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Borrowed money
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agreed - if you give it back he'll think he can borrow money and offer to give it back but you won't accept so he'd be getting what he wants and looking good at the same time - he might not understand this at 11 but he will at 18!
I'm not surprised you're proud of him - he sounds like a lovely boy!0 -
marywooyeah wrote: »agreed - if you give it back he'll think he can borrow money and offer to give it back but you won't accept so he'd be getting what he wants and looking good at the same time - he might not understand this at 11 but he will at 18!
By doing this, aren't you training him to be like his older brother who you've had so much trouble with lately.
He's borrowed money; he's paid it back. Accept it with good grace and carry on feeling proud of him.0 -
yes victory, all the posters are right! your son does sound a lovely and honourable young man! I am sure that the pleasure you showed when he gave the money back was 'reward' enough to him! Dont undermine that by slipping the money back to him! put it aside if you want to - but please dont give it back! it would be disrespectful!0
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yep- if you leant elder son £30 and he repaid the loan in a timely manner would you give him the money straight back?
Keep the money- don't give it back, don't put it in his account or its not fair that he gets £30 of lego for no reason as you say.People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.
Ralph Waldo Emerson0 -
He's a good lad, so don't insult him by giving it back to him..................
....I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)0 -
Can't his reward be his mother being proud of him and prepared to lend him money again in future? Why must the reward be financial?0
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Isn't putting it in his bank account the same as giving it back to him?
I was thinking that! If you put it in his account, you are giving it to him. You are not teaching him that when you borrow money from someone, you have to give it back according to the terms agreed. In my opinion, you would be doing a disservice to your son and giving him a very bad message.
victory, you often complain about your older son wanting, wanting, wanting with no care as to whether you can afford to give it. Do you want your younger son to become the same?
(Sorry don't mean to be rude or harsh - I've "spoken" to you so often online, I'm talking to you like I would a friend in rl! don't be offended)LBM: August 2006 £12,568.49 - DFD 22nd March 2012
"The road to DF is long and bumpy" GreenSaints0 -
yeap I'm another one in the don't give it back camp either.2014 Target;
To overpay CC by £1,000.
Overpayment to date : £310
2nd Purse Challenge:
£15.88 saved to date0 -
Bless him. Why not reward him in another way like making his favourite tea or let him overhear you telling people you're proud of him.0
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