Thoughts about current situation

LEJC

I actually agree with the previous poster who says if shes an estate agent and shes friendly with your relation then shes mor likely to try and show the house in a good light to potential buyers if shes selling it on behalf of a friend...

However having said that..a house is only worth what someone will pay for it...and I assume that the final acceptance of any offer would be made by whoever is acting on behalf of the previous owners and surely thats a decision she will not be making!

DCFC79

aliasojo wrote: »

And there's no harm in that as long as you base your thoughts on facts and figures rather than rumours and concerns over how many times she's been wed. Imo.

Well yeah, when it comes to it we will sit down with him and go through whats what.

Pee wrote: »

If he is happy to talk to you about it, then I can see that your advice regarding talking to a few agent's is good advice, but if he has found one he likes and your imput is unneeded, as usually a niece's imput regarding the sale of a house would be, then I would keep out of it.

My uncle was doing something that involved an area I am very familiar with and he asked for very little advice regarding it. Do I think that I am more commercially savvy than him and have a greater understanding of the area? Yes, I think I do. Do I think that he is capable to decide who he asks for advice and what advice he takes? I most certainly do.

He wont ask me for advice as I dont know enough about houses etc but he talks to other experienced people (related) about it. We have said we will help him with looking for somewhere to live in reagrds to transport links etc.

the_cat wrote: »

If the house has to be sold and therefore an estate agent of one sort or another must be used, why is it a bad thing for your relative to put business in the hands of someone he knows rather than a total stranger? Assuming of course that he pays the same sort of rate and gets the same sort of price that he might from any other?

Never mind what you think you know about her - you haven't met her so are in no position to form a rational view. What do you think of him? Is he in some way a vulnerable person, less than capable of making an adult decision? I assume he is the executor and deemed 'fit for duty' as it were. Assuming that he is, then it is really none of your business. Back off and leave him to make his own choices

As ive said i can hold opinions of people and i could be proved wrong.

We havent stopped him from making choices at all, we have just advised him to get at least 3 different quotes when it comes to sell the house, we havent said "no you wont let joe bloggs estate agents sell the house".

DCFC79

LEJC wrote: »

I actually agree with the previous poster who says if shes an estate agent and shes friendly with your relation then shes mor likely to try and show the house in a good light to potential buyers if shes selling it on behalf of a friend...

However having said that..a house is only worth what someone will pay for it...and I assume that the final acceptance of any offer would be made by whoever is acting on behalf of the previous owners and surely thats a decision she will not be making!

Yes i understand its only worth what people are prepared to pay for it.

Acc72

I assume that your uncle is an adult ? - unless he is "vulnerable" in some way, then I fail to understand what business this is of yours.

If you care for your uncle, then it may be better for you to meet him and his new partner and welcome her into your family following the death of his parents.

DCFC79

Acc72 wrote: »

I assume that your uncle is an adult ? - unless he is "vulnerable" in some way, then I fail to understand what business this is of yours.

If you care for your uncle, then it may be better for you to meet him and his new partner and welcome her into your family following the death of his parents.

Yes he is an adult and it is our business(he is family so we care about him) as ive already said we want to make sure gets the most he can from the sale whether its from another estate agents or the 1 the female works for. His mum would turn in her grave if we didnt look out for him in terms of finding somewhere new to live, sort out the house so it can sold etc, ive no need to meet the woman but other people may do. Like ive said i dont speak to him about stuff to do with the house as i dont know enough but he speaks to others who do have experience. If it turns out my opinion of her is wrong then fine ill be wrong and so will everyone else who is related.

doodoot

Why don't you ring this woman up ask her outright?

If you feel that you cannot, then that is an indicator that it is none of your business.

Unless your uncle is vulnerable in some mental or physical health way then I do not see why his mother would turn in her grave if you didn't help him to find somewhere to live - he's an adult and capable of finding his way.

As for this woman getting something out of this house sale, yes she may have ulterior motives but just because she has been married 4 times does not mean she is a grabber - perhaps she is too soft and has been taken advantage of?

Seriously, if you are at all worried then talk to your uncle...but be prepared to be told where to get off.

daska

When you say your uncle is living in his former parents home but it will have to be sold soon - is this because his parent/s died recently and if so is the house sale part of winding up the estate? If so, are there any other beneficiaries who might be affected by the price he gets from the house? If the answer is no and he doesn't have learning difficulties/dementia etc then which estate agent he uses is totally down to him. It's only sensible to get a range of valuations and quotes when considering a house sale and you are totally right to talk to him about it but he's a grown man and, in the end, it is totally his decision.