Oh lord, what do I do?!

Pistachio

I am involved in student pastoral support and I would recommend you firstly talk to your personal tutor, then your pastoral person (there should be a member of teaching staff that is assisgned to student experience/pastoral care) and your Student Guidance Service. I would try and get some of this in writing (save your sent emails) since if it affects your exam performance you will have back up for mitigation should you need it. This is why you must liaise with your personal tutor since they would be your first port of call during the mitigation process.

The University will want to help you but also support the other student if they can.

Mrs_De_Bris

Pistachio has given you some good advice. I also work in a University and it is critically important that your personal tutor/course leader is aware of the situation and is kept up-to-date. Keep all of the texts/emails etc for mitigation purposes. They should really be calling him in for a chat. They need to support you now - not when things escalate. Please go back and tell them just how worried this is making you feel.

Stay away from him as best as you can, don't go to smoker's corner and try to always have another friend there. If there is any chance to switch seminar groups then do so.

Hope things get better soon and you are able to concentrate on your work

adelight

You don't have to be "in his company", distance yourself as much as possible. Don't sit near him, don't even smoke, make sure you are always with someone else and don't acknowledge him or talk about him to other friends on your course.
Making the staff aware of the stiuation was definitely a good move.

Errata

Steer clear, speak to a tutor and unless you're training to be a psychiatrist don't attempt to diagnose someone.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

My first bit of advice is try nicotine patches. That'll keep you out of the way. It might not be what you expected to have to do, but it's got to be better than nipping out for a crafty fag and worried all the time that he's going to show up at your corner and demand something from you.

doodoot

Thanks to everyone who has posted a constructive reply.

It isn't possible to move to another class, so I'm stuck where I am - there's only 1 seminar/lecture per module.

Quite a few of the other students know that something is going on because he has been saying things to them, and also on Facebook.

(Yes, the dreaded Facebook...the only reason for being on there is that I'm a member of a couple of University groups and we brainstorm ideas.)

I'm seeing one of the tutors involved tomorrow for something unrelated, but will have a chat about this lad with her - she told me on Monday that he's caused her a lot of problems by reporting her for no reason.

If he causes me any more aggravation, could he end up being thrown out?

I feel sick whenever I think about my next class, and whenever a text comes through I'm jumping like a frog.

doodoot

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

My first bit of advice is try nicotine patches. That'll keep you out of the way. It might not be what you expected to have to do, but it's got to be better than nipping out for a crafty fag and worried all the time that he's going to show up at your corner and demand something from you.

:rotfl: that's actually quite funny.

I can go for a few hours without nicotine, so bumping into him at smoker's corner isn't really an issue.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Why aren't you blocking his FB id and mobile from your phone?

doodoot

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Why aren't you blocking his FB id and mobile from your phone?

I blocked him on FB on Monday night, but only on my mobile yesterday - I couldn't remember how to do it so got a friend to do it for me.

The reason why I'm jumping is because I've gotten nervous - I have a lot of stress at the moment with various things, so this problem at Uni is very much unwanted. :mad:

A couple of years ago I would have popped him one for annoying me, but I'm mellowing with age.

Mrs_De_Bris

doodoot wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who has posted a constructive reply.

It isn't possible to move to another class, so I'm stuck where I am - there's only 1 seminar/lecture per module.

Quite a few of the other students know that something is going on because he has been saying things to them, and also on Facebook.

(Yes, the dreaded Facebook...the only reason for being on there is that I'm a member of a couple of University groups and we brainstorm ideas.)

I'm seeing one of the tutors involved tomorrow for something unrelated, but will have a chat about this lad with her - she told me on Monday that he's caused her a lot of problems by reporting her for no reason.

If he causes me any more aggravation, could he end up being thrown out?

I feel sick whenever I think about my next class, and whenever a text comes through I'm jumping like a frog.

That really depends on the nature of the aggravation. The university will want to help him and he should be in touch with student support services. So if your tutors are going to speak to him then they should also consult with student support. I would be expected to do that where I work.

There was a case in my own university very similar to yours a couple of years ago. The lad involved ended up being suspended for a year until he was more stable and able to continue.

You should not concern yourself with what happens to him. Think about yourself and stay out of his way. I really hope things are sorted very soon