Why is it....

jonty1970

If I could afford it, i'd have a better style of wedding, but would still only invite the people I care about, so it's not going to be that big a do whatever the budget (which is tiny compared to some).

If you've got it, why not.

I just think people see a big budget and think "why, just for one day" but each to their own.

If money was no object, I'd pay a wedding organiser to do it all and I wouldn't have to worry about a budget. Just turn up and everything is done for us.

ellay864

There was a similar thread a little while back and it does seem there's a lot of inverse snobbery around. Totally agree with you code...it's about getting value for money and not paying rip off prices if you can get the same thing at a better deal, it's not about having the cheapest possible wedding if you have the budget and want to splash out on your big day.
What bugs me are those threads where people have boasted about how little their wedding has cost when actually what they mean is that they've not much themselves but others have paid. No problem at all with the fact that some people are lucky enough to have very generous family to help out, as other posts on here have said they have, but it's still part of the overall budget for the wedding. Seems that some people choose to ignore that and want to win the best MSE prize for paying the least themselves!
I'm not particularly artistic or creative so have bought rather than made things, but I've bought from ebay to make up table decorations rather than hit expensive shops. OH wanted nice vintage style weddings cars but we found somewhere we could get them for just over £400 where other companies were charging £700-800. We decided to pay out for a coach to take our guests to and from zoo as it's 45-60 mins drive from the evening reception; we shopped around and have got that for around £300 not £500. We're having a sit down meal as guests will be out for a long day and we just think it's nice to do. None of that is right or wrong - it's just what we want, and we've shopped around and got good deals that were roughly in our budget. A few things crept a little over - others have come in under. But all in all we're getting the wedding we want and don't feel we've put ourselves in dire financial straits for it

zcrat41

adamg wrote: »

not sure if your familiar with 'father abraham' but if thats the first song will go down hill very quickly.

Didn't he have 7 sons? Or did he climb a sunshine mountain?

anibell

I think this is a great post On a personal note it doesn't matter to me what other people spend on their wedding - it's their day and they should be able to do what they want!
All I want to do is be married to my lovely husband to be and enjoy the day and life we're going to have and we want to share the day with our families and friends :j We're not able to keep numbers down for the sit down meal (which we both want) as I have about 55 people from my side alone (very large family and very close friends) and he only has 20. I've made very simple invites using card stock I already had, handwritten so each one is individual and have bought lovely paper from ebay for inserts. I bought my dress for £31, never worn and is beautiful and very me and a lovely friend has offered to make our wedding cake as her gift to us Our costs will be about £5,500 and over half of that will be wedding meal, drinks, evening reception food, decorations/flowers etc. We both want our wedding day to be fun, just like us and we are not into formalities at all. Luckily our families are the same :rotfl: I just wish I could be married already!!!

kal25

Jusr wanted to say what a good thread this is...it really shouldn't matter what people's budgets are as everyone is different and we should be able to celebrate our marriage as we please.
At the end of the day that is what it's all about....celebrating your marriage with the people you care about
Everyone has their own style it's what makes them fun to attend...how boring would it be if they were all the same?
My mum constantly reminds me we're on a budget and I think she thinks this means I can't have nice things. Get the feeling that what she's trying to say as she says I'm only having an 'evening do' where people will see decorations so apparently it doesn't matter about what they are....actually it does to me.
Looking at how much we spent ..I got it to £1,800 a little higher than we expected but then I ended up with a brand new dress instead of the cheap ebay one I thought I was going to get
I'm having things how I want and that's all that does and should matter tbh. Do not give in to others that think you should do things this way or that...after all it is your day to remember and you don't want to look back on it and say'I wish I'd not done that but done this instead'.......the day should be rememberable as being yours like no one elses regardless of budget

adamg

being on a budget for me is having what I want at a price I want to pay. Were using our tesco voucher to pay for honeymoon, hopefully at least if not ill sell them on ebay and use the money for it. The future mother in law is giving us all her tesco vouchers which we will use at goldsmiths to buy our rings and hopefully all bridesmaids presents etc as well. I make about £50 a month on ebay at moment and ill use that money to buy all invites and table decorations, the biggest cost will be venue and food.

LEJC

My philosophy on this is have the day YOU want on the budget YOU are comfortable with...everyones day is different and everyones priorities are also different....it doesnt mean any less of a wedding or marriage if you spend a small amount or if you spend a large amount

Many times ive read after the event on here people saying "it really was the best day of our lives"...and so it should be...whatever budget you choose and however you choose to spend it...

For some that might be taking a loan or calling in favours and as long as you are comfortable with that then thats what matters....

Guests in my opinion are invited by the wedding couple to share their happy day with them not to judge how they would have done things differently...

bubbles0169

adamg wrote: »

being on a budget for me is having what I want at a price I want to pay. Were using our tesco voucher to pay for honeymoon, hopefully at least if not ill sell them on ebay and use the money for it. The future mother in law is giving us all her tesco vouchers which we will use at goldsmiths to buy our rings and hopefully all bridesmaids presents etc as well. I make about £50 a month on ebay at moment and ill use that money to buy all invites and table decorations, the biggest cost will be venue and food.

how much would you get for them? have you looked at goldsmiths prices compared to other high st jewellers? if you can sell them on then id shop somewhere else for the rings as theyr very over priced

adamg

Ill probably use the vouchers regardless as they are a contribution from her family bit too much effort for me to sell them on ebay then have to get her to exchange them and forward them on, I will look at our voucher for the honeymoon though.

katini

I agree with everything that's been said.

I think the best thing about this forum is getting another view on everything and finding out the prices that people are actually paying for things. It makes us all much more informed before we part with our money, even if we do all have different budgets! As an example, a friend of mine paid over £600 for her cake; not because she wanted to or could afford it, but because it was what she thought they would all cost.

I love hearing everyone's experiences and about everyone's special days.