Writing Christmas cards & feeling sad

thorsoak

It doesn't seem right, just signing them "with love from M" when it has been "with love from A & M" for so long

I'm going away in the middle of the week, to my DD's abroad, so shall have Christmas with her and her family - so although I'm looking forward to it, I would far rather be spending it here with my much-loved OH - but we can't always have what we want - and I've just realised just how much it's going to hurt!

I won't be back until the end of Jan - in fact I fly back in on the anniversary of his funeral - so I'll go up to the woodland cemetary and tell him all about it, I suppose.

Plans_all_plans

My heart goes out to you.

My nan always says it's funny the things that bring it all back since the loss of my grandad.

I'm sure your daughter will be a good support to you. Tell her how you feel. Best wishes.

msb5262

Dear thorsoak,

I'm so sorry for your loss and I wish you strength over the coming weeks - it's all "firsts" now...you're in the middle of writing the first set of Christmas cards (no doubt you'll receive some addressed to you both as well, which will be awful), then it's into the first Christmas, the first New Year...and so it goes on.

It's very lonely to feel sad and bereft at a time of year when everyone is apparently full of cheer. On a more positive note, you obviously had a very good relationship with your OH and many people never achieve that. Hopefully the memory of those years will help to sustain you.

Please accept my sincere sympathy and best wishes.

MsB

Bennifred

Hope you have a happy and peaceful Christmas - safe journey!

CH27

((((Thorsoak))))

Comyface

Big hugs Thorsoak. My mum's in a similar position as my dad died this year. I cried on my birthday when I got a card signed by just my mum for the first time ever and my mum cried on her birthday too. It's the 'first' of everything, as has been said. I'll be keeping a close eye on my mum, as I'm sure your DD will for you.

All the best. x.

dottygirl

It has been 6 years since I said goodbye to my lovely daughter. For a few years I never sent Christmas cards, writing them was just too much for me. I sent money to a Heart charity. Then I wrote the family names and a heart and a kiss with my daughters initial. My heart goes out to you and all the other people going through their first Christmas without their loved ones x

flutterbyuk25

love to you, hope you find the strength to get through this time

x

bluebeary

hugs for you, have a safe journey and wonderful time with your family

nearlyrich

It must be awful I am so sorry for your loss, I have been writing cards today, tried to be sensitive with people who have lost a parent or a partner this year, they probably don't want cards with have a great Christmas on them, I have written thinking of you at Christmas on mine, I hope you have a good break with your DD Thorsoak and come back ready to face the future with your memories of your lovely OH...

victory

I know, it is awful, it is beyond words, have as best time as you can with your trip and your family and when you come back like you say you can tell him all about it