How do i transfer half my house to my new husband?

jojo_2012_2

Failing to understand why someone would want to do this or how the topic would come up in conversation in the first place.

SuzieSue

UrWntr wrote: »

Clearly the OP takes her weddings vows more seriously than you do.

"for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health" etc.

So when her husband gambles all his money away she should be pleased that that she stuck to her wedding vows and became poor and homeless with him, rather than ensuring she kept her house and could help him through his problem. No-one is saying she should abandon him.

And when he has an affair? What do her wedding vows say she should do then?

Seanymph

For richer for poorer doesn't mean handing over everything to the male partner any longer in our country.

Marriages are all started with good intentions, and belief that it will stay amicable and fulfilling. Statistics would point out that changes happen in most relationships and the majority end in breakup.

No one is saying the OP should be a doom and gloom merchant - just realistic. It is possible that in life they will seperate, or have contradicting views over things and decide no longer to live together - in that case she would be in a better position if she hadn't handed him half her house.

She has a paid for house - he presumably is in the same lifestage age wise, yet has moved in with her and she hasn't said 'swap our houses' - but 'give him half of mine'. If he has nothing to bring to the table there may well be a reason........

It is best to move with caution for several years and see how things pan out before doing anything so drastic.

I was engaged to my ex, who told me his bankruptcy was because of his ex wife, that she fleeced him, that she was awful with money and that was why he had nothing to his name. I of course had a house and income he was eyeing up........ he moved in with me and believe me we had the conversation the OP is having many many times in the four years we lived together - and before he left me taking everything not nailed down to go move in with another prospect who was, I am told, more gullible. I was left with the debt just like his first wife.

I have learnt that looking out for yourself and your own interests does NOT make you a bad person. Handing things over because you have been guilted into it makes you gullible. Generally not nice people marry nice ones who have a highly developed sense of guilt. I no longer have one...

I would be interested to know WHY you want to hand over half of your home to a new husband. Presumably you are happy to allow him to live there, as your next of kin should anything happen to you he has inheritance.

Unless you have a really compelling reason which isn't either a) you want to demonstrate your love and keenness or b) he is asking you to prove you love him then I wouldn't entertain it for a minute.

If you do have to there is a way you can put half of it in his name but retain all the rights - I'm fuzzy about it but did it with a house once with someone and when I chose to I was able to just take his name off the deeds myself.

bristol_pilot

Definition of marriage: "a mechanism for giving away your house".

Assuming this post isn't a wind-up, the husband doesn't seem to care much about his wife's interests if he is even thinking of accepting this.

Average length of marriage in UK ~7 years; divorce rate in UK ~50%.

Unbelievable!

pmlindyloo

I wonder if the OP wants to express her love for him by showing the 'what's mine is yours' type thing?

To be honest previous comments about 'dont do it' will probably fall on deaf ears as when you are 'in love' them it is hard to believe that any of the things mentioned will ever happen. I believe that personal stories will not wash with the OP as she will no doubt be wearing the rose coloured specs that we all wore (presumably) when we got married!

Perhaps the best approach is for the OP to show her love by putting her wishes into a will as someone has already mentioned.

loracan1

jojo_2012 wrote: »

Failing to understand why someone would want to do this or how the topic would come up in conversation in the first place.

Just how does that conversation take place? I can understand talking about where you live, I can understand it taking place when you start a family, I can understand it cropping up a few years down the line, but just after the wedding?

one_hot_minute

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

If this marriage endures long-term this issue will resolve itself on its own but only if the OP wants it to.

This, with bells on. At present, he's living with you in the family home, not having to contribute rent / digs etc which presumably gives you both a decent standard of living. He'll be NOK and would inherit the house on your death. As the marriage progresses, he'd be entitled to any equity growth as he's a contributing member of the household (I assume.)

Please don't be doing anything hasty.

buglawton

No-one mentioned stamp duty yet. See a solicitor about this if you REALLY go ahead.

SuzieSue

buglawton wrote: »

No-one mentioned stamp duty yet. See a solicitor about this if you REALLY go ahead.

There is no stamp duty to pay if he does not give her any money for it and there is no mortgage.

ic

What a cheery bunch... Personally I see nothing wrong with the motives here, but expect that realistically it would be easier to wait until you move to a new house together and combine assets then. You're probably looking at lots of cost now with solicitors and as above perhaps stamp duty, to gain nothing but show willing. There is nothing stopping you writing wills and leaving one another's houses to each other there should the worst happen.