Home schooling help

grey_lady

Can't your partner do a few runs with you? if he's a full-time student then he's not going to have lectures before 9 and is probably only in lectures for part of the day. Does he know about this issue?

Tackling the agoraphobia might be something you have to look at - have you heard of the Panic Attacks workbook by David Carbonell you might find it helpfull.

anniemf2508

grey_lady wrote: »

Can't your partner do a few runs with you? if he's a full-time student then he's not going to have lectures before 9 and is probably only in lectures for part of the day. Does he know about this issue?

Tackling the agoraphobia might be something you have to look at - have you heard of the Panic Attacks workbook by David Carbonell you might find it helpfull.

his lectures start at 9am 4 days a week and he has to leave the house at 7am to get there

patchwork_cat

Have you been on no more panic? Someon on there suggested an Ipod.

claire16c

It sounds like youve taken a rather romanticised view of home schooling i.e nature walks, which I can understand why youve done as you are not well. But stuff like that might make up perhaps 5% of the teaching? The rest of the time would be teaching your son, and like many other home schooling parents, taking your son to activities, clubs etc so he can socialise with other children.

If your health is meaning he is missing school at a vital age, why dont you look into getting him there by other means, in the ways other posters have suggested. Social services, a child minder, part time nanny etc.

I dont know what your husband is studying at university but in my opinion getting your son to school each day should be the most important thing.

thegirlintheattic

I would be concerned about restricting his socialization and possibly passing on your anxiety.

Can someone else not do the school run? Pay someone? Ask another mum at the school?

Is there no childminder or breakfast club your OH can drop him at?

Have you spoke to the school? They maybe able to provide some help.

anniemf2508

I haven't taken a "romanticized" view of home schooling, it was just an example. I know what it entails and i've looked into local groups, my son has a wide group of friends where we live, so him not socialising isn't really a problem in my eyes.
I have tried pretty much all the avenues that have been suggested, we tried breakfast club but my son hates it, to the point where he wouldn't get dressed in the morning so he couldn't go. I've tried finding a childminder who would just do school runs but to no avail. The school have helped as much as they can but we're at a deadend now.
I am getting help for my health issues but its a slow process, trialling medication after medication.
I haven't always been like this so i know i will get better eventually...i did all the school runs when my daughter was younger.
Thats why i know that if i did go ahead with it, it wouldn't be forever.

anniemf2508

I haven't taken a "romanticized" view of home schooling, it was just an example. I know what it entails and i've looked into local groups, my son has a wide group of friends where we live, so him not socialising isn't really a problem in my eyes.
I have tried pretty much all the avenues that have been suggested, we tried breakfast club but my son hates it, to the point where he wouldn't get dressed in the morning so he couldn't go. I've tried finding a childminder who would just do school runs but to no avail. The school have helped as much as they can but we're at a deadend now.
I am getting help for my health issues but its a slow process, trialling medication after medication.
I haven't always been like this so i know i will improve eventually...i did all the school runs when my daughter was younger.
Thats why i know that if i did go ahead with it, it wouldn't be forever.

Oog

This is so sad and I really feel sorry for your predicament.

I think, however, homeschooling would not be the best choice you could make for your son. If he is already refusing to get dressed to go to breakfast club, could it be that he has already picked up on how your illness affects you and your ability to leave the house? I think you need to find anyway you can to get him to school every day with no excuses so that he becomes accustomed to having to go to school. I am sure you wouldn't want him to feel the same as you or develop a similar issue.

Your partner can take him one day a week, you say. ('How exciting! Going to school just like him going to University!'). How old is your daughter? Is it the same school? Is it far to walk? Can they walk together? In a big group with other parents and children?

Do any other parents drive past who might be able to pick him up on a regular day?

Can you afford to get a taxi one day a week door to door?

If you try and get someone to do one regular day a week, then it might even help you come to terms with taking him one day eventually (because that would be all you would have to do at first).

Homeschooling is not the answer to this problem in my opinion.

chocolate.buttons

I know that you have already said that your husband's lectures start at 9, with 2hr travelling. I am also in this position with long travel times but if, for any reason, I am unable to make the 9am lecture, I can attend one of the later lectures. Granted, we have a large cohort so the same seminar sequence is repeated for 3 different groups of students, which may not be applicable to your husband. But generally, the uni is very understanding of childcare issues, and have no problem with you attending the lecture at a different time.
Would your husband be able to speak to his personal tutor or programme manager about this situation? They may be more helpful than you imagine.

BlueC

anniemf2508 wrote: »

I am getting help for my health issues but its a slow process, trialling medication after medication.

This makes me sad. In your position the best help is not medication but behavioural help such as CBT that will help you challenge your anxiety and related behavioural patterns (agrophobia etc).

Unfortunately it is cheaper to throw pills at people to curb the symptoms than to give proper help and tackle the cause. If you feel strong willed enough try asking your doctor for a referall to a CBT professional - they will likely resist but its worth fighting for, or failing that there are some fantastic self help CBT/anxiety books out there. Take a look on Amazon.