separate bedrooms

vodkachick68

Hi all

Me and my hubby have been together for 17 years and for the past 5 years or so we have slept in separate bedrooms. This is because my hubby snores and i really need 7-8 hrs sleep a night,he also suffers with slight insommnia. We have tried all snoring remedies but to no avail. We do still love each other and it doesn't seem to effect our normal activities (if you know what i mean!) We are happy with the arrangement,but i just wanted to know if anyone else sleeps separately.

Thanks

DUTR

If it works for you, then carry on, what other people are doing should bear little resemblence on your relationship.

Any

Yep! I found I am much better wife that way, because before I would be tired, ratty and would explode when pushed.

Also my OH says that I heat the bed up to 100 degrees with my body temperature and he is too hot with me!! Aparently I turn into central heating unit.

spicyprawn

Yes me and my husband sleep separately. I have eczema and used to scratch all night keeping him awake and myself because the more I thought about trying not to scratch the more I would do it! Friends and family thought it was a weird but it works for us.

pinkclouds

If it makes you feel better, going by what my mother has told me about her (very large) circle of friends, the hubby snoring issue becomes quite common as you get older (and, on occasion, even earlier) and it is actually quite normal to kip in separate bedrooms if the snoring is too loud. (There is also apparently a getting up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet issue, which is also quite annoying. Clearly mens' bodies start to wear out a long time before the ladies do! )

In any case, I personally do not believe that sleep deprivation (a recognised form of torture) is a sign of affection!! Carry on with your happy arrangement. x

Bennifred

Another couple who sleep apart here!
OH snores, is like a furnace and also works odd shifts; I am a very light sleeper, suffer with restless legs, hate being overheated and am bad-tempered if short of sleep so it is the obvious solution. We get on better than ever.......

Any

pinkclouds wrote: »

In any case, I personally do not believe that sleep deprivation (a recognised form of torture) is a sign of affection!! Carry on with your happy arrangement. x

You are soooo right!!! Only 2 things can get me into such a state that you "ping" me on my nerves and I can rip your head off!!!

Hunger and long term lack of sleep. Put it to me combined and I can turn into killing machine used in hard combat:D

Tropez

If it works for you and you're both happy with the arrangement then it is fine.

When I have a cold I sleep in a different room to limit the chance my partner has of catching it and I know that I snore from time to time so if it was impacting her sleep then I would move to a different room as well.

I have to admit though, I would be very, very sad if we ever had to sleep in different rooms permanently as waking up to her every morning is the best way to start my day.

k3lvc

vodkachick68 wrote: »

Hi all
We do still love each other and it doesn't seem to effect our normal activities (if you know what i mean!)

As long as you still manage to share the kitchen, bathroom, dining table, stairs etc etc then I wouldn't worry .

The point at which you can't even be on the same floor as each other is the beginning of the end

Janey3

We sleep separately on a part-time basis - when I can no longer face another sleepless night due to hubby's snoring - I move into the spare room and remain there for a couple of nights to catch up with my sleep. It beats lying awake all night seething. He has tried remedies for the snoring, but nothing works.

Slinky_Malinky

I know of three couples who sleep apart and have very happy marriages.