giving vouchers or money as presents, how much to give?

claire16c

aggypanthus wrote: »

Very sensible re the house goods.
That was generous of your aunts, its all down to individuals means really.

Yes it was very generous and totally unexpected. And also funny they both gave the same amount as one set I see regularly and the other not much at all!

aggypanthus wrote: »

Thanks for your comments ladies, i have decided to give £50 ofJLewis vouchers.

Good idea, JL sells practically everything so Im sure they will have something they would like in there. We went in originally to buy a couple of bits for the kitchen which I wanted to replace and came out with a sat nav

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I was given a list from John Lewis and thought it highly vulgar as they had chosen only expensive "show off" items or vouchers in the hundreds at least. I simply didn't go, though I could afford to easily. I just thought their grubby money grasping was OTT and unnecessary.

When I had a wedding, I never thought for one second about gifts. If you do, you are a very sad individual indeed.

I would just let people know that nothing was expected above their presence and please not to buy a dozen toasters etc. because you already have all of that.

In many ways, weddings where it is all money with few or no gifts are better but some cultures have people who open your envelope and note it in a ledger !

kr15snw

I got married beginning of the year and we asked for money to go towards our honeymoon in Australia. Turned out by the time we had the wedding we had paid it off (lots of overtime at work) and so we had to find something else to spend it on! Lol.

Luckily the day after our reception we were told about a house that was coming up for sale in our dream street, but was a major renovation job. We were very lucky all in and received about £3000 which is now being saved for nice furniture once the house is finished (lots of building work). We could never afford a ‘nice’ sofa or anything and currently we’ve always had 2nd hand EVERYTHING in the house! Might even be able to afford an actual new bed! Lol.

In regards to gifts, most friends gave between £30 - £50 (all are under 30 and not in huge paying jobs) and family gave between £30 and £200 depending on the flushness of said relation.

A few ‘families’ chipped in together and my auntie / uncle / 3 grown up cousins gave us £300 worth of Aussie Dollars (Where we got married / honeymooned) and another set of cousins went in to give us a big Debenhams gift voucher.

Although we requested money, we were very pleased with the selection of vouchers we got from Debenhams, M&S, Next, Sainsbury’s, Tesco and John Lewis (this came from a friend who travelled as we have no John Lewis for a 3 hour drive of us and non surprisingly haven’t spent it yet!).

I think £50 of John Lewis vouchers would be well appreciated

onlyroz

At recent weddings I have given between £20 and £50 depending on how close I was to the couple.

Kildare

kr15snw wrote: »

Although we requested money, we were very pleased with the selection of vouchers we got from Debenhams, M&S, Next, Sainsbury’s, Tesco and John Lewis (this came from a friend who travelled as we have no John Lewis for a 3 hour drive of us and non surprisingly haven’t spent it yet!).

You can use John Lewis Vouchers online - I believe you scratch off a panel on the voucher to reveal a code but it says on the back how to do it.

I think the JL gift list is great, there's a huge range of items from low to high value and they can buy any amount of vouchers they like and it all gets to delivered to you. Even if you don' particularly want a list its useful to have it incase anyone asks and it stops you ending up with 3 toasters

aggypanthus

Emmzi wrote: »

I think that is a great gift and would be chuffed myself :-)

Aw! thanks, nice of you to say so.

RLH33

I too would be chuffed with £50 in John Lewis vouchers, when I got married I was pleased with all the presents big or small, and most were small.

That is with the exception of some of my oh's family, an aunt and her two children, his cousins, who only gave, between 4 adults and 2 children about £20 worth of presents.

This would have been absolutely fine had it not been for my oh having to give £50 of his own money, at the age of 18 and on the dole at the time, for one of the cousins' wedding a few years earlier, for a washing machine as a present, even though we didn't go to the wedding. Now this was about 18 years ago when £50 was a hell of a lot of money and he was told in no uncertain terms that he had to pay up as his Mum and aunt would be very upset otherwise. Never forgotten that - and my oh has since learnt to stand up for himself:)