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Jennifer_Jane

I think you need a quiet word with yourself. Re phoning BT, ask yourself why you didn't have the account number with you? Surely you go to the phone with all the details (my phone is in the hall and I sit on the stairs with my laptop on, or having written down key details).

Re the holiday firm not speaking to you because you were not the key person, just think how it would be if some nosy person was wanting info on you. The Data Protection story is so frustrating, but it's there, and you have to accept it.

Someone on a different website last night posted 'Desiderata' and it was very moving.

The things you mention are frustrating and would make anyone angry: but you are choosing to make things difficult for yourself. I would say that you are going through a phase when you are not being as efficient as you might normally be, and can I mention the stresses of Christmas? The 6 week period before Christmas is known to be a difficult period - so much going on, winter, relatives - ugh! It's all difficult.

If this isn't supportive to you, then I'm sorry, but it is an impartial, unprofessional view, from someone who is not particularly good at any kind of relationship!

Best luck, and try to be gentler with others and with yourself.

PS - re your mother and the aloe vera pyramid scheme, these are illegal and I'm sure you can find some info to print out for her. The key thing is that it is illegal and for a sound mathematical and moral reason. Try not to fight with her, just a print out, then you've made your point, and leave it.

Angry83

Jennifer.. I agree with what you have said. I think what worries me is why I let myself get so would up by it all, that is my issue.

I didn't have the account number as it started as just an enquiry on upgrading my broadband and so I was just getting info.

Travel agents Well that's a long story. We both booked, we both had our names on the account and they asked for the best number to ring, never mentioned that I wouldn't be able to discuss our booking.. and they were only calling us to say our flight times had changed. This was after I had called them the previous week with no security checks, and booked our flight seats with them with no problems. My argument with her was why allow me to do this but then not inform me of a change of flight time despite me being on the booking, no information regarding a 'lead' passenger only being able to discuss the account being told to us before. I also suggested to her that when she spoke to my partner, on my mobile, to advise of the changes, she did no checks to verify who he was (data protection act) and could have been speaking to anybody. We then agreed to get my partner to set up a password on the account so that we could both discuss it and she then refused to speak to him on my phone because I had pointed out that it could be anyone.. lol.. and then asked to speak to him. Sorry, but I think that would anger quite a few people... but with me it simmered and I'm still annoyed thinking about it now.

I agree that I need to be kinder to myself and others, but this is the problem that I need to resolve.

Jennifer_Jane

Perhaps one of the reasons that I don't like doing things on the phone are the things you mention. Yes, completely agree with you about them. Very frustrating. Sorry, but it made me laugh out loud, which I know is wrong because it's having this dramatic affect on you. And I'm sorry about how you are feeling.

Re the boyfriend's moving in (from your other thread), I know how you feel - mine goes to sleep in front of the TV, then is wide awake when I say let's go to bed. I can't leave him on the sofa because he wakes up, but it's so boring that he's asleep then wide-awake. But when I spoke to other people, they all said, they are all like that! So what to do. No idea.

Someone on the other thread mentioned diet and exercise, and I cannot stress how important this is - if you're not allergic to nuts, Brazil nuts (I think) contain serotonin which is good for uplifting you a bit, so perhaps have a little look into looking into things like that? I would lose the weight you say is bothering you, also yoga and meditation, as was mentioned previously are superb - even if it's only having a purpose of making you the healthiest you can possibly be.

Are you feeling out of control about anything?

Give your mum a lovely present but tell her about the ponzi scheme she is in (as described, from the internet - she's not believing you).

I'm sorry if this is offensive, but you do sound like I was when I got PMT! Is there anything there that you could monitor?

And the other thing is that I am, myself, going through some plumbing problems that have been going on now for months. Yes, it's upsetting me; yes, I don't think anyone else is being helpful or truly understanding. Have been spending my whole life now for months simply waiting in for plumbers who don't arrive, etc. So everyone goes through things which are beyond your control, and you do simply have to get over it, and think of something sunnier.

If necessary, think every day of 3 things you are grateful for. It's the old Oprah thing, but it might just help for a little bit. I'm sure listing the bad things and not listing the good things in your life are unhelpful to you.

Phew! Good luck, we all go through these things, and have frustrations. I don't suppose you are cracking up, but you might if you can't see things a bit more positively and take control now.

Angry83

Thanks again Jennifer_Jane,

I do appreciate your honest viewpoint as I'm certainly not the attention seeking type.

I feel out of control about my eating, that's for sure.. but everything else in my life is controlled well and balanced really. Just the diet and excercise bit, which I know how a profound inpact on my self esteem and self-worth.

Me and mum had a chat today and went through everything I was worried about with the scheme, she has eased my mind a little, but I'm still a little wary and worried I guess. But like people say, best to keep out and let them get on with it.

PMT, well that could be a reason. I was on the pill for ages, then came off it as a trial to see if it helped my mood and motivation.. I did feel a bit better but hated having the periods again and so I went back on it about 2/3 weeks ago.. could be adjusting to that again maybe? I'm defo not pregnant as we didn't do anything in that time, just to be sure! *maybe too much information there lol*

Don't worry about laughing, I still have my sense of humour buried in there haha