boyfriend (well, now ex-boyfriend)

Errata

It's natural to feel upset, you'll get over it and you've had a very, very lucky escape. I wouldn't have him if he was gift wrapped in gold leaf with a world cruise thrown in.

peachyprice

If it was that bad after just one year, when you're still supposed to be madly in love, imagine how much worse it would have got.

You're only 20, a bright girl, with your whole life ahead of you. Forget about this loser and move on.

Mad-Frog

you did the right thing, we have all cried tears over losers at your age, trust me a few months down the line you will feel glad you did it, one day after splitting up you are bound to feel raw

Mupette

Delete him from your facebook, block his number on your phone.

Take a deep breath and step forward to the future, enjoy your studies, you just had a wrong un' for you, you will find a nicer bloke but give it a good 6 months at least, reaquaint yourself with your friends and enjoy your life.

You don't need to be in a relationship to enjoy life, remember that and go and have some fun (safe fun it thats what you need to do)

Mallotum_X

Sounds like you deserve so much better, well done for ditching the loser.

jojo_2012_2

You did the right thing. Now send out party invites to all those friends you've drifted apart from and get them back in your life. Never let a man separate you from your friends they only do it if they're insecure but it's you who loses in the end.

BitterAndTwisted

You're obviously bright if you're beavering away at Uni. But that doesn't help us to be bright where being disrespected by someone who should treat us like the princesses we are. You have a much better future ahead of you than he ever will. Your qualifications will take you away to places and meet people he couldn't even dream of. Use this experience as a very good lesson in how you never, ever will tolerate being treated again in such a way in your life. That's worth diamonds, it really is.

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that you've made the right decision. If there's any doubt in yours, visualise him at the age of 40 living the same crappy life as he does now. Not much of a catch, is he?

VfM4meplse

Bug hugs hun! :grouphug:

You're grieving for the loss of the relationship, not because of the man himself and from the details you have given it's a no-brainer. A man that lies to your face in spite of clear evidence is at best plain stupid. Ask yourself what you actually got out of that relationship? You deserve congratulations for recognising that you are so much better than him.

You don't have to move on and fall into the arms of another, but take time to look after yourself. Make sure you go out in the next week to remind yourself that there is life post-b/f.

bobble_hat

Well done you! I stuck with my sorry **s boyfriend until someone came along and took him from me, I'm much much happier and they're both miserable, I just wish I'd left a lot sooner. You made absolutely the right decision and you'll have plenty of time to appreciate it. Brush away those tears, he's not worth one of them. Hold your head high and move on, you've done the worst bit now.

londonsurrey

Excellent move. Congratulations on getting away. Could you imagine staying, and at some time in the future getting pregnant with a child who would then have his genetic makeup and his influence in its upbringing? Nightmare!