is asking someone out via email a bad way???

zoesmummy_2006

Nothing to do with my children, he met them on the occasions he was here, but its not anything to do with them. He obviously know i have them and that im a single mum from chatting when he was here.

I dont wanna compromise his job at all, he works for the council hence why ive been sooooo hesitant about everything. He did say today that hes looking at closing the case file on my issues now as they (touch wood!) Apear to have been resolved.

Think i might just have to give up this one lol but thanks for all the replies

scrappie_2

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

thank you, thats what ive been thinking about his work and him in general. He had my number so could have easily contacted me.

If he were to access your details via work and use them for personal use this would be a breach of the Data Protection Act. He could easily loose his job. So even if he was interested he possibly wouldn't want to take this risk which I think is kind of understanderble.

Don't give up - just ask.

What's the worse he can say 'no', and what have you lost - nothing.

On the other hand it could change you life.

On Saturday my friend is marrying the man who came to fit her new windows several years ago. For three days she would not stop going on about this guy - told her I would but her a bottle of vodka if she just asked him, so even if he said 'no' she won the vodka.

If the council are closing your case, just mention that it would be nice to meet up sometime as friends - the ball is well and truly in your court. He CANT use your details to contact you - you will have to make the first move.

I really hope you do - better than sitting there wondering 'what if...'

allison_white99

You don't win the lottery if you don't buy the ticket! Ask him out by email. Of course, don't sound desperate in it I think it is quite acceptable for women and men to ask over emails, text or even facebook. As for work finding out, in all my years at work, my superiors have never snooped on my emails and its unlikely that his bosses will. And anyway, even if his boss discovers, he wouldn't get into trouble because you initiated the email.

brians_daughter

Next time you have the chance to speak to him about the issues he's concerned with why don't you drop into conversation weekend plans? Ask if hes going out at weekend, say you are going x y or z pub with a friend... Does he ever go to said pub? Then say if he was out in said pub you may see him there for a catch up? But keep it light in conversation.

You seem chatty enough with him so it should be easy to do. That way if you bump into each other outside of work and something happens its outside of work. Also you need a willing mate who is prepared to sit in the pub with you lol

You would also get an indication if he was interested or not without the threat of risking his job or your pride (assuming you would need to still liaise with him in professional capacity again at some point?)

Do not email him tho - in my job it would be seen as very unprofessional if anyone found out.

shiny76

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

Nothing to do with my children, he met them on the occasions he was here, but its not anything to do with them. He obviously know i have them and that im a single mum from chatting when he was here.

I dont wanna compromise his job at all, he works for the council hence why ive been sooooo hesitant about everything. He did say today that hes looking at closing the case file on my issues now as they (touch wood!) Apear to have been resolved.

Think i might just have to give up this one lol but thanks for all the replies

Just email him, I can't see how he can be held responsible for someone sending him an unsolicited personal email to his work address. Even if you had mentioned the flirting then he could claim he was just being polite and it was mis-interpreted

Worst case scenario: He's flattered but not interested!

krlyr

I'd maybe email to say you appreciate his help with the work and would he be interested in meeting you for a drink as a thanks. If his company monitor his email, I don't see how that can be perceived as him taking advantage - if he's not interested, he could reply to say thanks but it's against company policy or something, gives him an easy out. If he is interested, he can let you know.

Seanymph

You can email his work and say that 'as the council is now closing your file you wondered if he could let you have an 'out of work' way of contacting him to stay in touch?'

Give him your mobile again.

Thank him for his help.

And see if he gives you a personal email or mobile number.

Half way there. Don't ask him out and appear a bunny boiler - but equally don't do nothing and lose the chance. Ask him for contact information 'outside work'. If he gives you a way to get hold of him then he's interested and you can wait because he'll ask you