in a bit of a mess just now :-(

willow_loulou

You do need to take into account the fathers access to the children, if you can work that amicably just move! Im so glad my parents are close, if I had been miles from them when I divorced Id have never coped with everything. The job thing though important is neither here nor there, anyone could be made redundant in this climate! Take the chance and make a happier life for your children. Just please, take it slow with the new man in your life, move him straight in and believe me the children will resent him -

I hope you soon feel stronger, huge hugs to you all xx

Chuzzle

Jellytot (mmmm yummy )

I think the way forward is for you is to move. The best way to move this distance is to spend a few weekends with family looking for houses. Always include the kids as much as possible with your decisions it makes them feel more grown up!! Your son will make friends and now is a good time to move them both regarding schools. You have to be firm with XH and tell him you are doing it for you & the kids happiness. You will probably have to fight to get any money out of him - you cannot stick up for him by saying he can't afford it, thats his problem not yours. Your problem is making sure you can cloth, feed and put a roof over your kids.

I say go for it.... you only have one life. Can you face waking up in 5 or 10 years time wondering what if?

Hugs go out to you as I can only imagine how hard this is.

tesuhoha

I cant help but wonder - if you give up your job and house then take on a rented property, how are you going to pay your rent if you don't have an income. Will you be eligible for benefits? Or will family help you? Suppose you cant get a job what then?

jellytot79

would have to have a job first, it's the only way!

make_me_wise

Sorry to hear you are going through such an awful time OP. Its no wonder you feel vulnerable and worried. You are coping with a divorce, a change of house and holding things together for 2 young kids.

My advice is make the move and be closer to family and friends. Will be a new start for your daughter and your son would soon adapt. Also gives you a strong support network. Something most of us need. I wish you well.