my mum....

onetomany

and if she needs help with personal care cooking etc you can ask ss for a assessment but it all depends on how much money she has etc

onetomany

winterlady wrote: »

Thanks Ducky
Its the night time really we worry and a lifeline why no she would say i am only 81 you know ! she is an amazing lady and wants her independance.....

hope you get it sorted hun x

tori.k

winterlady wrote: »

Thanks Ducky
Its the night time really we worry and a lifeline why no she would say i am only 81 you know ! she is an amazing lady and wants her independance.....

You could try the guilty route by saying you worry about her and would sleep easier if she had the life-line fitted for your peace of mind not her's

onetomany

tori.k wrote: »

You could try the guilty route by saying you worry about her and would sleep easier if she had the life-line fitted for your peace of mind not her's

this works for me i use it all the time then i said well the disscion will be taken out of your hands soon the doctors will see how many falls u have etc and say you carnt stay alone (luckly i only said it once her daughter asked me to say it broke my heart) but on the good side she never takes it off x

Oldernotwiser

winterlady wrote: »

oh looks like it wont be as easy as we thought....:(

Surely if your mother loses a little money it'll be compensated for by what money she'll receive from your daughter?

neverdespairgirl

My Granny was similar in her 80s - fiercely independent, determined to stay in her own home, and getting more frail.

She had one of those button on a string things, for emergencies.

My parents also paid for a cleaner to come in for an hour every morning, Mon to Sat, and a group of her friends made sure someone always popped round in the evening. Although with her social life, it was like Piccadilly Circus in her house anyway!

valk_scot

One thing my increasingly wobbly mum used to do was to ring me every morning around 8am without fail to say she was okay. Not a chat, but just to say good morning, she was fine. If no phone call and I couldn't get an answer when I phoned her I would go round after I'd dropped the kids at school to see if she was okay. (I had keys.) And she had an emergency button and she carried my details with her at all times in case of emergency. It all helped.

I think you should go down the route of having your daughter named as her gran's overnight carer, so that your mum's benefits are protected and also there may be some sort of additional carer's allowance which would cover the rent your daughter would no doubt be paying to her gran? . Speak to the GP about this and also your mum's social worker if she has one. It's a lot cheaper for the social services to pay a carer's allowance than have to provide care in any way so they'll be keen to assist, if your mum's GP says it's necessary.

bestpud

Does your dd want to carry on working, as that will probably mean she is unable to claim carers allowance.

Has your mum agreed to her moving in? I ask as I think I'd prefer a lifeline to someone living in my home - unless she is lonely?

As for bills, won't your dd pay a share of them, as she would be paying to live elsewhere? That will cover any loss in benefits. Or is she expecting to live there for free?