Real life MMD: Should I pay for his day off?

Flibsey

epm-84 wrote: »

No if anything the man's girlfriend should give him the days pay. She should have told her house mate that she'd gone to work and left her boyfriend there before he got locked in.

agreed completely here.

johnjp

Mearsy21 wrote: »

If you left the door unlocked for the BF to exit, how would he have secured the property without a key?

A very valid point which literally has legal precedent.
Your flatmate is behaving in a very selfish manner to which you must not yield - her boyfriend is a wuss!
The answer is a definite - NO WAY!

Faefae

No you should not have to pay for their joint mistake.
One she should have let you know her boyfriend was staying over - what if you met him on a midnight run to the loo? I would scream the house down or whack them with sonething if there was another person I didn't expect in my house! Just because it's her boyfriend does not make his presence out of context for you and possibly a big shock. You shouldn't pay for her failure to inform you of a guest in your home.
Two he was having a cheeky lie-in because if he wasn't he would have heard you pottering about before leaving the house and the polite and or intelligent thing to do would be to call out 'good morning' to alert his presence. You shouldn't have to pay for his laziness or failure to set an alarm.
Three if his job and days leave was so important to him he would have found a way to get out- true intelligence is working out what to do when you don't know what to do. Window/ back door/ locksmith?

True she should do a security check but it would have been a break of trust to enter her housemates room (some houseshares have Yale locks on bedroom doors for safety) and if her housemate trusts her to lick the door surely she can trust her housemate to shut windows etc- personal responsibility is truly undervalued! She should have informed, he should have made his presence known!

Badger_Lady

1. He was not your guest or your responsibility. Even if your house has a relaxed rule with regards to randomers staying there alone (which I do not have at mine), his girlfriend has to look after his needs. She could have come back and helped him just as much as you could have, and if that was difficult for her so what? Her responsibility.

2. He hasn't lost a day's wages. He's lost a day's holiday. His salary is entirely unaffected - why should he get a day's worth of bonus out of you for that? If compensation were to be awarded, it would be relating to other things he could have spent his holiday on.

3. If he genuinely could not get out of the house at all, please change the locks you use. It terrifies me that some houses have absolutely no means of escape should there be a fire or other emergency. And yes some houses do exist - this exact scenario happened to a married couple I'm friends with, the wife went to work with both sets of keys by mistake and the husband had to call in sick because he literally couldn't get out. Terrifying!

redroselass

Flippin cheeky to ask in the first place. They should both have had the common courtesy to inform you of his presence. You are not a mind reader and so wasn't to know that he was there anyway.

JayD

Is she having a laugh?

She knew the morning lock up arrangements and yet she either didn't bother to tell you that her boyfriend was staying over, or she forgot. Either way it is her fault that he got locked in, not yours. You simply maintained the status quo in ignorance of the changed circumstance, so you have no blame in this whatsoever.

Badger_Lady

Oh yeah and 4. get a new housemate - this one's a troublemaker.

an1179

No for all the above reasons

liz545

I agree with what's already been said about the boyfriend being your flatmate's responsibility, and I don't think you should pay; particularly as she knew he was trapped in the house but "couldn't" (wouldn't) leave work to let him out. It's her responsibility to take care of her guests, and she needs to take ownership of her actions! I'd probably try and keep the peace at home, though, and say sorry that he got stuck in the house, and in future you'll make sure he's not locked in if they let you know he's there.

samantha.b.mcgregor

This depends... If you knew he was there then I'd say yes you should. If you didn't know he was there then absolutely not. If, as you say, it was an honest mistake then it's just one of those unfortunate things that happens!!