Review your wedding day

chatnoir

Wedding 1
September 1st 2010
Southend registry office followed by meal at a local resturant
Guests-5
Very relaxed, spent the morning in southend town getting last minute bit and pieces, picked up my bouquet that I only ordered the day before. Picked up by In laws and meet my parents there. Quick ceremony with no exchaning of rings. For some reason we laughed the whole way through it! A few photos taken by the parents then onto a local resturant for food. we were home by 4 getting backed for wedding number 2!
Best things: How simple it was, and how we couldnt stop laughing during the ceremony!
Worst things: Nothing
If I was to do it again i would video the ceremony.

Wedding number 2
September 4th 2010
Chateau in France
Guests 30

We took 30 close friends and family out to france, for our blessing ceremony. Their was a planner on site to oragnise all the bits so all i had to do was get ready! And as all the family including the groom were all staying on site I had to keep myself hiden away in my room all morning. The photographer was an hour late, which made me late and quite stressed. But we had our ceremony outside by a lake in 30 degree heat, followed by canapes on the terrace with an accordian player for back ground music. Dinner was then in a marque on the grounds followed by disco and dancing in the orangery.
Best bits: The Weather, the venue, the food (best food I have ever eaten!). We had the venue for a whole weekend, and we were pretty much able to do whatever we wanted. We were able to bring our own alcohol and no corkage was charged!!! So we made a stop at Calais on route to the venue.

Worst bits: The photographer being late, it really stressed me out and cos I was late I forgot to do some things and I rushed down the aisle without taking anything in! I gave the photographer a list of photos we wanted but she ignore it...we do not have a proffessional photo of the Groom with his Best man, or a group one of parents inc step parents and siblings!

If I could do it again I would make sure the photographer was better organised and hire a professional videographer. We asked my borther to film it and its really shaky!

Total budget not inc honeymoon was about 20K and worth every penny!

rosie-lee

At last, someone has mentioned the actual marriage ceremony. Can't believe no-one remembers the ceremony or vows. It's meant to be the whole point of the day, otherwise it's just a big party!

Idiophreak

rosie-lee wrote: »

At last, someone has mentioned the actual marriage ceremony. Can't believe no-one remembers the ceremony or vows. It's meant to be the whole point of the day, otherwise it's just a big party!

I remember it quite well, it was lovely...but for the purposes of describing the day it's quite unremarkable, really. Just the standard 1984 vows or whatever they are..I could have listed the songs / readings etc...but I don't think people are generally that interested.

In terms of it being the whole point of the day, I thought the point of the day was to celebrate your love for each other with your friends and family - not just to have a service...

Surfbabe

Wedding - May 1985
Guests - 54
Bridesmaids - 3
Registry Office followed by church blessing

Best Thing - having family and close friends there to celebrate the occasion.

Worst Thing - not really worst but being made to feel I had to have 3 bridesmaids when I only wanted 1!

Funniest Thing - not being able to get my wedding ring off to be blessed - we had got married in a registry office and my dad who was a vicar did a church blessing. Spent a panic stricken few minutes chewing my finger trying to get it to budge with dad and husband in fits of giggles

Regrets - that none of our parents lived to see us celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary

oh and the whole thing cost less than £1000!

MaggieBaking

rosie-lee wrote: »

At last, someone has mentioned the actual marriage ceremony. Can't believe no-one remembers the ceremony or vows. It's meant to be the whole point of the day, otherwise it's just a big party!

For me this thread was about assistance and advice to those about to get married. The ceremony is the one thing that people don't really need to choose - they generally don't get much option! The ceremony and vows are very similar in lots of weddings, the reception is really where you need the most help planning.

I can remember every word and tear of our wedding ceremony, and if you were with us you'd never for a second believe the day was just about a party.

Maddie_S_2

16th July 2011
Venue - www.cubleyhall.co.uk
guests - 65 day, 110 evening.

best things - Having all the people i loved in one room, even if i didn't get to spend enough time with all of them! My OH had two best men who did a fantastic speech, which was one of the things i was worried about as they didn't seem to be making much effort.
The flowers were amazing, i wish i'd gone on honeymoon later just so i could have kept them longer.


worst things - A waitress spilt red wine on my wedding dress during the meal and i was so upset that i threw up. i know now that this was a massive overreaction but i think it was just all the emotion of the day and the run up and it just came out then!
The dj played a lot of songs that i didn't want, we gave him a list and he played everything on it but then didn't stick to the same genres. He played another song after the song i wanted as our last song and i think i could have punched him at the time!

differently - very detailed lists to the DJ and the photographer - don't expect people to read your mind. i was worried about being too controlling, when i should have thought 'sod it, our day'. (had to correct from my day then! )

Total budget was about £8k not including honeymoon, and £1k was dress, £1k photographer and £4.5k venue so feel like we did okay with that. We didn't go into debt for it so i wouldn't change it.

Maddie_S_2

oh, and i forgot about the weather! We were meant to get married outside but it rained instead. The venue inside was gorgeous but i'd been dreaming of an outdoor wedding and picked colours and flowers etc around that.

74jax

Maddie_S wrote: »

worst things - A waitress spilt red wine on my wedding dress during the meal and i was so upset that i threw up. i know now that this was a massive overreaction but i think it was just all the emotion of the day and the run up and it just came out then! .

OMG :eek: I don't think anyone at would judge you for that. I can't imagine how you must have felt.

ampafc

Maddie_S wrote: »

16th July 2011
Venue - www.cubleyhall.co.uk
guests - 65 day, 110 evening.

best things - Having all the people i loved in one room, even if i didn't get to spend enough time with all of them! My OH had two best men who did a fantastic speech, which was one of the things i was worried about as they didn't seem to be making much effort.
The flowers were amazing, i wish i'd gone on honeymoon later just so i could have kept them longer.


worst things - A waitress spilt red wine on my wedding dress during the meal and i was so upset that i threw up. i know now that this was a massive overreaction but i think it was just all the emotion of the day and the run up and it just came out then!
The dj played a lot of songs that i didn't want, we gave him a list and he played everything on it but then didn't stick to the same genres. He played another song after the song i wanted as our last song and i think i could have punched him at the time!

differently - very detailed lists to the DJ and the photographer - don't expect people to read your mind. i was worried about being too controlling, when i should have thought 'sod it, our day'. (had to correct from my day then! )

Total budget was about £8k not including honeymoon, and £1k was dress, £1k photographer and £4.5k venue so feel like we did okay with that. We didn't go into debt for it so i wouldn't change it.

The red wine thing - that must be a bride's worst nightmare! I hope it was just a wee bit of wine, and not a full glass. Did you manage to get any of it out before the end of the wedding? i think you had every right to be upset!!

continualdiamond

rosie-lee wrote: »

At last, someone has mentioned the actual marriage ceremony. Can't believe no-one remembers the ceremony or vows. It's meant to be the whole point of the day, otherwise it's just a big party!

My venue: Local village pub was where we got married & had the reception.

They have a room that is licenced for ceremonies & holds 30 guests. So whilst people are having drinks and us having photos the room is changed around for the reception.

Of course I remember the vows, I circled what I chose on the copy we got before sending it to the registrar and didn't let my husband see and he put the # he chose onto the pc so I couldn't match it up. A few days after our wedding I then sat down at the computer and copied out our vows with a teal border around it and its going into our wedding memories album I am working on.

I did the same for the exchange of ring wording we chose.

I just don't think people want to know the details like that, thats between the couple on what they choose together and then what they choose themselves to say to one another.