Funeral flowers card message - Dad

JennyW_2

Gillby1 wrote:

My father sadly passed away a few days ago, and his funeral in on Monday. I'm organising some flowers from myself and my sister, and i simply can't think what to write on the message card. Does anyone have any ideas? I'm still in a daze, and completely lacking in concentration.

Any thoughts welcome.

Thanks

Gills

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I too have lost my father. I think writing your card is a personal thing and sometimes there is so much you want to say, writing a few words just isn't enough. I know I wrote my card out about 6 times before I got it right. Not sure if it would help you but I wrote my dad a lovely long letter along with a photograph of me and him and slipped it into is jacket pocket whilst visiting him at the chapel of rest. It was hard to do but the best way I could tell him how I really felt about him and loved him - because I never got the chance due to the unexpectedness of his death.

My thoughts are with you x

Quackers

JennyW wrote:

Not sure if it would help you but I wrote my dad a lovely long letter along with a photograph of me and him and slipped it into is jacket pocket whilst visiting him at the chapel of rest. quote]

When my Nan died a couple of years ago my girls both drew her a picture and wrote a short message & we put them in her coffin with her. I popped in my favourite teddy to keep her company ( ) we also put in her faithful red lipstick as she would never go anywhere without it.

It gave us all something to smile about and it was a good way for my children to understand and put their goodbyes on paper.

play2day

Sending love to you and hoping your pain eases soon....

My Dad died last year. It was very sudden. I could not think of a suitable message for his flowers either and simply signed them 'with love always' it summed up how I felt then and now....

Organising a funeral takes so much effort and concentration. Sometimes we forget to allow ourselves grieve. Be prepared to feel worse after the funeral.

My children said thier goodbyes to Grandad by writing a message on a helium balloon and releasing it in his garden. They didn't cry at the funeral, nor did I, but our silent private gathering in his garden was awash with tears. As they watched the balloon fly away it seemed that they were able to let go and aknowledge thier pain and loss. I tell you this because sometimes we feel that we must conform to societies expectations even at times of loss. Don't feel guilty if you are too shocked and numb to grieve now....

mariejader

I also would like to offer my conolences

I to lost my dad two years ago so I know how difficult it is right now for you, my son at the time 10 decided to write my dad a letter which he sealed and then took to the under takers with a paper model plane that my dad used to buy for him when he was younger and placed them both in the coffin with my dad so he could take them with him (now I am crying). his thoughts were private and we respected that,

Maybe you could do the same and just put a note on the card how much you will miss him and you love him, cards are nice but remember everyone at the funeral will prob read them after so if you have something very private to say this may be the best way.

I wish you the best and my thoughts are with you at this sad time

Jay-Jay_4

I'm really sorry to hear about your Dad.

Don't worry too much about what to write on the card, if you believe that your Dad would know what was on that card then you ought to believe that he already knows what you're thinking and feeling right now. You no doubt love him and miss him and those are real feelings, not pen on paper.

I'm sure whatever you write will be perfect, even if it's just 'We miss you Dad'.

xxx

victory

I am very sorry to hear of your loss....

I wrote on my dad's card... you will never be forgotten, thank you for being my dad and making me smile, now you have gone to heaven I will see you another day xxxx

cazziebo

so sorry to hear of your loss, Gillby.

My dad used to always shout at us "Gi'e us peace!" and then when he was ill and we would nag him about taking medicines etc he used that old phrase again.

We just had the one bunch of flowers (his last wishes were just to be put in the wheelie bin* - didn't want any fuss!) but we wrote "Peace at last, dad" and that meant something to us all. A few wry smiles as we saw people reading the card because everyone had heard him say it.

Thinking of you over the next few days, and thinking of the rest of you who have suffered a much loved loss.

Caz

*PS we did have a proper funeral, honest! With a proper coffin!

Angel777

Hi Gillby1, just wanted to say so sorry for your loss.

i am sure you will find something appropriate to write and definately dont worry about what others think.

It is impossible to keep everyone happy just speak from your heart and you wont go wrong.