his own in the first place?

N.I.M

If you own the place give her her notice to move out as this is utterly out of order. If you don't then start looking for another place to live as this woman sounds like a leech. Ask her why she didn't leave her key behind for the BF to get out and why she didn't tell you he was there.

Lexis200

Faefae wrote: »

and if her housemate trusts her to lick the door surely she can trust her housemate to shut windows et

I'm not sure I'd trust someone to shut windows if they're going round licking doors

Thank you Faefae for a chuckle on a really naff morning x

ps - agree with pretty much everyone; boyfriend is trying it on and girlfriend is a numpty for not telling you he was there! Not your fault in the slightest. Perhaps they would like you to shout out every morning before work on the off-chance there's a random visitor hiding in a cupboard who may be locked in:D

Gresp

No, of course you shouldn't pay, for the reasons already given.

It's not your fault that your housemate is irresponsible and her boyfriend is a scrounger (not to mention a coward).

You could (quite rightly) have been criticised if you hadn't secured the house when you left. Even if you had knocked on her door to check if he was in (which you had no obligation to do), he would still probably have complained that you disturbed his lie-in.

If he persists with this ridiculous demand, politely point out some reasons you could be (but aren't) asking him for money - e.g. towards rent, bills, or possibly even (depending if they have broken any rules about guests staying) compensation for putting your tenancy/deposit at risk. Hopefully that'll shut them up!

If they still give you grief, console yourself in the thought of all the ridicule he'll be receiving at work.