What To Do?

kez1234

thanks all

andyrules

Hi kez
As others have said, go in and see the head, but please make an appointment first. He/she may well be out/in a meeting/ covering a class, and you may not get the time or the space you need to discuss this fully, or will be seen by someone else. It doesn't look good that no-one has contacted you, and you should be insistent for an early appointment. Does the school know you have contacted the LEA, and what exactly was the advice that they gave you?

There seems to be a history of a problem here, with the huge turnover in staff. has anyone else witnessed this, ie other staff rather than children?

It is beginning to sound like this woman holds a personal grudge against your family for some reason. She should certainly NOT be accusing you of abuse, and I think your oh should stay away from her house. This is best dealt with through the school.

I was a bit confused about you phoning kidscape, was it about her children? It would be wise to pursue what is happening with your son rather than delve into her family life at the moment, as the situation sounds a bit volatile.

good luck.

kez1234

hi andy has she lives right by me my oh went round just to ask politely if she could stop shouting at my son, as soon as he said that she started shouting at him her oh told her to go inside, but she just kept shouting,
the lea were very helpful they have told me to go to the head which hopefully i will be able to next week, then write a letter to the chair of governors with a note at the bottom so they know i have contacted them, they have taken her name, my name, sons name, school and address. she was very helpful.
i told the lady at kidscape the whole story, so her comments were about the whole picture, thanks all

kez1234

hi again if i see the head and write a letter to the chair of governors, what happens then?
i have spoken to the lea and they have taken her name, school etc, they have told me that if i am not satisfied with the outcome to let them know and also make it aware that a copy of the letter will be sent to them,i have also been told to make a complaint to ofsted that way when they do a report on the school all files are read.

andyrules

Hi Kez
You need to see how the head reacts, as it is his/her responsibility to take action at this stage. I would let them know that this woman knows your family and has made accusations. This will make it clear that your son is not just perceiving that he is being singled out. He should not be picked on by any staff just because of his identity, it is as simple as that.

I'm a bit worried for you as this woman is a neighbour, and the situation sounds very unpredictable.

Make that appointment, and ask for it to be sooner rather than later.

I know it's easy for me to say but try to be calm and only stick to the facts. The head will be able to make a better assessment of the situation. You can take someone with you for support if you want.

Good luck

andyrules

Hi Kez
You need to see how the head reacts, as it is his/her responsibility to take action at this stage. I would let them know that this woman knows your family and has made accusations. This will make it clear that your son is not just perceiving that he is being singled out. He should not be picked on by any staff just because of his identity, it is as simple as that.

I'm a bit worried for you as this woman is a neighbour, and the situation sounds very unpredictable.

Make that appointment, and ask for it to be sooner rather than later.

I know it's easy for me to say but try to be calm and only stick to the facts. The head will be able to make a better assessment of the situation. You can take someone with you for support if you want.

Good luck

andyrules

Hmm, not sure if it's my browser, but strange things are happening on here today! If there's a techie about, can I delete duplicate post without losing original?

kez1234

hi andy all of the teachers and head and deputy head left, as so did all of the governors, there was a lot of trouble, there is now all new staff with the exception of a couple of teachers and dinner ladies, this woman has had numerous complaints before, and to my knowledge as i heard it the governors hushed everything up, most people took there children out of the school, the ofsted report was satifactory,

andyrules

Hi again
It does sound as if there has been great dissatisfaction with the way the school has been run for that amount of staff to leave. There will be an acting head if a new one hasn't yet been appointed, so you should still get to see someone in charge.

Schools justifiably do not want any trouble to be common knowledge among parents. However, if there is a history of complaints surrounding this dinner lady, then they do need to be proactive here. If 'playground' issues are being repeated by her outside school, then she is breaching confidentiality.

See whoever is acting head and then make a decision when you have an outcome. Even if there are many other difficulties with the school, that doesn't mean they cannot deal with your problem.

btw why did so many teachers leave?

kez1234

a new head and new teachers were all brought in for the new term start last year unfortunately she stayed!! and all new governors appointed so hopefully this time, they won't sweep anything under the carpet like before