Don't know what to do

Dizzy_Ditzy

you need to leave.

your daughter is going to grow up thinking that this is normal behaviour.

You deserve better than this. And so does your daughter. Contact Womens Aid who can point you in the direction of your local refuge until you can get back on your feet again

Good luck xx

thorsoak

You have read everyone's posts here - and all are telling you the same thing - YOU NEED TO GET AWAY FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP! If not for your sake - for the sake of your daughter. Would you want her to get into the same sort of relationship as you have now?

The longer you stay, the more she will think that this is the norm.

It is an abusive relationship and you must leave it as soon as you possibly can - tomorrow wouldn't be too soon.

Do come back and let us know what support you need from us.

chelle230

you poor thing. but as everyone else has said, you need to leave NOW!
before something really bad happens.
You need to think about your daughter and yourself and start again away from this monster.

And the Samaritans will listen, if you want to talk, they DO NOT give advise, they will only listen. but sometimes it helps to talk to a stranger, if that's what you want to do.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do x

Treed

Its hard, you probably feel stuck in a situation where you see no way out. There is a way out.. theres a door and you need to use it and leave.
You cant honestly think that these conditions are good for yourself or your daughter?
Go and get some advice regarding the house etc, and leave!
You deserve a lot better! Your daughter also deserves to be brought up without having to witness her father making her mother so unhappy and abusing her.

chirpchirp

I was at an event the other week and picked up a card about domestic violence in case I ever needed to help someone in your situation.

It has a 24hr emergency number on it, it may not be a national number it may be local but if it is they will give you a national number. You need to call 0808 100 3062.

You need to call it now!

I just found this, it was posted in another thread by another forum poster, http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/

Welshwoofs

Ok - I can understand suddenly finding yourself in an abusive relationship. I can understand being too scared to leave that relationship.....but you left it and then went back again?????

Good lord woman - WHY?

In your position I'd be taking a good, hard look at myself and asking whether I haven't got a chronic lack of self-esteem if I manage to hitch my wagon to an abusive partner, leave him for mentally unstable partner and then go back to the abusive partner.

Your first priority is getting out of where you are. Even if you think so little of yourself that you're prepared to live like that, you've got a responsibility to your daughter to ensure she doesn't grow up in a household where that is happening. Once you've extracated yourself I suggest you get some counselling and get to the root of why you think you're only worth such unadulterated losers.

BitterAndTwisted

Darling, the only thing that is holding you back is fear. You know what that smells like because you've experienced it so very many times already.

There are far, far worse things than losing the house and having nothing but the clothes that you stand up in. You and your daughter could be SAFE.

There are people on this site who have done exactly what you know you need to do for your sake and the sake of your daughter's future and her future mental well-being. And they have started again from nothing. And been happy again. You can be, too.

WhiteHorse

Get rid of all of them before one of them kills you or your daughter. The choice really is that simple.

princessdreamer

Hey sweetie the only one who can help you is you. I remember how scary it is standing up to an abuser BUT you have no choice. Even after ex was booted out he was still telling me don't you dare do this or that. that I was mental everyone hated me, he even had the new GF sending me hate mail. I decided to fight back, no idea how I was shaking at the very thought of him but I fought and fought. I'm still fighting will never stop but I would rather die tomorrow than live forever under the fear of him.

You have to get out you can do it. Trust me I'm a mouthy cow but a total wimp with a heart of gold. if someone like me can do it so can you.