school playtime problem

mumofkevinandperry

Hi, Sorry if I have posted in the wrong place.

DD has just returned from school to say that she didn't get 2 of her playtimes today. The first was due to the boys in her class (23 boys 10 girls eek, I know!) misbehaving, so the whole class was kept in (regular occurrence). The next playtime she was kept in because she didn't put capital letters and full stops in her work and she had to re-write it.

Am I being a bit over the top, do you think I should go and speak to the head teacher about this, or should I leave it as this is the way that schools deals with things? BTW it was the head teacher who was covering the lesson where she had to re-write her work.

If I did go and see the head teacher how should I tackle it?

moomoomama27

I would leave it.

This is something that happens as a consequence to bad beahviour, either as a class, or on their own at my childrens school. The loss of playtime is one of the only privaledges that can be taken away from them.

I would also get the full story with re: to the second instance. She could well have chatted back when told to use capitals, there could be more to the story. Maybe it's something they were told to do, and she wasn't listening, before you go all guns blazing probably best to assertain exactly what happened.

Elle7

What are you upset about?

These are all common and encouraged methods to help encourage the class to concentrate and behave correctly. It's positive reinforcement - they are rewarded with a break for being good. As long as your daughter got to use the toilet, have a drink and eat today, I don't think it will have done her much harm. It'll probably make sure she remembers to put punctuation in!

As for keeping the whole class in, I'd hedge a bet that it was the whole class who were misbehaving, as punishing everyone for a certain groups mistakes does not seem fair.

Caroline73_2

Teachers discipline at school, you discipline at home. Leave it at that.

balletshoes

I don't see the problem to be honest, there were reasons for both times your daughter didn't get her break. If she continues to get kept in a breaktime over her work and how she's doing it, I'd want to talk to her teacher then (to see if there may be something she needs extra support with, and certainly no guns would be blazing) - but not yet, over one occasion.

halibut2209

No issue with the misbehaving thing. Kids need to learn that your actions affect other people as well.

As for punishment for getting a piece of work wrong? I would certainly seek clarification on that. I would hope that there is more to it. But punishing someone for getting things wrong is not on.

bestpud

Some children will just daydream their way through a lesson if there is no sanction for not trying hard enough.

Let it go as it's not done her any harm and I believe it's more helpful in the long run to support the school in front of your child.

moomoomama27

bestpud wrote: »

Let it go as it's not done her any harm and I believe it's more helpful in the long run to support the school in front of your child.

Totally agree.

I think for the most part, it's best to be 'on the same page' with the school, ptherwise it can be a bit like a child playing parents off against each other.

Unless it's something that's detrimental, or can be classed as bullying, then I tend to trust the teachers!

All three of mine are good and honest, but I would always want clarification on any problem they came to me with with regards to teachers saying this, or punishments, because they have wonderful imaginations sometimes!

The amounts of times I've seen teachers being bombarded by angry parebnts over something a child has said is astounding! Most of the time, the child has spun the story a little, leaving out vital information!

geekgirl

I will probably get shot down here but I don't agree that children get rewarded with a break. Their breaks are there as they cannot be expected to concentrate for long periods of time and they need time to have a wee and a drink and let off a bit of steam before knuckling down again.

Also I never agreed with teachers keeping a whole class in for misbehaving when my kids were in school. They should deal with the children that are misbehaving, this is very rarely a whole classroom of kids. If children are misbehaving in a class they should take responsibility for their actions and be punished accordingly.

halibut2209

geekgirl wrote: »

I don't agree that children get rewarded with a break.

Maybe not the kids, but the teachers certainly see it as a reward!

I'm not saying "bombard" the teacher, or not support them. But a quiet word to ascertain the truth might be in order.

My kids school says "We don't believe everything your children say about you, and we'd appreciate the same in return"

victory

Today my son was 15 mins late with no warning because the teacher was trying to discipline some naughty kids and would not let them all leave until the kids had behaved themselves, fair enough, it is just like that, best to leave it to the school, they know what to do