My child has been reported to social services

Courgette

This must just be terrible for you. I know it's easy for me to say, but really try not to worry. Very soon it will just be a really unpleasant memory. Good idea about taking her to the drs though.

Thinking of you x

sassyblue

OP l totally understand what you're going through... my little one slipped on a piece of paper when he was 14 months, he did the splits and the leg that went backwards twisted and caused a hairline fracture of one bone in his thigh

He wouldn't stand and we thought it was his ankle that was hurt as it seemed to swell so we rushed through to A & E, 4 hrs later he got x-rayed and they found the break on the last x-ray they did, l dread to think what would have happened if they didn't do that one and we went home, anyway... they got a consultant down (of some department) without our knowledge who said the 'break was consistent with our story' !!

I don't know if it was referred to SS but l know l was in a terrible state thinking they nurses and doctors would all think me or hubby hurt our baby. It was so bad l went to the doctors the next day terrified we'd get him taken off us and he laughed at me! He was so good putting my mind at rest and SS may get in touch and he'd have to explain what he thought - and that was that he had no worries.

He was the doctor who helped me get through 7 years of trying to have a baby, so l guess he knew me well enough to know l wouldn't hurt a fly and l never heard another thing.

OP, l'm sure you'll be fine.

Mojisola

It's not only injuries to children that are questioned. I had to take my elderly Dad to hospital because of a suspected broken arm. He'd made me promise not to tell how he'd done it but the medics got more and more concerned and were starting to question me. I didn't want them thinking it was a case of "elder abuse" and got him to admit that, at 80+, he'd been trying out his grandson's new skateboard and had fallen off. Relief all round and quite a few laughs about it!

pauletruth

what you must not do is hide your child if it has a injury. that will set the warning radars off big style. serously its not a big deal just some council worker ticking some paperwork to cover their back. if your a good mum and have no history then social services won't be intrested. think if every child required a social worker to visit every time they were injured then we would need a massive increase in social workers.

Mips

I had social services involved quite recently. My son got hurt whilst at his Dads house.

The school contacted Social Services, who came to my house to do an assessment on me (and the house), went to their Dads house (to do same) and also went into the School a few times to talk to the children and play games like happy house or sad house... things that helps them pick up on what the child is experiencing at home. They also watched how we all interracted etc..

They were involved a few weeks and it upset me, however, they were brilliant and it's all done and dusted now

Don't worry about it - just let them do their job. I understand it's stressful and frightening but everything innocent can be explained

Cherry_Bomb

Last Sept DS fell out of his midi-bed and hit his back on the bottom stair which resulted in a nasty looking bruise between his shoulder blades. He was absolutely fine, no serious injury and that was that. Sent him off to school as normal. In hindsight I probably should have said DS had an accident but at the time I didn't think it was an issue.

2 weeks later I received a letter from SS saying they would like to visit regarding DS. Initially I was mortified and really upset but the more I thought about it the more I thought how this particular bruise could look a bit suspicious.

If anyone has ever had to attend Safe Guarding training they would know injuries in unusual areas such as between the shoulder blades for example should be looked into. Simple cuts to knees, shins etc are common so don't tend to draw attention
I'm guessing the school reported it. They probably spotted it when he was getting changed for PE.

A social worker came round one evening. First of all spoke to DS alone who told her what happened. He even showed her his bed and the spot where he 'landed' Everything was absolutely fine and I got a letter not long after saying no further action would be taken.

Personally I'd rather things like this were looked into. Yes it's annoying when you know full well it's a harmless accident but surely it's better to know for sure than let a child potentially slip through the net?

Nicki

pauletruth wrote: »

what you must not do is hide your child if it has a injury. that will set the warning radars off big style. serously its not a big deal just some council worker ticking some paperwork to cover their back. if your a good mum and have no history then social services won't be intrested. think if every child required a social worker to visit every time they were injured then we would need a massive increase in social workers.

I agree. A few years ago my son aged 7 was assaulted by an adult at a party, who dragged him across a gravel playground by his feet, causing his back to be badly cut and bruised. The first thing I did on Monday morning was go into school and speak to the Child Protection Officer in school and explain what had happened. I also reported the situation to the GP and to the police, and the adult in question was arrested, charged with assault and cautioned. At no time were we contacted by social services. I am quite sure though that if I hadn't mentioned it to the school, that they would have made a report the first time he changed for PE after the incident happened!

magenta22

It's something they have to do.

Whilst it is annoying for you, if they didn't do it they would be in trouble if they missed something serious with another child.