A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

Mrs_Chip

:think: :think: :think: Hmmmm.... soooo difficult. So many delicious meals lol!

Whe we were first married we used to a tiny restaurant near to where we lived. It was very 70 bistro - candles in bottles, camp waiter (actually the owner who was married with a child lol). The chef was spanish, the kitchen minute, but the food was fabulous, and cheap. We ate there as often as we could afford and every meal was as good as the last. It was there that I became addicted to avocado, spinach and bacon salad, which I could eat all day every day:rotfl: Then they bought the shop next door, expanded, built a much bigger kitchen and it was never the same again...

Then there was the tiny restaurant in Launceston where the chef had spent years working in London hotels, and who specialised in fish - fresh and simple. he made the most wonderful fish soup from all the trimmings and sold it for 99p a bowl - bargain! And he made these delicious deep fried mussels... and cooked wonderful steak (from the butchers we will be visiting next week) and garlic saute potatoes to die for. We used to go twice a week when we were down there, then one day when I phoned to make our usual bookings it was a new voice, new owners, all awful, holiday ruined and many wistful memories!

Next was the restaurant in Fishguard which our friend and her partner ran. Her food was simple but refined, and again we ate there as often as we could. We became friends and they used to ring us and ask up up for supper after service, and we would eat the leftovers. But what leftovers! Then they split up, and the restaurant was no more. So glad she is back cooking for herself and we can eat her lovely food again.

So many other places we have had great and memorable meals, it is impossible to pick a favourite, just glad we were fortunate enough to have found such delightful restaurants.

Can you tell we like our grub ?

BitterAndTwisted

But it's not hard to learn not to buy things if you have no money for them at all. Meme30 with your help and guidance I'm sure your daughter and SIL will be OK even if the work situation doesn't turn out to be a good one. If I can mend my naughty ways and keep my head above water anyone can.

I had a lovely weekend away at my sister's in Berkshire. Drank some wine, had a laff and got some really great swag in the charity shops on Saturday, partly financed by the lovely sister slipping me a tenner to get something nice for myself. Bless!

As the weather was carp on Monday sister asked if I'd be OK with having a scour round the shops as she needed a couple of end-tables for her new sofa and a couple of lamps to go on them. A fifteen minute drive and a ten-minute browse saw over 350 quid being dropped, just like that. Lucky! Still, the items chosen were lovely as I was the taste-arbiter. She must not be left on her own to make important decisions. Oh no, she can't.

HOORAY FOR PENNY-PINCHER AND OH!!!! Very, very well done! It gave me such pleasure to read that you're getting it all sorted satisfactorily. And sod his stupid signed document. He deserves what's coming. In spades. *B&T does the happy, happy dance*

kidcat

I was wondering if there would be a big article in PP local paper - if not maybe there should be "Dont Buy A Car From This Person" type thing.

Byatt

kidcat wrote: »

Thanks Byatt - on my calm and rational days I understand that OH is acting this way as probable signs of ASD - but some days its "stupid autism!!"

I am always in awe of the people who can embrace it all and say they wouldnt want it any other way - I love my kids dearly but if I could remove the auty bit then I think I would - and certainly I would remove OH auty bit!!

Shegar - I find that too, we have loads of charity shops but the clothes they sell are way over priced - T-shirt from Mr A for £5:eek: only cost £3 new. If they had good quality items then I would consider paying but am not paying higher than new price for supermarket stuff.

Shelley- if you are an Ikea family card holder (anyone can join its free) you get free tea or coffee in the restaurant during the week. When we loved a few minutes away I used to use it as my hidey hole if things were getting too much at home. Its a bit too far ordinarily now, but as I knew I was at meltdown stage I spoilt myself!:D

Its pouring with rain here and the plants are looking swamped - disaster at every turn

I think there are auty bits which make the person, and then there are auty bits which make it so hard for them and for those that live/care for them. Having a partner with auty bits is just so difficult, not least because their behaviour can look so bad to people outside. Doesn't mean you can't get irritated or annoyed either. I have moments when I "lose it" with my DD, because she seems to go out of her way at times to make things harder!

Good idea about the newspaper for PP's 'orrible trader!

stiltwalker

kidcat wrote: »

Thanks Byatt - on my calm and rational days I understand that OH is acting this way as probable signs of ASD - but some days its "stupid autism!!"

I am always in awe of the people who can embrace it all and say they wouldnt want it any other way - I love my kids dearly but if I could remove the auty bit then I think I would - and certainly I would remove OH auty bit!!

Hugs kidcat. Know exactly what you mean, if I could take away DD's physical and communication disabilities I would in a heartbeat - provided of course I could keep her personality just the way it is because she is fantastic. OH, wonderful though he is has one or two trait I'd blitz while I was at it, not least his impulse control - when he thinks of something he wants to do it NOW!!!! never mind what I need him to do ie suddenly deciding to install a new computer thingy 2 minutes before tea when I need the table setting! Not auty but dyslexic with dyspraxic traits. Mind you there's a whole bunch of stuff I wouldn't swap for all the whoopsied fillet steak going!

PP - :j:j that's all I can say!

Feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment - got too much on my plate and could use a bit more assistance. OH is a bit preoccupied with his final assignment and I've got an assignment and an exam in the next 6 weeks! It's sometimes frustrating as his dad was an old fashioned nowt about the house or kids type so OH thinks that by doing as much as he does he's being a big help when really he could be doing more without stretching himself! DD going through a phase of lots of appointments and other ones that haven't come through yet that I have to nag about. On the plus side her words are getting clearer at the moment and she's much more willing to talk to people so at least now the blummin speech therapist will have to believe she can actually talk!:mad:

Sorry for the rant guys, better get off and sort tea now.

katieowl_2

Byatt wrote: »

I think there are auty bits which make the person, and then there are auty bits which make it so hard for them and for those that live/care for them. Having a partner with auty bits is just so difficult, not least because their behaviour can look so bad to people outside. Doesn't mean you can't get irritated or annoyed either. I have moments when I "lose it" with my DD, because she seems to go out of her way at times to make things harder!

Good idea about the newspaper for PP's 'orrible trader!

*Nods head vigorously in agreement* I'm firmly of the opinion my DS js on the spectrum, he's incredibly high functioning, but hell yeah there are bits that make it VERY hard to live with, and other bits...well that you wouldn't trade for gold. Tough mix to live with

Kate

kidcat

Stiltwalker - clear words are a really good thing - until they talk so much you desperately wish for an off switch My dd6 never stops chattering, its quite a shock having had two boys that were non verbal.
Is there any way you can maybe have a daily household to do list and "encourage" OH to join in with it. Good luck

Byatt

All I've done today is eat and I'm still hungry, or at least want something that feels like comfort food. Any suggestions?

kidcat

No wonder you are hungry - everyone has posted all their wonderful food memories - I am starving

Byatt - rice pudding?

smileyt_2

Byatt wrote: »

All I've done today is eat and I'm still hungry, or at least want something that feels like comfort food. Any suggestions?

(Look away now, Mardatha!) - porridge with golden syrup?