why is house buying so hellish?

thelovelygirl

I really don't understand why it has to be so fraught and stressful - why can't sellers answer simple enquiries without weeks going by -why can't solicitors talk to each other - we have still not exchanged two weeks after we were hoping to and we are hoping to complete next friday! I have had to take sick leave I am so stressed with it all - I even phoned up the sellers solicitors and cried down the phone at them to beg them to sort whatever it was they needed to do.... this should have been a simple purchase - FTB empty house - owners in care home need money for fees was told they want a quick sale 11 weeks later after having everything our side done in under 6 weeks and i am definitely going bonkers with it all - I can definitely see how people commit sucide over it - surely there has to be an easier way????

Fingers crossed we exchange on monday and complete friday

wackorash84

thelovelygirl wrote: »

I really don't understand why it has to be so fraught and stressful - why can't sellers answer simple enquiries without weeks going by -why can't solicitors talk to each other - we have still not exchanged two weeks after we were hoping to and we are hoping to complete next friday! I have had to take sick leave I am so stressed with it all - I even phoned up the sellers solicitors and cried down the phone at them to beg them to sort whatever it was they needed to do.... this should have been a simple purchase - FTB empty house - owners in care home need money for fees was told they want a quick sale 11 weeks later after having everything our side done in under 6 weeks and i am definitely going bonkers with it all - I can definitely see how people commit sucide over it - surely there has to be an easier way????

Fingers crossed we exchange on monday and complete friday

Don't worry, you are not the only one going through this stressful process.

We had our offer accepted early Sept thinking we could complete by the end of October. Mortgage valuation, building survey and mortgage application done within the same week. Official mortgage offer received by mid October. However due to the vendor's/vendor's solicitors incompetence we are still awaiting to exchange. It took the vendor's solicitors 4 weeks before they sent our solicitor the property information form, fixtures and fittings form, and draft contract.

Upon my solicitor raising further queries, it took the vendor's solicitors another 2 weeks to reply, and when the did, it was by post. Also, I've got to ring around, the EA to contact the vendor and vendor's solicitor and my solicitor every week to find out what's going on, and pressure them to get a move on. Otherwise no one seems to be bothered to tell me the situation.

Anyway, hopefully you'll get some good luck soon.

Linus2864

OP, you have my sympathy - and probably the sympathy of many others!

What may seem a straightforward sell/buy can become drawn out with search queries, questions about deeds and covenants, and solicitors not returning your calls. :mad:

Then multiply those problems by the number of others in the chain!

Just to repeat, I fully sympathise with you - there must be a better way to sell a house! :wall:

The only advice I can give is to keep taking deep breaths and to keep calling your solicitor to badger them and poke them.

Edited to add: A solicitor once sent some info to a non-existent e-mail address and when it bounced back, didn't bother to call and check the address. I only found out when I called to see how things were!

Best of luck!

Yorkie1

I can sympathise with your position but to say that people commit suicide over it is a) OTT, b) unevidenced, and c) belittling to those with such severe mental health problems.

missile

It seems the professionals have a vested interest in creating problems and dragging the process out. More days more dollars? It doesn't have to take so long and a good solicitor can usually expedite the process.

You can sell at auction. That is quick and relatively painless.

CLAPTON

you need to chill out

taking sick leave seems extremely irresponsible

it's only a house; there are lots of real problems in the world

the fact that the vendor is in a care home may well be a complicating factor if she is not mentally capable

googler

thelovelygirl wrote: »

FTB empty house - owners in care home need money for fees

!!!!!!, the owner has been turfed out of their home of possibly many years, and is being forced to sell their house to meet their care home fees.....

AND YOU THINK YOUR SITUATION IS THE HELLISH ONE...... !?!?!?!?

thelovelygirl

Right - for a start I do have mental health and physical health problems and we made the estate agent aware of them in the beginning and our solicitor - I can't go to work as I am unsafe to be there I have being having so many seizures - health and safety says NO - so not being irresponsible at all. I went from being in a good place with my mental health to crying uncontrollably yesterday and now back seeing the hospital.

It is evidenced that people commit suicide over buying house it is right up there with divorce and christmas - which is truly sad

We would not have entered in the sale if we had not been assured that the son who is selling the house wanted it done quickly - yet it has been him not communicating that is causing all the hassle.

I had wanted to buy a house for a long time and waited till I thought we would cope with it - if we ever go through the process again I think auction will be the way forward

this is a really judgemental and not particularly supportive forum and i don't really see the point of it all.....

ceegee

thelovelygirl wrote: »

I have had to take sick leave I am so stressed with it all - I even phoned up the sellers solicitors and cried down the phone at them to beg them to sort whatever it was they needed to do....

This is possibly the most ridiculous thing I have ever read on this site. Sick leave for house-buying stress.:eek:

For goodness' sake.........get a grip.

.....and how embarrassing that must have been for the poor solicitor.:eek:

desert_rose

Are you one of these 'Poor me', types perhaps? If things don't go your way....tears and tantrums?

May I suggest that if you're going to buy a house then you need to develop a more grown-up attitude to life's little vicissitudes. There are always problems in life you know....try laughing at them rather than crying about them.

googler

thelovelygirl wrote: »

Right - for a start I do have mental health and physical health problems

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this is a really judgemental and not particularly supportive forum and i don't really see the point of it all.....

Let's consider what problems the outgoing homeowner might have;

They're going into a care home. Possibly because of deterioration of mental health, possibly dementia, possibly for physical considerations; problems with hip or knees, maybe, and can't manage to get about anymore.

On the assumption the outgoing homeowner is a pensioner, it's a realistic possibility they fought in the second world war, and now, at the end of their life, the state that they fought to protect has abandoned responsibility for the provision of their care, and is demanding their home, possibly a home of many years, be sold to pay for that same care.

They're most likely feeling upset, abandoned and much more besides. They're probably having to dispose of a lot of items from their home that have sentimental value because there won't be room at the care home for them.

It's not all about you. If you want support from us, then can I ask what support you're giving to the poor soul being turfed out of their home? You seem to dismiss their circumstances as being unimportant.