Stupid actions at weekend - feeling awful

mrsmather1

Not sure really why I'm posting here - I suppose I just need to clear my head a bit and get some perspective.

Friday night was my company christmas do - very posh dinner & dance.

I don't usually drink that much however due to not eating that much during the day I got plastered and as a result ended up rowing with my hubby.

I thought it wasn't that big a deal and we ended up having a really good weekend after. Just put it all down to too much drink.

Anyway am back at work today and have had a phone call from a work friend asking how we both were after Friday night. I asked why and she said well you and your hubby are the talk of the town after your row.

I really don't remember it being that bad and I don't want people talking about my hubby and I behind our backs.

Just want to crawl under rock. Just don't know what to do with myself now - am really out of sorts.

Any advice would be great

Smashing

mrsmather1 wrote:

I asked why and she said well you and your hubby are the talk of the town after your row.

Figure of speech. Yeah, some people are probably having a bit of a giggle in passing (lets face it - company parties are usually dull as !!!!!!) but it'll be old news in no time. Best way to deal with it - laugh it off. Even if you do feel like you're bursting into internal tears.
We've all got our embarrasing tales to tell - many of which seem to coincide with work gatherings so while it feels like a huge deal to you, it's probably the only thing worth mentioning on an otherwise dull night and isn't even that big a deal to even them.]

As an aside - xmas party? At the end of January?

victory

Smashing wrote:

As an aside - xmas party? At the end of January?

I thought that, even checked the posting date to see if it was an old one:j

Anyway, laugh with them, it will soon pass, ask them have they never had a row with their H? It is not such an uncommon thing after a few beers so keep the chatter light, airy, act as if you do not care all that much and it will pass and they will move on to another topic:j

welshcakes

On the positive side, if you and your hubby having a bit of a booze fueled arguement was news worthy for some observers, it's obviously a relationship where people wouldn't expect any conflict ie a sound partnership. If you were considered a typical married couple where arguing a the norm, no one would be batting an eyelid - take it as a compliment and a testimony to how unusual it is for you two to argue.

Blimey, I wonder if the ones talking about it are single, I don't know of any marriage apart from my parents that hasn't had a public showdown at least once (but they have no social life anyway!)

As they say, today's news is tomorrow's fish and chip paper. As long as you and hubby are back on track, does it really matter if the odd bored work colleague needs some gossip to fill the next few days?

PurpleDuck

Smashing wrote:

As an aside - xmas party? At the end of January?

Where I worked once we had ours at the beginning of February :rolleyes: It was cheaper then apparently :rolleyes:



I shouldn't worry. A works do rearely passes without an *event* of some sort and it will be soon forgotten. And I bet most of the people talking are only doing so because they have so little else to talk about in their lives
Smile and say it was the booze talking.

mrsmather1

Thank you so much for your replies.

I don't know why I care so much about what other people think - but you are all completely right, it will soon be forgotten.

BTW our companies busiest time is christmas hence the late party!

Cazzdevil

For crying out loud, what's these people's problem?! Have they never had crossed words with their other half??

If you let them know it's bothered you then they'll assume that something's still wrong, just be happy as normal and let them know that it wasn't a newsworthy event and shame on them for thinking so!

andycarmi

She is trying to dig the dirt when there is none to be had.;) Forget about it. It's not worth your time and effort there will be a new story tommorrow about someone eles:rolleyes:

Avoriaz

Just laugh it off. It will soon be yesterday’s news.

It is probably because you are normally so well behaved that people are talking. If you did this sort of thing regularly no one would pass much comment.

Try not to appear embarrassed or upset and remember that, although you may be thinking about it a lot, no one else really is. We are all far less important in others minds than we are in our own.

Front it out and, if anyone comments on the row, just say something along the lines of “If you thought the row was explosive, you should have been there for the making up sex afterwards”.

Depending on your personality and the office environment, you may want to adapt that comment.

People will be laughing with you and not at you.

NAR

mrsmather1 wrote:

Thank you so much for your replies.

I don't know why I care so much about what other people think - but you are all completely right, it will soon be forgotten.

You could put a positive spin on it with a white lie - that when you both sobered up you "made up" ever so passionately!! :blushing:

rizla01

Anyway, I'd rather be talked about than ignored.:)