Should I ask to go into hospital? I feel like I'm in crisis with mental health

whitewing

You're a sweetheart, John. I am so glad that people here have been able to help you understand your situation and help you make good decisions about the help you are getting.

meritaten

I am so glad you are safe and well hun! and that you heard the kids! look after yourself and take your time in getting yourself back to normality! ((((hugs))))

thatgirlsam

Hi John

Its nice to hear that you are starting to feel better

I just wanted to say that if you feel bad or have thoughts of hurting yourself over xmas please go to A&E

My best friend is a sister in our A&E and she has already told a few of her patients that she is there all day xmas day and that they can come in and be with her or see her for a cup of tea if they are alone or feel down on xmas day

I imagine that most nurses will feel the same on xmas day - don't feel like you are bothering them

Hope you have a peaceful xmas... I will be thinking of you

euronorris

Hi John,

Have you looked here: http://www.thecalmzone.net/what-is-calm/

The website is aimed at men specifically, who are having a hard time, for one reason or another. Theoretically, it is aimed at men under 35, but (I checked) they do offer help and support to anyone, or any age or gender, so it may be of use to you. Plus, you may simply find that the information, and articles on there 'speak' to you, ie, you may read a lot of them and think that these people understand you better. They also have a helpline, and expect that they would be able to point you in the right direction.

Now, this next part shouldn't be approached until you are feeling stronger, and more able to deal with it. But, I thought you may find this useful with respect to the situation with your wife and children:

Perhaps there is a mediation service you could use to facilitate contact between you and them. This mayeliminate the need for you to receive any contact from your wife directly, and may result in increasing your contact with your children. Here is a site about mediation in the UK: http://www.nfm.org.uk/support-me-im/a-parent and also there is parentline: http://www.nfm.org.uk/support-me-im/a-parent. The mediation services offered is free if you qualify for Community Legal Service Fund (formerly Legal Aid).

I hope that helps, and I hope that each day is brighter, and you feel stronger.

RAS

Hi John

Really please to hear that the world feels a bit kinder and that you want to use the services available.

With respect to the children, given how much it means to you to hear their voices, is there any way over Christmas of your mum recording them singing a song or something that your ex would not relaise is for you?

Then you can listen to them when you want? A little thing but it might help?

big5

Nice to hear from you John, I was wondering how you were getting on. I'm glad you'll be getting some support and that your wife's behaviour towards you is being taken seriously. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you'll be able to speak to and see your children again soon.

flutterby_lil

Hi John

Just wanted to echo what the others have said and glad you are seeming brighter and getting help from somebody.

How old are the children?

Is there any way of seeing them via a friend or anything to keep your spirits up? I guess you are split up and I don;t know the ins and out but you sound so much happier by hearing them so just a thought.

Good luck - keep talking on here and letting us know how you are, it's good to talk x