Neighbour finds our christmas lights "annoying"...

magenta22

Personally, I think it's too early for decorations to be up. What happened to the twelve days of Christmas?

The problem here is that you think they look nice but you are not looking at them, there is a house in our street who has all the outdoor decorations up, I wouldn't like to be opposite them because when they are all on togehter they are quite bright and they don't blink either.

I think the problem is that people do it all so early now.

You seem to keep saying about the neighbour should close her curtains or how her room is arranged but in all honesty, why should she?

We have a path which has lights that glare into our bedroom even with the curtains closed, and yes I did complain about them.

It could also be that when she had her lodgers, someone did complain but it was anonymous and she thinks it was you as you said about blocking the drive. Perhaps you should have complained.

You probably should have asked her at the time the exact reason why she complained about them. Basically you either ignore her and keep them as they are or come to some sort of compromise, like turning them off a little earlier? what did you say to her when she did tell you they were annoying?

BTW - I have a family member who also has Aspergers, okay all are different but this didn't need to be done all they are bothered about is presents!

Sometimes you think you are the most considerate neighbour but actually when someone points something out....

ab.da54

Nicki wrote: »

Would you be happy if your neighbour decided to practise his bagpipes every night between 6 and 10pm for five and a half weeks continuously in preparation for New Years Eve, provided he didn't do it at all for the rest of the year? You could wear headphones or earplugs to minimise any noise disruption.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Based on that logic, the neighbour could wear a blinfold indoors to minimise any light disruption!

Desperado99

I'm loving this thread, highly entertaining...

Almost on a par with last christmas's 'caravan' thread

adouglasmhor

I haven't got neighbours across the road, I have a street light, a 50 years disused railway line down a small embankment with mature trees growing on it and a right of way on the far side and then a municipal golf course.
This thread has made me feel quite lucky.

Bumpmakesfour

Wow you guys have been busy!!
Just something I want to say firstly..you know how my neighbour and lots of posters on here find christmas lights annoying?
Well..I find sweeping generalisations like the one below annoying!
I hate how because someone knows someone with a condition they assume all are affected in the same way!!I read this and literally laughed at the ignorance ...

magenta22 wrote: »

BTW - I have a family member who also has Aspergers, okay all are different but this didn't need to be done all they are bothered about is presents!

For your information my DS actually finds opening presents very stressful.He hates the attention on him and will take one present,hold it a bit,put it back,pick it up again,then me or DH will go in to a different room with him whilst he opens it.His sisters will tear their gifts open but DS has presents left under the tree for most of december/into jan.So don't ASSUME my child is just like your family member just because they have the same "label" please..drives me bloody mad

pimento

Nicki wrote: »

That's my point! A week a year is bearable. Two weeks at a push. Or even 10% of the year, spread over the whole year. But five and a half weeks, every day for four hours solid

These are static Christmas lights. Did you look at the OPs snap? Hardly Las Vegas.

I really can't see what the neighbour's problem is. If they offend you so much, shut your curtains.

GobbledyGook

It could be that the neighbour is being entirely unreasonable by complaining, but she might not be.

Take my neighbours lights - I can see them flickering on and off through vertical blinds AND curtains. Even when they are not on flash mode they are so damn bright that you can see the glow all the time.

Should I really have to move my furniture or buy different curtains so as not to be annoyed with them? It's actually really, really irritating. Especially as in every previous year he has had them at the side of his house, which as the last house in our bit didn't impact on anyone. However his wife got fed up with them so this year they are out the front.

Currently he puts them on at 8pm, which is fine because my children are in bed by then. If he puts them on earlier I will have to say something because my daughter has epilepsy - flickering/flashing lights can bring on seizures. Is that unreasonable of me?

It's not always about being miserly or scrooge, but sometimes neighbours with outdoor Christmas lights can be inconsiderate.

victory

Marisco wrote: »

Now these are Xmas lights!!:D

Some of my friends moved to USA and they all look like this it is a proper competition out there:rotfl::rotfl:

ab.da54

GobbledyGook wrote: »

It's not always about being miserly or scrooge, but sometimes neighbours with outdoor Christmas lights can be inconsiderate.

Yes, I agree.

I also think that, sometimes, some people will moan for the sake of it, when the lights are only a mild irritant.

As has been said, compromise is the key here. The neighbour should not expect the OP to turn them off and the OP should not just expect the neighbour to put up with them.

Hopefully a compromise can be reached and waiting until 7pm before switching on may be a good one.

dizziblonde

We once had neighbours with a 9 year old learning the trombone... do we win the prize? It's got to trump a week of bagpipes.

Oh I see the OP's getting increasingly indignant... and now we learn the truth, it wasn't a thread wanting opinions it was one wanting validation that "my kids and my family and my wants matter more than anyone else - tell me I'm right or I'll sulk"... can't stand threads like those.