Help need re separated parents and access

jillyjacks

thanks everyone for the input and advice...I have been away for a few days and couldnt reply sooner.....SD has made an appointement to see a solicitor next week for some advice so hopefully things will be a bit clearer after that
just to answer some of the questions and points raised......
........I agree that forging her signature is very worrying and that is her main concern...until he left he was a good dad and provided for the family, he is living with his mum at the moment so thats not ideal and we feel his main concern is to get a council house of his own (hence the forged signature ) and if he gets one he may not return the child back home and as RAS pointed out english court orders may not have any effect in scotland therefore she could potentially lose her son Getting him to pay for her to go there to visit sounds like a good idea in principle but I'm not sure how she'd feel going on her own...maybe a friend would be willing to go with her as moral support, she has met the mother in law and by all accounts she is a formidable woman who is firmly on her sons side in this matter.
the reason he left was entirely his decision..no foghts no arguing he just took off one day when she was at work...reasonss still unknown...he left a job down here and started a new one up there almost immediately. He says he cannot afford to travel up and down on a regular basis and hasnt paid maintenance since he went so not such a good dad....SD spoke to him about it and it seems he has been socialising with friends a lot and thats his priority at the moment!!

paddy's_mum

Then Dad is going to have to make a choice, isn't he? Social life or a few quid a month where the Mum brings the child up to visit.

clearingout

if he's working, she just needs to go to the CSA and they will sort out maintenance for her. That's not something that being in Scotland will protect him from! Plenty of dads are good in all ways but the money one (would you want money being forcibly removed from your wages at source?!) and it isn't reason to stop contact. The courts separate money and children entirely and it would be frowned upon to stop contact on the basis he doesn't pay maintenance. The phrase often head on the child support board is 'children are not pay per view'.