Parent and child space - disabled driver

lostinrates

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

i used the buggy today as only needed a few items. normally i would carry him or try to make him walk to the trollies and push him around.

In anycase, hopefully you will get your blue badge soon, and make life easier for for you everyhere....

londonsurrey

Just because they're disabled doesn't mean that they're sweet grateful beings. Nasty people can get disabled too. But it doesn't mean that all disabled people are nasty. Lol. Otherwise, just consider if you got shoved by an OAP or an Inuit. I do sincerely hope that on the basis of that one shove, we don't decide that we're going to run over any OAPs and Inuits we encounter. Our grandmothers might be a bit upset about it, AND we'd have to clean the drive of the mess.

I would rather always stand on public transport and park that bit further away from the supermarket entrance than see an infirm person have to stand on public transport or watch someone less able struggle to get to the supermarket.

Just because there are always people who try to con the system., why would I want to start blaming the genuinely infirm for them? I will live my life in a way that leaves me peace of mind, let them poison themselves with envy for a perceived "benefit" that they're not getting. If they genuinely feel done out of something, they should try breaking their own legs or doing something to sustain brain injury. I'm sure that they'd then stand a really good chance of getting one of those blue badges they're so envious of.

Person_one

Buttonmoons wrote: »

The OP has a special needs child, suppose it doesn't matter though because she doesn't have a blue badge!

I'm sure if her child qualifies she could apply and be granted one.

There could be any number of reasons why this space was more suitable for this woman and her particular disability than the marked disabled bays.

What happened to giving people the benefit of the doubt?

I'm always tempted to park in those parent and child spaces when I've got my mum in the car.

Oldernotwiser

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

next time perhaps i wont be so thoughtful when a disabled person walks out in front of my car and expects me to do an emergency stop !!!

Lets hope nobody else thinks this about your disabled child when he's older!

becominganobsessivesaver

I can see why both sides are frustrated and I have been really annoyed when able bodied people have taken the parent and child spaces. The thing is these spaces are essentially a marketing tool as families are probably the biggest spenders in supermarkets and bringing the kids along will definitely increase the weekly spend (pester power and all that). Therefore it is in the interests of both parties to have these
spaces and to make them as convenient as possible.

Person_one

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

I think in future I will just do the shopping online, avoid this forum as it would seem that some people on here are far too unsympathetic and like stiring up a storm. I was just saying in my open post that the so say disabled lady could have been more thoughtful

Do you see the contradiction here?

You want sympathy from strangers who know nothing about your situation but you had no sympathy for the woman in the car park even though you knew nothing about her situation.

Person_one

londonsurrey wrote: »

Just because they're disabled doesn't mean that they're sweet grateful beings. Nasty people can get disabled too. But it doesn't mean that all disabled people are nasty. Lol. Otherwise, just consider if you got shoved by an OAP or an Inuit. I do sincerely hope that on the basis of that one shove, we don't decide that we're going to run over any OAPs and Inuits we encounter. Our grandmothers might be a bit upset about it, AND we'd have to clean the drive of the mess.

An inuit?

skypie123_2

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Well you can't always tell: with some conditions you have better days than others. MS for example. Or some days, meds work better than others on severe arthritis. Or you may be well enough when you arrive, but a short shoping trip with a trolley may leave you so exhausted, or in such pain that after 10 mins you can just about get back to the car. You then need to sit in the car for 10 mins getting your strength back to be able to drive safely home.

It is hard having conditions that don't easily 'show' like a plastercast on a leg.

Perhaps so.
I live in Wakefield and the Wakefield Asda must surely hold the record for the most disabled spaces ever. And they are always full too! Recently I witness two 'gym bunny' blokes with a disabled badge park there, both in their early twenties and seemed in the peak of health to me, I saw them in the store buying their Whey protein so they didn't look too disabled. And plenty of grossly overweight (and smoking ) people too seem to park there. Surely if healthy and mobility is such a worry one would think that they might lay off the fags... And a glut of very smart cars too that they perhaps didn't want to be dinted anywhere else. I have a small child but I always park far away and leave the M&C spots for those with babies.
But for those abusing the Disabled spots, there but for the grace of God go any of us. I find those people disgusting. Like someone else mentioned though whatever qualifies as disabled seems to be broad. There seems to be an awful lot of family members of these blue badge holder taking the p*ss.

londonsurrey

Yes, an Inuit. I was trying to pick an arbitrary group without inadvertently stirring up latent sentiments about the group I named. I was guessing that if I named a more frequently encountered group, someone would pipe up with "Oh yeah, that lot ARE awful. One of 'em spoke harshly to my grandmother's friend's carer's cousin's girlfriend. Stone them all".

stargazer59

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Lets hope nobody else thinks this about your disabled child when he's older!

As a Blue Badge holder myself who can hardly walk without pain i was horrified to read this comment from the OP!