Money (bbc programme)

VestanPance

I caught a part of this, but had to turn it over die to the woman mentioned making me angry. The few clips of her scientist husband and you witnessed a man with his life being sucked out him by his horrible creature of a wife.

must_try_harder_2

I actually was screaming at the tele about that woman. 34k is a good salary, and he worked extremely hard so he can do a job he loved. Why should he just give that up? If she'd bothered to do the same she'd be earning more now and they wouldn't need the extra money anyway. And how would they cope without the salary of 34k for 3/4 years while he retrained?

Plus if he can't even argue the case with that stupid idiotic cow of a woman he'd make a rubbish lawyer anyway!

pinkfluffythings

Made me angry, she should be thankful the man has a job

esmerelda98

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

However, it was the way she said it, rather than what she said, that annoyed me. I wouldn't try to guilt trip my husband like she did, but I don't think that there's anything wrong with trying to help your husband/wife achieve what they're capable of.

Well for me it was what she said as well. We are talking about a man earning £34,000, not £12,000. If they manage their income well, their children can have many of the advantages afforded by a private education, without actually having a private education. However, I mostly wanted to point out that many biomedical scientists earn considerably less than £34,000. These are people prepared to accept modest salaries for the satisfaction they get from, hopefully, making a difference. New medical treatments, including cancer treatments don't appear out of nowhere.

Sometimes people don't have the confidence to aspire to 'better' jobs, but sometimes they really don't want to acheive more than they already do and may just end up terribly anxious and unhappy. That sounds a bit odd, but what I mean is, some people want to be in the comfortable position of knowing their job 'inside out'. That's more important to them than more money and a 'better' social status.

Suzanne_Louise

She infuriated me too! 34K is quite a lot of money to earn, in a position he's worked damn hard to reach, and in a field (arthritis research, I think??) that's incredibly important in the medical world!

If she wants him to be a lawyer so much, she should retrain!

Grrrr - silly moo.

j.e.j.

saidan wrote: »

did anyone watch Money (couples) on BBC 2?

iplayer:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b0183pgl/Money_Couples/

i watched on i-player and could not believe the one couple where the woman was moaning at her dh to leave his job which he loved (scientist PHD 34K) and get a higher paid one that he probably wouldn't like eg lawyer.
while she worked part-time in an office with only GCSE's to her name (she did not reveal her income but guessing near minimum wage)

i felt like screaming at the screen - get off your bum love and get some more qualifications and a better paid job if you want more money coming in the house.

disgraceful :mad:............but an interesting insight to other peoples finances

saidan

I did not see the programme, but I do think a lot of things on tv are edited/presented to make you think in a certain way..

esmerelda98

j.e.j. wrote: »

I did not see the programme, but I do think a lot of things on tv are edited/presented to make you think in a certain way..

People do have to take responsibility for what actually comes out of their mouth, though. There's only so much you can blame on editing, unless a complete retraction of previous comments was edited out.

Welshwoofs

My view on life is quite simple - if you want more money into your household, if you want the trappings of a good career then do it yourself. Sorry, but staying at home to bring up kids is no excuse for bullying a partner into climbing the ladder on your behalf. In fact, given the divorce rate these days I'd say it's rather short-sighted to choose to stay in a basic job and not acquire skills/qualifications but live out your career fantasies vicariously via your husband.

I think some people need to realise that having children and being a SAHM is a choice and that choice comes with some penalties. In many cases you will not progress your career as far as someone who either a) doesn't have children at all or b) does, but goes back to work quickly. People can't have it all and if that woman wasn't happy with her lot then it's in her power to change it herself.

Aimless

esmerelda98 wrote: »

People do have to take responsibility for what actually comes out of their mouth, though. There's only so much you can blame on editing, unless a complete retraction of previous comments was edited out.

My mother was on a tv show, she was aware of being very heavily led by the questioning (which was of course edited out) to say particular things. She didn't follow along, but some of the others in the show said some slightly silly stuff which they were probably led to.

not_tonight_josephine_2

j.e.j. wrote: »

I did not see the programme, but I do think a lot of things on tv are edited/presented to make you think in a certain way..

Interestingly enough, there was a column on the programme in the Guardian yesterday and Nathalie commented on the article a few times - it sounded very much as though the programme had been edited to make her look bad, she certainly comes across a lot better in her comments here:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/tv-and-radio/2011/dec/06/money-tv-review