hospital claim my friends putting unborn baby at risk.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

skintchick wrote: »

Just to clarify - as far as i am aware it is NOT risky to rub your back during pregnancy! I hope no-one out there is scared they may be harming their baby by rubbing their back!

I've had three miscarriages and believe me, you do not cause them by rubbing your back. What a guilt trip.

Hope you aren't telling me off, though - but I had been admitted with bleeding and backache at 20 weeks and she was quite adamant that if I were to continue, it would stimulate labour. I guess via acupressure/acupuncture points or something.

The point is, I was told to stop doing it, so I did. I didn't go to get a second opinion. Seems a whole lot less stressful.

If she felt the lady were pulling at an already weakening scar in a way that would encourage it to separate or rupture (which as I said, isn't unknown, unfortunately) than surely she was trying to do the right thing for the baby?


Glad that all seems to be well, though. I hope she has a safe delivery in good time.

purple.sarah

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

They haven't been called. She said 'she scared now that social services have been notified'.

So we don't know.

The OP said "the hospital has called social services claiming she is deliberatly harming her unborn baby in this manor of rubbing her belly and has noted it in her medical records."

I took "'she scared now that social services have been notified'." to mean now that social services have been notified she is scared.

purple.sarah

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Hope you aren't telling me off, though - but I had been admitted with bleeding and backache at 20 weeks and she was quite adamant that if I were to continue, it would stimulate labour. I guess via acupressure/acupuncture points or something.

The point is, I was told to stop doing it, so I did. I didn't go to get a second opinion. Seems a whole lot less stressful.

If she felt the lady were pulling at an already weakening scar in a way that would encourage it to separate or rupture (which as I said, isn't unknown, unfortunately) than surely she was trying to do the right thing for the baby?


Glad that all seems to be well, though. I hope she has a safe delivery in good time.

I don't think she was telling you off, just telling you not to worry, you didn't do anything wrong. Also it's important anyone reading this who has had a miscarriage knows they didn't cause it by rubbing their back. It was the nurse that was wrong, not you. She may have been speaking from concern but I wish they would stick to medical facts.

strawberry_laces

sorry to hear this and hopefully your friend will get sorted and have a happy uneventful pregnancy :j

What happens if the scar comletely opens, how dangerous if at all is that?

rachbc

strawberry_laces wrote: »

What happens if the scar comletely opens, how dangerous if at all is that?

Its very dangerous for both mother and baby. Thank fully its also very rare but needs to be monitored - which clearly it is being here

FunnySaving

It doesn't seem as if anyone has told the OP's friend that NO pregnant woman should rub their belly, just that SHE specifically shouldn't because of the problems she is experiencing with her scar. Perhaps her reaction to being told this has caused concern amongst the staff at the hospital if she is as resistant to take advice as it seems from the OP. I have to admit, I don't understand why anyone would rather search online for information than take the advice of a medical professional who knows the details of their specific case, but if the OP's friend feels that they have been treated unfairly then they are entitled to raise the issue with the relevant bodies.

meritaten

FunnySaving wrote: »

It doesn't seem as if anyone has told the OP's friend that NO pregnant woman should rub their belly, just that SHE specifically shouldn't because of the problems she is experiencing with her scar. Perhaps her reaction to being told this has caused concern amongst the staff at the hospital if she is as resistant to take advice as it seems from the OP. I have to admit, I don't understand why anyone would rather search online for information than take the advice of a medical professional who knows the details of their specific case, but if the OP's friend feels that they have been treated unfairly then they are entitled to raise the issue with the relevant bodies.

The way I understood the post is that the midwife actualy phoned SS to notify them that the OPs friend was causeing the baby harm and THEN told the woman to stop rubbing her belly in a rather accusatory manner.
The woman was since told (by medical professionals at her usual hospital) that she was NOT causing harm to herself and her baby and she may carry on rubbing her belly.the doctor then phoned SS and assured them this wasnt the case which SS accepted.

The OP has looked online to see if there is any evidence that harm may be caused - perhaps in an effort to see why this midwife thought so?