Wanting to leave partner, where do I stand on property?

newcook

get some mates round (ideally ones that can stay overnight in case he tries to come back at 2am) and make it very clear to him that if he causes a scene of any sort you WILL call the police! would be rather embarrassing for him if his dad and his workmates have to come and arrest him.

thorsoak

After you call him at work, I think you should call his parents, and let them know that you are throwing him out, changing the locks, and that you don't want any trouble........

Emmzi

If you can, I would talk to his dad, tell him what you are doing, and explain that you don't want any trouble but if his son causes it you won't have a choice.

Dad may then sort some things out for you....

make_me_wise

squeeeek wrote: »

Me and my partner have been living together for 1year 9months, in a property gifted to me by my mother when she moved in with her partner in 2008.
I dont really want to go into the reasons behind my wish to split but it's fair to say he has take all of my confidence.
There is not mortgage on the property and we havent had any improvements done since he has been living with me.
He hasn't contributed equally to utilities or food costs
I have a car loan in my name for his car currently standing at £1000

How do I go about having him leave the property? (he has threatened to become violent i try to leave him?

And does he have any rights on the property?
I am 22 and he is 21 there are no children involved

Please help me, emma

Sounds to me like you are in an emotionally, soon to become, physically abusive relationship. The police cannot do anything until he does something to you. My advice is find a few big blokes to help him pack his bags and shift his nasty !!!! out of your property. You will most likely find that he will roll over and die like a weak kitten, most bullies do when they meet their match. Then contact a solicitor and get an injunction preventing him from coming within a certain distance of yourself or the property. Buy a big dog as well.

Dizzy_Ditzy

i dont have anything other than the above advice to offer, other than to say that I hope things work out well for you, and to hold your head up high.

Things WILL get better, it might not seem like it now, but they will. You will have your life back

Thinking of you

Dizzy_Ditzy

*bump*

this post needs to stay on the front page so the OP can see that she has lots of support and advice when she comes back tomorrow

:-)

Kaz2904

Hope it is ok for you tonight and that things pan out fine for you tomorrow. I hope you've managed to get someone around to stay with you for the weekend. Good luck

squeeeek

Thankyou for all of the support everybody. This is the first time I've had chance to get online I'm afraid *sorry*.
I went to the CAB on Friday at 9.30 but it was so busy i didn't get out until 11.30.
Started packing his things up but he came home early (nothing in at work... he's a mechanic) I've *let* myself be talked around to him staying (in truth I'm waiting for the next opportunity to finish packing and put his things in the shed because I think if I had just told him to go things could have turned nasty).
To answer barbiedoll's question, yes there are money issues (he spends all he earns, contributes about £60pcm to the bills,food etc, I get stuck with all everything else, i would struggle on my own but I know I could manage) it is a normal bank loan, the car is in his name (I know it's stupid of me and that i will have to pay it but I needed to do it at the time as my grandad was ill and my nan wasn't coping...it's an hour long bus journey away, but only 15mins max in the car and my partner was using my car to go to work in) his credit history is so bad (loooong story) that he couldn't get a loan (or a normal current account).

I have got the locks ready for the next time the opportunity presents itself and I have tried them to check they fit, now i just have to wait for my chance.

Thankyou again for all the support

Marisco

Emmzi wrote: »

If you can, I would talk to his dad, tell him what you are doing, and explain that you don't want any trouble but if his son causes it you won't have a choice.

Dad may then sort some things out for you....

This is just what I was going to say. I'd have a word with his dad before you do anything. And tell him the full SP, tell him that his son has threatened you, and threatened to cause hassle. Explain you don't really want the police involved, but will do so if things turn nasty. Hopefully, his dad will have a word, as I wouldn't have thought he'd want to be the talk of the canteen either. Good luck

Sublime_2

squeeeek wrote: »

Thankyou for all of the support everybody. This is the first time I've had chance to get online I'm afraid *sorry*.
I went to the CAB on Friday at 9.30 but it was so busy i didn't get out until 11.30.
Started packing his things up but he came home early (nothing in at work... he's a mechanic) I've *let* myself be talked around to him staying (in truth I'm waiting for the next opportunity to finish packing and put his things in the shed because I think if I had just told him to go things could have turned nasty).
To answer barbiedoll's question, yes there are money issues (he spends all he earns, contributes about £60pcm to the bills,food etc, I get stuck with all everything else, i would struggle on my own but I know I could manage) it is a normal bank loan, the car is in his name (I know it's stupid of me and that i will have to pay it but I needed to do it at the time as my grandad was ill and my nan wasn't coping...it's an hour long bus journey away, but only 15mins max in the car and my partner was using my car to go to work in) his credit history is so bad (loooong story) that he couldn't get a loan (or a normal current account).

I have got the locks ready for the next time the opportunity presents itself and I have tried them to check they fit, now i just have to wait for my chance.

Thankyou again for all the support

Well done for getting advice. Trouble is he's still there. He sounds very manipulative. Get out now while you have the chance. You don't want to end up still stuck with him years later (perhaps with kids!). It happens, believe me.

You're young, and got your own house. Be firm, get his clothes packed, and the locks changed. He's not listened to a word you've said, just convinced you to let him stay.

Make sure you have some big strong friends/family around for then, to prevent him causing a scene. Stand up to him now, or you never will.

Good luck. Please be firm, and keep positive. If necessary seek legal advice.