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Do people not TALK to each other when they go out anymore??
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Well there you go.With five(soon to be 6) of us it gets expensive eating out so it is a treat for us and we do treat it as a social occasion.
Fine ok! I'm obviously in the majority and will carry on as we are being the odd ones out and behind the times by talking to our kids and expecting them to leave their iPod/DS etc behind when they are at the dinner tableSlightly mad mummy to four kidlets aged 4 months,6,7 and 8:D:D xx
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Bumpmakesfour wrote: »Well there you go.With five(soon to be 6) of us it gets expensive eating out so it is a treat for us and we do treat it as a social occasion.
Fine ok! I'm obviously in the majority and will carry on as we are being the odd ones out and behind the times by talking to our kids and expecting them to leave their iPod/DS etc behind when they are at the dinner table
I don't think it is a matter of being the odd one out... I just think it is a case of different people have different lives and different ways of doing things. Some people will be like yourselves, seeing a trip to the restaurant as something special in itself, whereas some will be like me who see a restaurant trip as something to do when I know I'll be too tired to cook anything myself.
Some people will get all their chit-chat done before they get to the restaurant whereas some will head to the restaurant straight from work/school and will be talkative there instead.
And some poor sods will still have to work, even in their "free" time, so will need to have their smartphones, tablet computers, laptops etc. on the go when they're out and about.
Some parents might even be tired themselves and take the kids to the restaurant, let them listen to their MP3s or play on a DS or PSP when their real reason for being there is they don't have the energy to cook.
There's probably a combination of the above that could be true as well.
And of course, there's probably a few families who just hate each other and only use restaurants because they don't trust the person who would otherwise be cooking not to lace the food with arsenic!0 -
And of course, there's probably a few families who just hate each other and only use restaurants because they don't trust the person who would otherwise be cooking not to lace the food with arsenic!
Haaaa!! That made me laugh:rotfl:Slightly mad mummy to four kidlets aged 4 months,6,7 and 8:D:D xx
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I hate phones at the table especially, but also if I'm out with friends for drinks I go spare if they text/FB/Tweet all night. .
also people who visit your home with their phones on and take every text and call. I think mobiles are great for eergencies, and would expect someone to take a call from a child, a babysitter, a school or a parent/ in short someone involved in care for them or who they care for. And work calls too. But replying to social texts etc while visiting a friend just seems rude to me.0 -
How about the friends who you go out with,they take a pic on their phone and before you even get a chance to get to them to have a look they're uploading it on FB.Or when you move on to the next place/pub/restaurant they're walking along updating their location :rotfl:Slightly mad mummy to four kidlets aged 4 months,6,7 and 8
:D:D xx
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Bumpmakesfour wrote: »How about the friends who you go out with,they take a pic on their phone and before you even get a chance to get to them to have a look they're uploading it on FB.Or when you move on to the next place/pub/restaurant they're walking along updating their location :rotfl:
honestly, none of my friends are that mad. Most operating a facebook thing are doing so for self promotion so its ''work'', some for ''social reasons'' but fewer of them and not ''on my time'' with them. TBH, if they did I don't think we'd be friends for much longer. I had a big falling out with a friend who put a picture of us together on facebook and I explained I prefer not to be pictured/named on it and she didn't get it for a while.
Since we have sorted the situation and the picture came down pretty quickly I think.0 -
I also think it's sad when going on a longer journey and kids are watching the back screen tellies all the time, what happened to a good old game of eye spy and all the other car games...
I used to say that, and refused to allow MIL to buy them for our car. After the motorway floods about 4 years ago turned a 2-hour journey into a 12-hour one I relented though, because my 2 year old (only just 2, it was his birthday and he wasn't much good at eye spy back then) would have liked a bit of Peppa Pig. Luckily it arrived just before he was stuck in isolation in hospital :T
We limit screen time, and would never get out a Ds or DVD player for a journey of an hour or 2 but you never know how long these families have been travelling for. One mum I know got a DVD player for driving across england and france on the way to Spain. It's a very long journey for little ones.
We do play car games, but when the journey is reaaaaaaaally long the electronic dummies can be a useful addition to the games/songs/stories.52% tight0 -
I don't think it's a sign of the times though, when I was a kid I went everywhere with a book. And I mean everywhere!
Me too - my parents used to joke about me walking into lamp-posts etc.
The difference was that it was only the kids of a certain age who would be reading a book - the parents wouldn't, and there would be some conversation. My parents made me put my book down for meals and would never have let me take one to a restaurant or party.
I was ignorant as a teenager and would rather have had my walkman on than talk to my parents. Nowadays even 3 and 4 year olds are sat on the bus with a DS though, and even if they weren't their mums wouldn't look up from facebook.52% tight0 -
Right now, I really have got lots of things I should be doing .. I have to walk the dog, ive got to put the washing on the airer, I really MUST scrub the shower cubicle ... But what am I doing, i'm on the bl***y laptop talking to you lot LOL
See where i'm coming from???Some days I wake up Grumpy ... Other days I let him lie in.0 -
my OH stares at his phone/internet screen all evening, if it wasnt his phone it would be the tv or the laptop, he is totally addicted and has aspergers and finds human communications hard anyway, what i mistook for shyness turned out to be a lot deeper, so i wouldnt go out for the evening unless he left his gadgets at home and force him to make small talk , his idea of small talk is the history of british pressed glass 1843 - 1880 (specifically), bird watching or airbus, deep joy. at home i turn the tv off and wont serve dinner until the tv is off , but its a struggle for him and the children to endure dinner without the tv on and without my OH making random noises/tics, at the moment he parrots tv adverts in the past he has made kronk kronk raven noises , you have to laugh or you would cry, i do love him bless him but the gadgets drive him further into his aspie world0
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