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Could my partner take my house from me if we were to split ?

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  • MJMum
    MJMum Posts: 580 Forumite
    Real-life example:

    Couple meet, buy house, have two kids.

    Few years down the line, their relationship disintegrates. Mum moves out, taking younger child with her. Moves in with boyfriend. Elder child stays with dad in the "marital" home. Dad works hard to keep mortgage payments going.

    Fast forward two years: Mum has split with boyfriend and is looking for housing. Tragically, elder child has died. Judge orders dad to move out of house and mum and younger child move in.

    No comment on above, just letting you know it can and does happen.
    Don't see the point anymore in offering advice to people who only want to be agreed with...
  • thesaint
    thesaint Posts: 4,324 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    The O.P. is not married. Completely different scenario.

    Putting 'no comment on the above' is silly, you are mis-leading people whom read your post.
    Well life is harsh, hug me don't reject me.
  • thesaint
    thesaint Posts: 4,324 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    In the case of 'what would a Judge think' to cause the least amount of disruption in a child's life?
    I assure you a judge will not order the one and only legal owner to a property to find another house. Let's pretend that the legal owner can not get another mortgage because he already owns a property? Maybe the Judge would confiscate it?
    Well life is harsh, hug me don't reject me.
  • In your situation I wouldnt buy a house. Your relationship sounds too volatile to be digging further in. Although painful, you should be discussing this with your oh - just get everything out in the open and then form a decision.
    MJMum wrote:
    EXCEPT - put a roof over its head!! :rolleyes:
    op wrote:
    I will always be there and support my child in every possible way.

    Stop grinding your axe, its boring.
  • iolanthe07
    iolanthe07 Posts: 5,493 Forumite
    Oh for the days when a couple courted, married, had children (in that order) and then stayed together for the rest of their lives. Our grandparents' generation managed it - why can't we?
    I used to think that good grammar is important, but now I know that good wine is importanter.
  • thesaint
    thesaint Posts: 4,324 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    iolanthe07 wrote:
    Oh for the days when a couple courted, married, had children (in that order) and then stayed together for the rest of their lives. Our grandparents' generation managed it - why can't we?


    You never met my Grandad:rotfl:
    Well life is harsh, hug me don't reject me.
  • MJMum
    MJMum Posts: 580 Forumite
    thesaint, I suggest you read more carefully. Where did I say the couple married?

    Edited to add: actually, don't bother replying.

    qwertyq, were you addressing me?
    Don't see the point anymore in offering advice to people who only want to be agreed with...
  • When a couple split, they both need somewhere to live - perhaps with new partners.

    I see nothing wrong with the parent with care receiving, from the absent parent, 50% of the difference betwen the money required to live with the child(ren) and that required to live without them.

    Why this should be £150 per month when the absent parent earns £1000 and £300 per month when he/she earns £2000 is incomprehensible.

    Top advice for any 'young ladies' out there is to have each child with a different dad. Three kids earning you 15% of each of three wages is almost twice as much as getting 25% from one wage.

    :)

    GG
    There are 10 types of people in this world. Those who understand binary and those that don't.
  • thesaint
    thesaint Posts: 4,324 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    MJMum wrote:
    thesaint, I suggest you read more carefully. Where did I say the couple married?

    Edited to add: actually, don't bother replying.

    qwertyq, were you addressing me?


    It was the usage of the word marital that gave it away.

    Originally posted by MJMum

    Few years down the line, their relationship disintegrates. Mum moves out, taking younger child with her. Moves in with boyfriend. Elder child stays with dad in the "marital" home. Dad works hard to keep mortgage payments going.
    Well life is harsh, hug me don't reject me.
  • MJMum
    MJMum Posts: 580 Forumite
    You missed the quote marks then.

    It was the OP that brought up common law "marriage".
    Don't see the point anymore in offering advice to people who only want to be agreed with...
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