boyfriend (well, now ex-boyfriend)

flexrider

Ive joined the comments on here camp of you done the right thing you got yourself a education to compelte and for someone so very bright i guarentee you in 3 years time or whatever time you are tied into your education you will walk out qualified, Educated and eventully have the pick of nice guys in furure who maybe will apprecate you more for your inner-Qualitys,

Flex

FBaby

I've been there with my ex, and I think you are very brave to stick to it. I personally reached a stage when i felt I couldn't take it any longer. Both the deceipt that went with the debts, and the feeling that I was carrying the world over my shoulders. The day I realised that I had no choice but to work full-time with two children under the age of 3 whilst being responsible for everything at home, do all the worrying about finances, and that out of my OH salary, 1/3 went totally just to pay his MINIMUM repayment on debts he had accumulated for his benefits only, with him showing no true dedication to change his ways, I decided enough was enough.

I am so pleased I did. I am now with a man who is almost on the other side of the fence, almost too cautious to my standard, but I wouldn't trade it. It is such a relief not to have to worry about money! In terms of advice, well, my ex's new partner is certainly sorting him out better than I did. She has taken everything in her hands and treats him like a kid when it comes to money. I couldn't respect a partner acting like a kid, I wanted him to learn to be responsible. I think it is doing him good though, he has lost a lot because of it, and I think maturity is helping a bit. He is still irresponsible and I know they have issues because of it, but he is under control.

I would say either you accept to take full 100% control, along with the complaints of you nagging etc..., or you let go. I think anything in between is putting you at risk.

rachel6188

you did the right thing. huge hugs xx

RainbowChild_2

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Sounds like a lucky escape. Better crying at 20 for fear of the future than at 40 with regret for the past.

Hear Hear! :T You certainly don't want to be like that I am in similar situation and am at the end of this relationship and 40 in May. Keep Strong ! I wish I had this advice when I was 19 & 20

meritaten

Stay away from this boy - I call him a boy because that is what he is - he isnt a MAN is he?)
you may well suffer from depression and anxiety - and I can guess the cause!
hun - You are young and vulnerable right now - but you are far better off learning to make your OWN way in the world than be tied to this useless waste of space.
I think it will bolster your self esteem to be NOT 'on your own' but, 'responsible only for yourself'!
good luck