My sis in law

Pobby

Any advice would be welcome. My lovely wife's sister has been cuckolded by her husband of 30 years. It really has hit her very badly. He cleared off with the younger model in 2009, only to return again for Christmas. Told lies regarding that he had thrown the girlfriend in to to touch but he was found out. Thus departing in the Summer of 2010.

Clearly sis in law would like to hang on to the house as otherwise there is very little security for her. I think the fact he keeps uploading pictures of him and his new model on Facebook are grounds for mental criticality

Would this be something that might be taken into consideration in the dividing of assets?

BitterAndTwisted

No, that would be daft and totally pointless, although I'm interpreting by mental "criticality" you mean cruelty Desertion is a good enough reason to ask for a divorce. The process does not have to be adversarial.

The question about the jointly-owned property is another question but ill-treated wives cannot hang onto a house just because they feel badly-used no matter how justified they think they are.

Emmzi

whose fault the divorce is and how badly one party behaved has no bearing whatsoever on financial settlement.

Emmzi

PS cuckolded? are you wearing a frock coat as you type?

BitterAndTwisted

Actually, I believe that the term "cuckolded" only refers to men betrayed by their wives and not the other way round.

Pobby

Have corrected the error. Also I think that cuckolds are men betrayed by their wives.

victory

Cuckold is a historically derogatory term for a man who has an unfaithful wife. The word, which has been in recorded use since the 13th century, derives from the cuckoo bird, some varieties of which lay their eggs in other birds' nests. [1]
In modern usage, a cuckold can also mean a male fetishist who gains sexual gratification from his partner having intercourse with other people.

clearingout

why is she still friends with him on Facebook for goodness sake?! Delete the relationship there and then block him, and her, and any mutual friends and then resist the urge to unblock every now and again to see what he's up to. I'm not usually this harsh as I know how it feels when someone you love betrays you in this way, but you do have to take responsibility for your own emotions and take whatever action is required to make it easier on yourself.

No, it won't be taken into account when dividing assets. Try https://www.wikivorce.com for advice and support on what to expect from the financial side of things.

marywooyeah

no the fact he cheated won't in itself be relative to whether she claims an interest in the house - but how the house is owned will. Depending on her circumstances she may well have an interest in the house eg does he own it outright, is it jointly owned, did she pay any of the original deposit or bills in the house? She needs to get an appointment with a divorce solicitor who can advise her which, if any, rights she has over the property and she can register a land charge to protect any rights.

caeler

clearingout wrote: »

why is she still friends with him on Facebook for goodness sake?! Delete the relationship there and then block him, and her, and any mutual friends and then resist the urge to unblock every now and again to see what he's up to. I'm not usually this harsh as I know how it feels when someone you love betrays you in this way, but you do have to take responsibility for your own emotions and take whatever action is required to make it easier on yourself.

No, it won't be taken into account when dividing assets. Try www.wikivorce.com for advice and support on what to expect from the financial side of things.

Exactly what I would suggest. Facebook is a modern day evil when relationships come to and end and completely unnecessary. It might be hard for her to break the tie but given his behaviour it might be time to accept he's not coming back and it is time to move on. I stupidly kept ties with my ex and his friends then found out via facebook he had been cheating. doh!

Wikivorce is an excellent site and I found it very helpful.