seperation time, who leave the house?

DUTR

helenathena wrote: »

so there is no real clear cut answer i guess, i didnt think there was, but thanks for replying anyway
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Remember also, though one make 'kick' the other out, does the resider really want to stay in a home that is no more and has history and memories?

Caroline73_2

JMHB wrote: »

I have to say I do agree with this. My exH has the house (that he allegedly decorated...) but any future girlfriends are taken back to what was "our" house, "our" bed etc. He wanted it that way though probably only so that I couldn't.

I feel I can hold my head up high that I have brought my son away from a moody controlling atmosphere to a place of peace and can soon buy us somewhere funded by my half share of the family home and by my working which I have done for 28 years.

The advantage of one buying the other out, of course, is that it can be settled sooner than waiting for a buyer.

I must admit it had never occurred to me to stay in the house until I'd bought somewhere else - that would have made for a very trying 6 months or so but some do.

I left a beautiful house that I loved. My son and I moved into my parents and shared a room while we waited for the marital house to be sold so I could buy a much smaller house. I was lucky being able to move to my parents but I would have stayed in the marital home during the selling process if I'd had to. The house wasn't as nice but I had the satisfaction of knowing it was mine and I was paying for it. Even if ex stopped the maintenance I could still afford it. It was all part of moving on for everyone involved.

C_Mababejive

What happens is that the woman fabricates lies and has her unwanted partner thrown out,made homeless and yet liable for paying for her to stay in the house.

princessdreamer

No-one can force someone to pay for something, unless it us for children. Depends on a lot of thing TBH

kingfisherblue

I'm still in the home that I lived in when I was married. As I said earlier, it has been adapted for our son's needs, as he is disabled. In addition, it is in the village where I grew up, and just round the corner from my mum. My ex wanted to move to another town to be with his new partner, so he didn't want the house anyway.

It isn't particularly weird that I wanted to stay here. It is my children's home and they had already had enough upheaval, without being removed from their home, their friends, and possibly their schools (depending on where we moved to, if we had had to move).
My children and I love our home, we love living in our village. Nothing weird about that.

Lady_Aga

Ravenlady wrote: »

Who ever can change the locks and pack the others stuff up the quickest and lay it out on the lawn.

Illegal, yes. Does it work, 9 times out of 10 yes it does because the police will view it as domestic and a civil case and probably wont bother turning up to it so getting a solicitor is usually the only way to regain access *(or big bloke with sledge hammer)

Oh my word. Probably best not to throw anyone's stuff out and change the locks. Only if you want to spend a night in the cells and get charged with criminal damage and possibly a public order offence. Get flagged by the police as a person who has committed domestic abuse. That's a hard label to shake. You don't have to be physically violent. Bail conditions to stay away from the property. A breach will put you in custody. No contact whatsoever via directly or indirectly with the victim. Even if your former partner makes a withdrawal statement and the case does not go ahead at court a restraining order can still be made against you.

The police do not view a 'domestic' case any differently to any other case these days. Your former partner cannot 'drop the charges'. There is no such thing.

People are more likely to be assaulted murdered by their partner JUST AFTER a relationship breaks down.

Best thing is probably to discuss between you and divvy things up. If it gets heated or unreasonable, then see a mediator. Be adult about it. Tantrums, threats and violence don't do anyone any good in the long term.

burnoutbabe

you agree that whilst selling the house, one moves into rented and you both pay half of both mortgage and flat rental costs, until house is sold. that seems the fairest way.

if you can't decide who gets to buy the house, it just gets sold to a 3rd party, at more cost to both parties.