Friend problems, am i being a bridezilla??

White_Sapphire

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

I can understand how you feel, but be grateful that she's been honest with you. On our wedding day, my aunt and godmother (who I have been extremely close to over the years - I was the daughter she never had) left after the main course of the wedding breakfast. She didn't even stay for the speeches. She came over (without he husband - my godfather) to the top table and said that the food had disagreed with her and she had an upset stomach so they had to go. She didn't even speak to my husband. When another of my aunts came to the evening, she said "Has X left for her friend's daughter's engagement party already? I was hoping to catch her before she left". I felt like I'd been slapped. I haven't spoken to my godmother since.

:eek: That's terrible!! I can't believe how rude she was!

OP, I can understand that you feel upset that your friend will not be there for the whole evening; I know if a close friend of mine couldn't stay for my whole wedding I would be gutted. I agree with other posters in that perhaps it highlights the fact that you are not as close as you once were. If she is growing closer to other friends there really isn't anything you can do; it's a sad fact of life that friends often grow apart. She seems to me to actually be acting in a very mature and considerate way over this (as opposed to COMP's godmother); she has other people who are important to her who are not part of your life, and is being very honest about this, and not simply choosing one over the other. She's going out of her way to accommodate both friends as well as she can, and although this hurts you, to expect her to simply choose you every time at the expense of her other friends is selfish.

Enjoy the time you get to spend with her at your wedding; as others have said, there'll be so many other people wanting to talk to you that you probably won't even notice that she's not there later in the evening.

x

Beetle_lover

Thanks everyone. I really do appreciate all the replies, think I needed an outside view and i can now see it from her point more.

Thanks xxx