sorting all my problems for a new year start can it be done ?

toochoosey

Hi, I haven't read all the thread yet but I feel exactly the same, I do post and follow the goulash thread here but just feel there is too much "stuff " in the house, I will follow the thread and try and keep up with the advice, thanks all x

gailey_2

mrsd wrote: »

My mum used to make snide comments about my house/kids/everything (which actually are not too bad. Its clean although not always tidy, we always have clean clothes and are well fed) until DH pointed out that she was jealous and probably wished she had more in her life than a pristine home. Last summer after another one of her comments I bit back and told her that her critisism was hurtful not useful and if she was so bothered then she could help out, things were a bit tense for a while but now she has become nicer and even helps with weekend meals! Might be worth taking yours aside and pointing out that she makes you feel bad, she might not realise how hurtful she is being and will make an effort to help you rather than be critical.

Thanks have tried and failed.
few weeks back made christmas gingerbread for eldest teachers and class mates. told my mum she said i was showing off that the other mums wouldent think I so great if saw state of my house!

like you say everyone gets washed and in clean clothes.
keeping on top of laundry just
everyones healthy most of time
I iron as I need it wher as mum spends hours ironing
its not so much dirty just constant clutter and kids are messy.

Mum comes over gets stressed shouts and grandkids spending time cleaning rather than with them. always telling me how useless i am and anyone else who will listen.

My sisters a childless neat freak and they gangf up on me together
other week they whined at me.
They were suppost to come over boxing day give kids their pressies but argued that be much easiet to drag kids an hour to theres as they hate my house I refused and got well you better make sure its tidy as sister blokes coming. Anyway they were both ill so dident come so missed kids little exited faces opening pressies their loss!

even when do tidy and clean never good enough.

Tried to declutter and deepclean the lounge today but failed.
Yes its better but not the finished article.
hoovered 3times
wiped floor seval as toddler weed and spilt drink and baby projectile vomits.
elder 2left scattering of crumbs
13year old lost hisw beloved i pod so turned over the sofa got mad as cushions and throws not put back right way.
hubby reoainted loung ceiling caused by bathroom flood caused by toddler last week.

13year old argued with 5year old spent time watching tv in my room which is now a mess.
not touched babys pit of room
despite tidying yesterday both girls trashed their room again.
bathroom still needs a clean
will clear the stairs as drives hubby mad.
The kicthesn respecatbly clean but cluttered.

cleaned dreaded pation doors and glass tv table on lookout for new tv table.

opened cupboiard doom under stairs then promtly shut it couldent face it with 4kids here.

Had enough of kids so went out leaflet dropping for my slimming world consultant seeing the nicer todier houses on my estate brought me down a bit.

went spar for reductions got a few
cooked a ham need to split into sandwich bags and freeze.

just about to start some mini quiches
and sausage casserole.

feel shattered need an early night.

On diet part although I pay for class find slimming world works well for me and whole family I just adapt recipies so kids can eat them too.

need to sort my hair out as look like the lost fraggle.
also desperatly need new mascara as toddler dropped last one down toiliet.

Hubbys taken stepson home

miss toddler having daytime naps used to get lots done then

hubby keeps saying we need lounge minimilast and no toys so they cant make a mess but their bedrooms already fit to burst!

**Patty**

Not such a brill day as i'd hoped tbh

School trousers got ironed last night ....:D
Didn't wash the school polos but had to wash 1 load of darks & 1 load of bedding.
Bedding is ironed & away already (plus point there) and i have ironed 12 things off the pile upstairs plus all the washing i did yesterday.....so at least its not growing up there:D

Forgot DD had a coaching session so havn't actually been in half the afty.

Plan for tonight: Empty all bins & gather up assorted rubbish as wheelie bin lorry due tomorrow.

Cat501

gailey - can I just say I'm in awe of everything you do, there's no way I could do as much as you - cooking, cleaning, slimming, delivering leaflets in your leisure time!!, looking after all those kids - I think you're fabulous!!:j

Honestly, if I was you I'd be inclined to say to your mum that if she refuses to listen to you and stop the criticism, you'd rather she (and your sister!) didn't come to your house, and you'll meet up with her somewhere else if she wants to. I know that's easier said than done though

toochoosey

Ok, I have no idea if there is a goulash thread!!!! Sorry about that, not used to typing on the phone!!!! I'm following and posting on the weekly flylady thread!!!!!!!

Fruball

toochoosey wrote: »

Ok, I have no idea if there is a goulash thread!!!! Sorry about that, not used to typing on the phone!!!! I'm following and posting on the weekly flylady thread!!!!!!!

I knew what you meant, but its got me thinking about goulash now - haven't made that in years!!!

I am another with a Mother who loves to criticise my house... Carpet is really stained from kids (they aren't even allowed drinks in lounge so not sure how they got there) and she just says "Well if you cleaned the spills when they happened..." :mad: Very irritating and not helpful.

I have also said to her that if she has a problem with my house, she is more than welcome to come and help out... She said she would... Came over whilst I was at work all day... Put the carp on the dining table (inc duplicate pizza leaflets etc) in a pile and that was it :rotfl: Must have taken all of 5-10 minutes. AND she left her coffee mug on the coffee table rather than take it out and sling in the DW! She did the same with her dinner plate once when she babysat... Put it on side in kitchen rather than in DW!!! Her house is immaculate of course

I am joining you in this frantic fight to get the house at least on course for 2012... The house will at least look tidy and I will start getting rid of carp when kids are at school.

I have a holiday to pay for so ebay is going to be my way forward for de-cluttering!!!

Best of luck everyone

oldtractor

I think 2012 is the year we all tell the poisonous relatives to GET LOST and get a life,instead of criticising others.

DebtFree2012

Hi Op

I am SOOOO hearing you. 2012 is also my year! 2011 was my year in a more financial way as I started getting to grips with debts and now I feel I am taking them in the right direction (first year without using credit cards and overdraft for xmas!) so it's time to start with everything else. I find I am sometimes very overwhelmed with working FT and looking after 2 young children and a DH who does more DIY than household chores.

So I've already started putting my NY resolutions - new life resolutions to me - in place rather than waiting until the new year and in doing so I am looking to have things in order by NY eve too. I would love to spend NY day just enjoying it with the kids knowing everything's done and I'm on the right track.

I'll have to menu plan for Jan as back to work on 3rd and write down my new routine as time will be in short supply. I will watch your progress with interest and picking up tips as I go along. I love the diary idea however mine stays with me 24/7 so is slightly smaller for my bag however I plan on sticking a post it in there with to do list on and transferring it to a new one every monday morning for the week ahead.

Lots to think about and it's all work in progress, as long as the house is in order and my first week back's planned by NY eve then I know the rest can fall into place with a little extra thought.

Good Luck and Happy New Year!

xxx

2012ismyyear

Wow thank you everyone for joining in well done to all of you that has done something to help yourself or make your life easier today:beer:
And if you havent managed anything to day tomorrow is a new day.

There are things today that i havent managed but the other things that i have done have made me feel so positive:T

Gailey - hope you are doing ok today, you seem a little deflated by your mum and sis we are all here to cheer you on go gailey go gailey.

I wrote my list on here and also wrote on paper and took it round the house with me today and did as much of it as i could .

can i just say THE WASHING IS NEARLY DONE OH MY GOD !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:j:beer::T for the first time in 7 years lol

thursdays listy

-rubbish bags from today to tip courtousy of hubbahubba hubby
-sort through our wardrobe
-get clothes put away
-hoover all floors, mop all hard floors
-tidy notice board
-clean out coalhouse
-think of some healthy tea ideas
-order food shopping for 31st of dec all healthy of course just don't know what to order yet! xx:rotfl:

2012ismyyear

2012 is all our lots year lol ! xx