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czerniacha

celebrate: big big hugs! remember you have us if you ever need help/advice/someone to listen!

I'm off to T now!

caz2703

celebrate wrote: »

things gone from bad to worse with OH and not sure I'll cope on my own should it come to it, i look to people like caz for inspiration......he works away (his choice.... loads of jobs locally) so probably won't be that different only last time he left i didn't cope v well emotionally:(
He just used the famous " well your the one that's desperate for me, and you'll never find anyone else" line on me :mad::mad::mad:

OI - DO NOT PUT YOURSELF DOWN

I remember the ex telling me he was going on a training course for 4 nights when my youngest was only 2 or 3 months old. I really panicked wondering what I'd do but at the time, thankfully the course was cancelled. I was in a place where I felt I couldn't do anything by myself. Not sure if anyone remembers but there was a glitch on a lovely cot in M&S for under £20 delivered about a year ago now. I actually phoned the ex to see if it was ok to buy it. That doesn't sound so strange but I was seeking approval for me to pay for it! I got that thrown at me months down the line as there was a perfectly good cotbed from his kid that we could have used. He actually gave off at me for spending £20 on a brand new - not stored in a garage where mice have been - cot yet he was able to buy x-box games and even spend £100 on a graphics tablet (fancy pen & paper for the PC) that was used twice that I recall.

If a man thinks you can't do any better than them or you can't cope without them then they have you exactly where they want you. I now have my confidence back, I coped with 2 under-2 kids, I'm weaning DS2, I'm dealing with constant colds & flus and have only had to ask my folks for help once when the flu got the better of me. I'm being dragged back to court for the 3rd time next week and all because he wants his own way and not what is best for the kids. He even had the nerve to question me on where DS2 got a bruise form on his leg (his leg was wedged in the bath seat but I didn't see for the bubbles) yet brought DS1 back 2 weeks in a row with cuts on his face and I'm meant to be fine with that.

If I ever hear anyone question how they'll cope on their own I swear I'll put them over my knee. My 2 kids are easier to deal with than the ex. My love for them is unconditional and that is something that can't be changed. I found it hard to accept that the ex chose his previous family over his current family but better I find out now than further down the line when I'm so down trodden I can't come back form it. My savings are all but gone but I have 2 lovely kids that will hopefully do me proud in years to come. I don't have a social life, I have no company in the evenings but I have my wonderful family and you lovely folks on this forum to keep me sane (and debt free!).

Celebrate - drop me a PM any time. If I can do it, anyone can do it.

brand8

celebrate keep smiling girl we are all here for you if needed

sorryaboutmywife

Love love love this thread.

I also got a few 24p Pantenes today:D and some 4p boy's macs. If the person who mentioned the girls' version could post a pic I'd be most grateful.

Right on to the Babyliss groomy things, am I right in thinking there are two, one in black and blue box SEL £14.98 scanning at double that (so DTD possible), and the other black and orange box scanning at £1.50 or £3? I am confused, even though I've read the whole thread and the previous one, have seen Sunshine's pic but there's no details under it. If anyone has barcodes pretty please???

Lyndylou

caz2703 wrote: »

OI - DO NOT PUT YOURSELF DOWN

I remember the ex telling me he was going on a training course for 4 nights when my youngest was only 2 or 3 months old. I really panicked wondering what I'd do but at the time, thankfully the course was cancelled. I was in a place where I felt I couldn't do anything by myself. Not sure if anyone remembers but there was a glitch on a lovely cot in M&S for under £20 delivered about a year ago now. I actually phoned the ex to see if it was ok to buy it. That doesn't sound so strange but I was seeking approval for me to pay for it! I got that thrown at me months down the line as there was a perfectly good cotbed from his kid that we could have used. He actually gave off at me for spending £20 on a brand new - not stored in a garage where mice have been - cot yet he was able to buy x-box games and even spend £100 on a graphics tablet (fancy pen & paper for the PC) that was used twice that I recall.

If a man thinks you can't do any better than them or you can't cope without them then they have you exactly where they want you. I now have my confidence back, I coped with 2 under-2 kids, I'm weaning DS2, I'm dealing with constant colds & flus and have only had to ask my folks for help once when the flu got the better of me. I'm being dragged back to court for the 3rd time next week and all because he wants his own way and not what is best for the kids. He even had the nerve to question me on where DS2 got a bruise form on his leg (his leg was wedged in the bath seat but I didn't see for the bubbles) yet brought DS1 back 2 weeks in a row with cuts on his face and I'm meant to be fine with that.

If I ever hear anyone question how they'll cope on their own I swear I'll put them over my knee. My 2 kids are easier to deal with than the ex. My love for them is unconditional and that is something that can't be changed. I found it hard to accept that the ex chose his previous family over his current family but better I find out now than further down the line when I'm so down trodden I can't come back form it. My savings are all but gone but I have 2 lovely kids that will hopefully do me proud in years to come. I don't have a social life, I have no company in the evenings but I have my wonderful family and you lovely folks on this forum to keep me sane (and debt free!).

Celebrate - drop me a PM any time. If I can do it, anyone can do it.

Well said :T I too have been there and come out the other side a stronger person.

Dizzy_Ditzy

i just got back from T, got my coat, got 4 shirts at 4p- 2 the same as the one pictured earlier and 2 with a red tie, and 4 trays, which were hidden underneath some other ones but i still found them lol! Thats my gardening trays sorted for next year :-D)

Got a demister pad which didnt have a price on it but it was 50p.

Even better- dragged 'im indoors up with me cos he wanted to have a look for a shirt- he got £64 quids worth of suit jacket, trousers and shirt for £35- i gave him my £5 off £40 voucher and it multibuyed his suit so he got £25 off it! He's well chuffed :-)

BAILEYS6904

Celebrate, I'm another that has got out the other side, my DS wasnt even 2 when I split with his dad, hes now 7 and I am so much happier, and so, therefore, is he.

You can cope and will cope, and, dya know what? It'll be easier than you ever imagined, once you get used to it. I think thats probably why i can cope (for the most part) with (present) OH being a soldier and away a lot. I actually quite like it just being me and DS

Drop me a pm if you ever need x

Christmasshopper

I got both sleeveless and short sleeve vests today for 4p. I have seen the short sleeve ones posted here but I'm not sure if the sleeveless ones are new.

caz2703

BAILEYS6904 wrote: »

Celebrate, I'm another that has got out the other side, my DS wasnt even 2 when I split with his dad, hes now 7 and I am so much happier, and so, therefore, is he.

You can cope and will cope, and, dya know what? It'll be easier than you ever imagined, once you get used to it. I think thats probably why i can cope (for the most part) with (present) OH being a soldier and away a lot. I actually quite like it just being me and DS

Drop me a pm if you ever need x

Mine were 3 months and 22 months. The last 5 months have been a mix of ups & downs as initially I hoped (stupidly) to fix the marriage but I'm coming to terms with it being over and getting myself into a routine with the boys. The hardest part for me is possibly losing my career as I don't know if my employer will allow me to stay/return if I can't fulfill my job role (on-call and travelling between offices). Between maybe not having a job in a couple of months, my savings and therefore rental deposit going on legal fees and the ex hinting that he wants me out by the end of January, the next few months will be even harder but you know what they say ......

what doesn't kill me can only make me stronger

calmspirit

celebrate wrote: »

hey guys
long day at work and couldn't cope with kids at the mo so sat them in front of the tele for 5mins for a bit of peace so i can catch up.....

can i just say congrats to sunshine star you deserve a bit of happiness and good karma, hugs for you!

well done beki with the DTD , about time you had a decent glitch in W*th!

well done squigs with the new 1p bday card find!! Now just need a 1p toy to go in the 1p toystory bag and next kiddies b'day party sorted

karlie is in her final yr at med school, i'm very surprised she has the time to chat to us at all :eek:she will be a very busy bee I am sure at the moment, hope she finds a bit of time for us soon, I miss her too x

things gone from bad to worse with OH and not sure I'll cope on my own should it come to it, i look to people like caz for inspiration......he works away (his choice.... loads of jobs locally) so probably won't be that different only last time he left i didn't cope v well emotionally:(
He just used the famous " well your the one that's desperate for me, and you'll never find anyone else" line on me :mad::mad::mad:
Sorry totoally off topic, not fair as can't be bothered with T's, just seem to have lost the interest but lovely to keep up with what you guys are up to.....wish i had something more productive to contribute:(
mum has hosp appt tomorrow and i am sure she will drag me to T's if we have time so may have something to report back tomorrow x

ps MKS love your witty comments x

:(Celebrate I am so sorry to hear you are feeling so low

BUT>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Any man who says that to you does NOT deserve you!!!! you have to trust us on this hun.......some of us have been there and we have come out STRONGER that you can ever imagine right at the moment.

I never imagined being able to cope financially or emotionally let alone cope with 2 kids..... and like others have said - if I can do it ANYONE can! You would seriously not recognise my former self:D
You will wonder how you ever allowed a man to make you feel that way! The turning point in my life was when I realised that I wanted my kids to grow up with a feeling of self worth and value and by allowing myself to be undermined by someone else I was teaching them by example......I have since set a much better example!:)

Yes I get lonely Yes it can be SO hard at times on so many levels....but my kids survived and so did I. Places like this are my safe haven...my escape.

I hope things work out OK for you whatever happens with OH.

If you ever need to chat pm me please.