Rude house buyers

pamplem0use

Maybe I'm being incredibly naive but I'm really peeved with people viewing our house and then being uncommunicative.
We've now had a second person view for the second time. Was v enthusiastic, promised to get back to the agent the next day. She was interested in somewhere else too but said our house knocked socks off it.
Now we find she's bought the other place, failed to contact our agents and has been evading his calls for 72 hours.
The second time she viewed she gave us just 45 minutes noticed despite kno9wing we have a small baby.....
I just think it's the ultimate in poor etiquette to view someone's house TWICE and not bother to answer the phone for a thirty second conversation about why you don't want to buy the house......

sonastin

Some people are embarrassed/ashamed when it comes to telling people what they know they don't want to hear. It doesn't excuse the behaviour but it does explain it.

ognum

pamplem0use wrote: »

Maybe I'm being incredibly naive but I'm really peeved with people viewing our house and then being uncommunicative.
We've now had a second person view for the second time. Was v enthusiastic, promised to get back to the agent the next day. She was interested in somewhere else too but said our house knocked socks off it.
Now we find she's bought the other place, failed to contact our agents and has been evading his calls for 72 hours.
The second time she viewed she gave us just 45 minutes noticed despite kno9wing we have a small baby.....
I just think it's the ultimate in poor etiquette to view someone's house TWICE and not bother to answer the phone for a thirty second conversation about why you don't want to buy the house......

I do understand what you are saying but you have to get thicker skinned about it

You do not have to agree to a viewing in 45 minutes just say no but I can do it in 2 hours or something suitable to you

If she is evading his calls she clearly doesnt want the house just because someone looks twice doesnt mean they will offer There must have been something better for her about the other house price/size/garden/decor/proximity to school/ anything

you have to learn to move on quickly or you will be stressed for the next 6 months! Sorry

G_M

You just have to get a thick skin, and accept that 3/5 people are like this.

Similar with contractors who make apptmts to give you a quote, then don't turn up.
Or come, but never send the quote.
Or prospective tenants who fail to turn up for a viewing.
Or like your buyer, view, but then rent elsewhere without telling you.

It happens in many walks of life. If you expect it from the start you won't be disappointed!

Catblue

But what difference does it make, really?

If they do give feedback, they'll just say it's too small, meaning that they don't like the house.

If they don't give feedback, then it means that they don't like the house.

You really think that hearing that your house is too small is better than hearing nothing at all? Either way, they are not interested in buying your house so no point dwelling on it.

lincroft1710

pamplem0use wrote: »

The second time she viewed she gave us just 45 minutes noticed despite kno9wing we have a small baby.....

Sorry but I can't see the relevance of the small baby, so perhaps she couldn't either. If the viewing time was inconvenient you should have just said so.

I just think it's the ultimate in poor etiquette to view someone's house TWICE and not bother to answer the phone for a thirty second conversation about why you don't want to buy the house......

Why should she give a reason for not buying your house. She may not have wanted to offend you. Actually I get very annoyed when any salesperson asks me why I don't want to buy something. I've said no and that's an end of the matter as far as I'm concerned.

FATBALLZ

lincroft1710 wrote: »

Why should she give a reason for not buying your house. She may not have wanted to offend you. Actually I get very annoyed when any salesperson asks me why I don't want to buy something. I've said no and that's an end of the matter as far as I'm concerned.

I agree it gets annoying especially if you view a lot of places. The dozen or so houses we viewed but didn't buy could all be summed up as "not worth the money".

Gromitt

FATBALLZ wrote: »

I agree it gets annoying especially if you view a lot of places. The dozen or so houses we viewed but didn't buy could all be summed up as "not worth the money".

Exactly the same problem I have. Agent rings me up at work and asks what I thought of the property, I answer "Its not for me, thanks" and then its "Why?", "Too much for what it is", "Really? I think its a great price for what you get, would you like a second viewing?", "No", "Would you like an appointment with a mortgage advisor?", "No", "Ok, I see you looked at another property of ours", "I'm trying to work! I'm not interested in the property, ok?".

and then they wonder why we ignore their calls....

pamplem0use

I wasn't even necessarily expecting a reason. She SAID unprompted she'd contact the agent. She didn't. She'd viewed twice. The agent tried to contact her. Just a 'sorry I'm not interested' would have been
Nice rather than leaving us hanging.
It's just good etiquette!
And she viewed twice on consecutive nights!

ognum

pamplem0use wrote: »

I wasn't even necessarily expecting a reason. She SAID unprompted she'd contact the agent. She didn't. She'd viewed twice. The agent tried to contact her. Just a 'sorry I'm not interested' would have been
Nice rather than leaving us hanging.
It's just good etiquette!
And she viewed twice on consecutive nights!

Sorry but when did your etiquette come into house buying and selling maybe it should but it seldom does so however many times you say the same thing its not going to change

You sound like a small child saying 'its not fair' The woman was rude but just deal with it you will have many more rude people causing more disappointment You want to sell so you have to let these peope into your world

thegirlintheattic

What do you expect her to stay? Feedback from viewers is, in the majority, very general and nothing you can act on.

She may be avoiding the calls to avoid offending you or the hard sell.

As for her saying she'll call the agent, she was probably just being polite. If I go into a store and get a salesperson to show me something I always leave saying I'll think about it and pop back, do I always pop back - no but it avoids the hard sell.