Please help advice needed quickly :(

BugglyB

Sorry to hear about the problems you are having.You don't deserve to live in fear of violence. I am gobsmacked by some of the comments here - go and see him? So that when he kicks off he can tell the police that you went looking for him for a fight? Bad advice my friend!

I dont really know what to say but I hope it works out. Bullies like this usually find another target if they dont get what they want - ie some trouble.

Do ring the police with every incident, and make sure the security on your house is good.

bigmomma051204

Right.

You need to go to the police. Have the incident logged and ask for the incident number. I say go to them rather than ring them because you need to show them the txt msg from the old neighbour which although being through a 3rd party is in fact still evidence. (Hence when restraining orders are made or bail conditions set, they usually will state "no contact through a 3rd party". Okay this is not the same exactly but believe me, would still count if, God forbid, should this guy take this any further and it became a criminal offence. )
You then need to deal with the situation on a more personal level as, like other have pointed out, the police are unlikely to DO anything at this juncture - unless of course this guy has a criminal record and has been doing similar to other people which is a possibility of course!
Right - so, YOU need to secure your property and spend as much as you can realistically on this. Dead bolts, CCTV, outside sensor lights etc. You could possibly get hold of your local PCSO (yeah yeah i know they are usually pants lol) as they can often make VERY good suggestions as to how to improve your household security. The local one where i work is excellent at these kind of things!
You also need to think of practical things such as having a phone in your bedroom and down stairs. Also, and others may not like this - have something in your bedroom which you can Protect yourself againt intruders with. If you need it, it will be there. Oh and tell your current neighbours if you are on good terms with them - sounds silly and you dont need to make TOO much of the history etc but they will then be on the lookout for anyone hanging around etc.

Anyone who thinks this is all a tad over the top, there are LOTS of crazy people out there who LOVE to make the lives of others unbearable. I have seen situations similar to this turn out extremely badly on numerous occasions due to the nature of my previous job.

Keep safe xx

SingleSue

Wootball wrote: »

Devil music? You mean a perfectly acceptable form of music that you happen to not like?

Must admit the description of devil music made me laugh.....I am one of the most gentle people around, believe in God yet love heavy rock music (my middle son actually plays in a rock band).

As for the problem at hand, when I was at school one person was winding things up between me and someone else, telling her I had said something (which I hadn't) and telling me things she had said (when she hadn't) because they wanted to cause bad feeling. It did come to a head when I was punched but in the aftermath, we worked out what had actually happened..it was someone else doing the winding and causing the problem and after that, we ignored all rumours and second hand information.

We're still friends now many years later.

Kay_Peel

What happened to him when you had to lock the door against him and call the police last December? Was he arrested? Was he spoken to and warned about his conduct? Or did the police arrive several hours after the event when it was all quiet, spoke to you but took no other action beyond giving you an incident number in case he returned that day? What happened on that day will be key to how the police react on this occasion.

Personally, I think you haven't got sufficient information to involve either the police or a solicitor at this stage. It would be different if he actually spoke his threats directly to you and intended to carry them out.

Sambucus_Nigra

No offence. But he might have said this to 100 people in the meantime, but it's just that one has happened to tell you something. I'm sure if he was going to do anything he would have done it by now. If you are really concerned then report it but do you think that reporting it might just tip him over the edge and make him even worse?

If your ex neighbour hadn't told you - you would be none the wiser. So all this has resulted in is you being more angry and afraid. So, from his point of view - job done.

cheepskate_2

bigmomma051204 wrote: »

Right.


Anyone who thinks this is all a tad over the top, there are LOTS of crazy people out there who LOVE to make the lives of others unbearable. Keep safe xx

The guy hasnt even been near him in 9 months, if he was going to do something, dont you think he has ample opportunity.

If i had done nothing and some neighbour thaT HAD AN ARGUMENT WITH ME 11 MONTHS PRIOR (sorry caps),and both of us had moved on or so i thought, then called the police on me out of the blue, REST ASSURED i would be a bit pi88ed off, especially if my job depended on a clean record.


This guy is a bouncer, known many in my day , easy peasy if he wanted to do one on you, he would have done it (or more likely got some else to do it)when there were problems, not now both have moved on.

But as you can see from your own post ,both of you have feelings of dislike of each other.

It would be really interesting the covo between this man and your other neighbour, bet its not as clean cut as he is saying

BitterAndTwisted

The guy is all talk. People who are serious about causing harm to others do not announce it to the world at large beforehand. Ignore this twerp.

QuackQuackOops

For goodness sake...its hearsay. Its either all talk or its something and nothing made up by the neighbour.
Going to the police is pointless. An absolute waste of their time. No threat has been made to you directly and you are not in danger. 3rd party reports dont count. They wont even make a log of it.

missindecisive

this guy is all talk and bravado, and he knows you are afraid. Quackquack -your talking sense tonight! op if you really feel that unsettled, get yourself a nice big alsatian dog.:rotfl: