How do i transfer half my house to my new husband?

tabby_cats_mum

I think it is a lovely gesture, I'm happily married and I can understand where you are coming from BUT on a cynical note I have some friends who've been together years, two of the nicest people I know, beautiful children, lovely house, the most lovey dovey couple you would ever meet except 4 months ago he announced he didn't love her and wanted out. Completely out of the blue for her and everyone who knows them.
On another cynical note many years ago I worked with someone who did exactly what you are proposing to do, his girlfriend left him a couple of months later and he had to give her half the house.
Sadly people do change, however much you love them and think you know them.
You both live in a house with no mortgage, relax and enjoy it, I would suggest if children come along think about it then.
Good luck whatever you decide.

Scotchnan

fatpuppy wrote: »

A will isn't what I am trying to achieve. A will gives him the house when I die. I want him to enjoy ownership while we are both alive!

You have issues.

You can bully somene into something you consider nice but that he might feel is a responsibility that he isn't ready for or doesn't want.

He can enjoy living in the marital home without need for legal paperwork.

Scotchnan

fatpuppy wrote: »

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No I didn't bully him into it. How do you bully someone into accepting property as a gift?! His first response was "no" because he felt i'd worked very hard for it and he didn't feel right just getting half a house for nothing. I said to think about it for a week and it was fine either way.

you bully them by assuming the gift is something they want and can handle.
Perhaps he doesn't want responsibility for a property Incase he has an episode and something happens to cause you both to lose the house.

Respect within the relationship is weak if you give him a week to reconsider such a major point.

chewmylegoff

someone wants to transfer half their house into their partner's name and they get accused of bullying!

if anyone wants to bully me in this way, i'm more than happy.

ridiculous...

Scotchnan

chewmylegoff wrote: »

someone wants to transfer half their house into their partner's name and they get accused of bullying!

if anyone wants to bully me in this way, i'm more than happy.

ridiculous...

If you said no and are then given a week to change your mind then I would think f that as bullying.

fatpuppy_2

mufi wrote: »

Some of the behaviour displayed is common to all sufferers; it's the degree that varies - it used to be called manic depression for a reason, until someone came up with the bright idea that it was more PC to call it bi-polar.

A distinguishing feature of the condition is a feeling of utter invincibility during manic phases; not the sufferer's fault, but a fact nevertheless. When my father, who suffered from it, was in manic mode, I would not have left him in charge of a goldfish, let alone half a house. If the OP's husband does not have the fanciful idea that he is invincible when in manic phase, then he's not bi-polar...

On a factual level, you've had good advice from Richard Webster. As usual.

Good luck and I hope you have a long and happy marriage.

Good grief! How short sighted and dismissive you are. I am not going to go into the specifics of my husband's condition, save to say that you cannot know how it affects him UNLESS YOU KNOW HIM!

fatpuppy_2

Scotchnan wrote: »

you bully them by assuming the gift is something they want and can handle.
Perhaps he doesn't want responsibility for a property Incase he has an episode and something happens to cause you both to lose the house.

Respect within the relationship is weak if you give him a week to reconsider such a major point.

I didn't "give him a week" in the way you imply. I Just said to him to think about it and see what he thought.

tiff

When I met DH (18 years ago) we both had a house. He moved in with me and we rented his out. Then we sold mine (after we married), moved into his and sold that to buy a house together. I didnt feel like Dh's house was mine when I moved in, but after a short period of time I kind of took over lol

I wouldnt change anything now as others have said.